I haven't read through all the replies, so maybe someone already addressed this one, but just in case no one has, here goes!
|Would you rather people asked privacy-invasive non-small-talk kinds of questions?
THEY DO!!!!! With twins, it is open-season on personal questions! Strangers ask if you used fertility drugs, if this was planned (like someone can PLAN to have multiples?), how long you were pregnant, how much weight you gained, if they were born vaginally or by cesarean, did you/are you breastfeeding, etc!
I have NEVER been asked the kind of personal questions when walking around with a newborn singleton as those I've gotten when I had infant twins. What makes people think it's appropriate to ask such questions, I do not know, but it's incredibly rude, imo.
To answer the question of the OP, yes, I get bothered by some of the stupid comments. I don't mind hearing, 'How old are your babies/kids/twins?" but hearing "Are they twins?" is irritating. I also get irritated by the "I have kids who are 16 months apart so it's just LIKE having twins!" I ALWAYS respond to that one with, "Well, my 2 oldest kids are 10.5 months apart and I can tell you for a fact that it is NOT just like having twins." :LOL
I don't think it's mean-spirited to get tired of the incessant comments. Anyone who thinks it IS has never spent an hour in Wal*Mart, trying to pick up 3 things for dinner but being stopped repeatedly by "well meaning" people who want to ask questions/make comments. Sure, I like to have people compliment me on my kids, but usually what I hear is "Boy, you've got your hands full!" because I go out with SIX children (
) and those types of comments don't do anything to boost my spirits.
I don't think anyone who hasn't had twins can relate to this phenomenon. I know that, had I not had my twins, I couldn't. I'd been through the "people commenting on my baby" thing 3 times before my twins were born and WOW, was it different once I was hauling those two around! So.....to the person who thinks it's rude to not be thrilled with the comments from the peanut gallery when we're out with our kids, you just don't understand. Sorry, but you really don't.