Can I have both in bed (toddler/ newborn)

[karla413]

I'm 6 months pregnant and we are not ready to move my sweet , attached 2 yr old out of bed with mommy.

Safety wise, I feel we are okay with toddler in sidecar crib (if I take the time to move her over), newborn in cosleeper, happy daddy downstairs since he can't get any sleep right now with my pregnancy insomnia/ tossing and need for a gazillion pillows. We also prob need to get a king bed, but it's expensive and will take up the whole room!!!

Am I crazy to think I can have them both with me without depleting myself of all energy?

I just want to hear that it can work- without changing my relationship wtih toddler. She is still really needing mommy time, since I've had to work more this pregnancy to save up for time off.....

[taymakcoop]

We did for at least a year with our boys. I couldn't bear to change my relationship with my older son. I know how you feel. It was--- little new one, me, bigger one, DH. It can be done.

[Sheryl1678]

I sleep in a queen with a 14 mo old and an almost 5 yo. The older daughter slept with us for a few months after my youngest was born and then 'graduated' to her own room where she developed all sorts of fears and sleep issues and now she is back with us full time.

We don't have a DH but also no sidecars or cosleepers so it is a tight squeeze but it is considerably better than the alternative. We are all happy, snuggled and secure.

[nolonger]

I turned the bed sideways for more width and less length. It worked for us: no sidecars or cribs, the toddler on one side of me, baby on the other, and (now ex) dh on the other side of the toddler.

We coslept until the older child was ready to move to the top bunk of a full on the bottom/twin on the top bed--exy was gone by then.

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[Peony]

I made it work with our then 6y old when this last baby was born, but not with the then 2y. That one woke up with every single little noise the baby made and then in turn would wake the baby up again. So we spilt off into different rooms with DH taking DD2. DD1 is enjoying sleeping her with brother though. I guess it just depends on if the child is a light or heavy sleeper.

[beckyand3littlemonsters]

i've never actually co-slept with a newborn and toddler but my dd caitlin used to come and sleep with me and caden when he was quite small and we sleep in a single bed so there was 3 of us in just a single bed.

[onyxravnos]

yes you can we have ALL three in bed with us. newborn on one side and the toddler and 6yr old on the other dad on the outside.

some adjusting beacuse of my 3yd old still BFing to sleep but both boys get some cuddling.

[Katie T]

We did/do it, DS was 21 months when dd was born and no where near ready to not be with mommy (and neither was I ready to be away from him). So we had newborn on the outside with a gaurd rail and ds inbetween dh and I. Granted we cant roll over lol but 19 months later we are still sleeping like this so it is working, although as the kids get bigger space is getting even more crowded so dh will bunk with dd1 at times but it works for us.

[Drummer's Wife]

I did it (in a full, nonetheless) and it worked out well. Tiresome, b/c I was tandem nursing both throughout the night - but honestly, now that they are almost 3 and 5, it was worth it. Time goes so fast; I miss nursing them both, even multiple times per night.

[Alohamelly]

It can work. When I was pregnant with my baby, we bought a cheap crib off Craigslist and sidecarred it to our bed. I moved our co-sleeping toddler over to it and he did okay in it. He usually rolls onto our bed in the middle of the night, but we're all sleeping in the same bed and it's fine. Well, it's more fine for them than it is for me, because they're always squished up against me and I feel like I can't move!

[everything to one]

we have our master bed in one room and in the kids room across the hall we have a queen mattress on the floor with a twin beside it on the floor so its one HUGE bed (on the floor). our oldest child is 2 and i started nursing her to sleep in her own bed around 18 months and leaving her there to sleep sometimes (always coming to her right away if she woke up or cried) or sleeping with her sometimes if i passed out while nursing. now we have a newborn and he sleeps with me in the master bed and my DH sleeps with our toddler temporarily. mainly b/c i'm up in the night with the baby for hours at a time and he doesn't want to wake up since he's been getting up early with our toddler letting me sleep in. but we PLAN (who knows if it will work this way) to have the kids sleep together in the other room once the baby is old enough (what age?). but we will leave the bed big enough to accommodate all of us at once which i'm sure we'll do from time to time. even now, my DH and i will read books and put our DD (toddleR) to sleep together in her bed and if the baby is awake he joins us, so it is nice to have a huge comfy bed with room to spare. we have a co=sleeper but the babies never sleep well in it and its more work for me to get them out of it in the night to nurse and harder to check on them in the night. also harder to regulate their temperature which is not an issue when they are beside me in bed. the co-sleeper is beside our master bed and is great for holding diapers and everything i might want or need in the night! lol. it also provides a barrier on one side.

[megviolet]

We are going to do it. DD (almost 3, recently weaned ) is in a toddler bed between my side of the bed and the wall, so she can't roll out anywhere and i'm still at arm's reach. Newborn will sleep in the middle or by DD, depending on which side is being nursed on. DH on his side of the bed. We have a king sized bed. It was pretty much our only purchase for when DD was born, i think we paid $400 used without a bedframe, and i love it.

MY only concern is disrupting DD's sleep a lot for baby's night waking, diaper changes, etc.... but we'll cross that bridge when we come to it.

[lexmas]

We did/do it as well. No problems here. We have a queen, but sleep in it the wrong way (we're short, and don't really mind our legs hanging off the end) so there's plenty of room for all of us).

Oh, and DS and DD always just sleep right through any noises the other one wakes. Not a problem in the slightest.