Weekly Rambling Chat Feb 7-14 - Page 3

[Gimme Pineapple]

My nipples hurt. They are tired.


Just thought I'd share.

[ithappened]

lalemma and Gimme Pineapple- I have breakdowns every week or so about how having a baby has ruined my career or life or relationship or self idenity or fill in the blank and then the next day or sometimes next hour, I am fine. . .

I agree- its hormones and a MAJOR life change, and on top of all that not getting normal amounts of anything- my diet is messed up, my sleep schedule is messed up and we have a total new normal. breakdowns should be expected


ETA: Is anyone else starving constantly? I want to try to lose the PP weight but it feels impossible. . . I am as hungry now as I was during pregnancy and my cravings for all things cheese/chocolate/cereal are 100x worse.

[bethanyclaire]

Originally Posted by lalemma

My husband is super-interested in learning to do EC: can anyone recommend a really basic primer? I find it kind of daunting: I've tried to pay attention, but I definitely don't recognize his cues for peeing. (And he only poops once every 5 days.)

When I first got started EC'ing I liked http://www.diaperfreebaby.org. The forum here is very helpful, too! I do a combination of EC'ing and cloth diapering. DD, who was a late spring baby, was EC'd almost exclusively. The warm weather made it so easy! She LOVED it and was 100% dry overnight, every night, by 1 month old! She staged a bit of a revolt around 12 months, which is pretty normal, but was using the potty only and totally out of diapers before she was 2.

I started with Ciaran about 2 or 3 weeks ago and he is doing well. The little potty gets cold though so we're struggling a bit! I can just potty him without it (I hold him over the sink or tub) but we're still finding our groove. He seems to enjoy it, though. I miss EC'ing outdoors... I think Sage peed everywhere up and down the east coast at least once!

One of the biggest things I do that helps with EC'ing is to spend ALL of our time at home in fitted diapers without covers. That really helped me get their schedules and cues down without missing any opportunities. Don't worry about accidents at first, it will take a while but once you get the hang of it it is really cool!

[evinmom]

Originally Posted by ears73

Liz & Finn (8 weeks today!)

Just came back from his dr. visit - he is 12.9 lbs, yay! I wasn't sure how much he was eating since his latch was never really good and still seems to slip off the nipple sometimes, but his weight gain is good so I am feeling better.

My thoughts are all over the place. Husband is trying to find a better job and is on his iphone or the computer all hours of the day - no joke. He is exasperating me. Why do men sexualize breasts so much? Can't I revel in motherhood for a little while without some lewd boob comment? Does he really think that will turn me on? How about doing the dishes... Or changing the sheets. Going to the market? Anything??? Lots of you have been talking about dtd and it would be fun I am sure, but with my husband?? Not interested. and I am in a funk because of it. Bummer.

I really need to get an exercise routine on the calendar. I think I would feel better about myself and the world afterwards... Other than that, things are rolling along!

WTG Finn! Tell DH how sexy it is for guys to do chores and run errands. I totally find it sexy. LOL

My husband is super-interested in learning to do EC: can anyone recommend a really basic primer? I find it kind of daunting: I've tried to pay attention, but I definitely don't recognize his cues for peeing. (And he only poops once every 5 days.)

I really liked the book, "Diaper Free! The Gentle Wisdom of Natural Hygiene" by Ingrid Bauer. http://www.amazon.com/Diaper-Gentle-.../dp/0968751903 One good thing to keep in mind is that EC doesn't have to be all or nothing. A friend of mine only put her baby on the potty 2-3 times a day (on mom's schedule) and her baby still was out of diapers by 20 months. When I first started ECing DD I used to stress a lot about missing. Things were much easier once I learned to relax and not worry about misses. It was too hard to catch all of DD's pees anyway since her allergies caused her to pee ALL the time. DD never had a poopy diaper after her first 2 weeks. That alone was worth it. Not having to washing poop diapers. She was completely out of diapers day and night by 21 months. We are also taking a relaxed approach with ECing Everett. I catch most of his poops now (his poop signs are harder to read) and 50% of pees. I have 2 other kids and homeschool so I am definitely not expecting myself to be ECing 100% of the time.

The little potty gets cold though so we're struggling a bit! I can just potty him without it

You can put a fleece cover over it. They sell them at the EC Store or you can make your own easily. Just get some fleece, sew a tube that fits around the potty, then sew in elastic at the top and bottom of the tube.

[ears73]

I am about to try ECing as well - got Daiper Free Baby from the library last week and have subscribed to the boards here... I hope it goes well!

[Gimme Pineapple]

I just got peed on while reading these EC posts...Not sure how that happened, but he leaked right out of his diaper, all over my shirt...

I am afraid I bought cloth diapers that I will never use...he had a rash from hell and I had to use cream so we were in disposables. Now he's leaking all over the damn place.

[bethanyclaire]

Originally Posted by evinmom

You can put a fleece cover over it. They sell them at the EC Store or you can make your own easily. Just get some fleece, sew a tube that fits around the potty, then sew in elastic at the top and bottom of the tube.

Why didn't I think of that? Must be a my sleep deprived haze (which isn't too bad, actually... lol). Now I have a project to do tomorrow! Thanks for the great idea!

[nina_yyc]

Name: Nina & Elliot

Baby's age: 9 weeks

Milestones/Updates: Elliot rolls tummy to back, smiles, starting to make more little cute vowel-y sounds

Thoughts: Weekend was great! I went to a show with a friend and Elliot did fine with DH. This week has gone straight downhill though - DH has worked 10-12 hours every day this week and DD has been a hellion. But I lost another pound. 17 to go

I'm finding my SAHM routine. I have us occupied most days of the week - skating, library, playgroup, grocery shopping, baking. I love hanging out with my kids but I hate the feeling of constantly trying to fill time.

[doclegs]

Originally Posted by Gimme Pineapple

I am a big crier anyways- whoever said crying doesn't solve anything LIED!! I always feel so much better after I just have a good cry- big emotional release. So. Be encouraged. You are not alone.

Yes and YES! Thank you. I'm a crier anyway too... and I don't think LO minds (unless I get her poor little head all wet).

Motherhood is a lot harder than I thought it would be.

[fazer6]

lalemma I never gave my other half anythign to read on EC. I don't know if he'd've responded well to just reading. I read tribalbaby and followed a few links on the resource page. Then well I just had a go. When I changed his nappy I'd offer the potty (which really reduces the number of times I'm peed on and he pees on his own head). Leo sort of squiggles and is a tiny bit fussy when he needs the loo. So I offer when he's wiggling a bit or just after a feed. My OH saw me get a few catches and then just joined in after a few days. I think you just have to jump in and keep offering the potty. We use CDs so perhaps that's a bit easier as he's more aware of going to the loo. Generally most nappys are only a bit of pee or poo that he couldn't hold in if we don't get him to the potty quick enough. The main thing is hold for long enough, at the start I'd hold him a little, then he'd pee back on the changing mat.

We use cloth in the day and catch as much as we can. Often dry for a few hours before we get a little pee. We've had a 4/5 hour dry patch though which was nice. At night and out we'll use disposables. So we're part time everything.

IH Yeah I've the munchies too, I think basically when you're breastfeeding your body wants to have some fat stored up. It helps losing pp weight, but there's a point our bodies won't let us go past so we've got reserves. I'm carrying about 7lb up from my first pre Isabel weight (my true pre baby weight and the weight I always used to be) and about 3lb up from my pre Leo weight. I fit all my normal winter clothes and don't have full length mirrors so I'm not that bothered.

[nina_yyc]

Originally Posted by doclegs

Motherhood is a lot harder than I thought it would be.

Me too.