My 27 month old son nurses once, sometimes twice in a 24 hr period. My partner and I have decided that I should wean him in order to increase our chances of conceiving. (Well, my partner is less enthusiastic about the idea of weaning him. She'd like him to nurse until he's 3-4, but is willing to support this plan under the circumstances).
In an ideal world, I would nurse him as long as I could, but here are the facts of the matter: I have tried to conceive three times using fresh sperm from a KD (the same donor who gave us our son.) Despite having night weaned, my cycles continue to be very irregular. I am charting every possible fertility sign (CM, basal temps, saliva ferning, LH testing, cervical observation, AND use of an OvaCue fertility monitor!) I'm following much of the fertility enhancement advice of "The Essential Guide...". Yet each of these recent inseminations has felt like a shot in the dark, a best guess more than anything. The signs just are not strong and synchronized yet like they used to be. Our donor and his wife have been SOO supportive and understanding, but they won't want to try forever, especially since he already donated many, many times in an attempt to help my partner conceive. (Incidentally, I conceived on the first try after my partner stopped trying, so We're pretty sure it's not a sperm issue) I am 38 years old, and we want to do everything possible to up our odds of conceiving soon. Hence the weaning of our toddler.
So, here's a question: Does anyone have advice for weaning? I'm taking a trip to visit my mom for the weekend by myself at the beginning of March, and I thought that would be the best time to do this. Should I talk to him about it now, or just before I leave? Should we give him some kind of consolation prize like a present or something? I'm not fond of the whole "you're a big boy now" approach, because he's not. He's still a little boy, and ideally he'd still be nursing. I've thought about telling him that it's because we want to give him a little brother or sister, because he LOVES babies, and that we have to save the milk for another baby. But then what if we never do conceive? Sigh.
Any advice on any of this would be much appreciated.
In an ideal world, I would nurse him as long as I could, but here are the facts of the matter: I have tried to conceive three times using fresh sperm from a KD (the same donor who gave us our son.) Despite having night weaned, my cycles continue to be very irregular. I am charting every possible fertility sign (CM, basal temps, saliva ferning, LH testing, cervical observation, AND use of an OvaCue fertility monitor!) I'm following much of the fertility enhancement advice of "The Essential Guide...". Yet each of these recent inseminations has felt like a shot in the dark, a best guess more than anything. The signs just are not strong and synchronized yet like they used to be. Our donor and his wife have been SOO supportive and understanding, but they won't want to try forever, especially since he already donated many, many times in an attempt to help my partner conceive. (Incidentally, I conceived on the first try after my partner stopped trying, so We're pretty sure it's not a sperm issue) I am 38 years old, and we want to do everything possible to up our odds of conceiving soon. Hence the weaning of our toddler.
So, here's a question: Does anyone have advice for weaning? I'm taking a trip to visit my mom for the weekend by myself at the beginning of March, and I thought that would be the best time to do this. Should I talk to him about it now, or just before I leave? Should we give him some kind of consolation prize like a present or something? I'm not fond of the whole "you're a big boy now" approach, because he's not. He's still a little boy, and ideally he'd still be nursing. I've thought about telling him that it's because we want to give him a little brother or sister, because he LOVES babies, and that we have to save the milk for another baby. But then what if we never do conceive? Sigh.
Any advice on any of this would be much appreciated.
