Bible Familiar Mamas: I need help with something - Page 2

[csekywithlove]

Oh momma, I am sorry you are going through this. But really don't play the Bible game with them, it is not worth it. They are obviously not even living by the book themselves. What about DH's family? Do you have adequate support from them? If so, embrace that and run with it.

I don't really see the benefit of keeping in contact with them. This is YOUR child, not theirs. And I hope I am not going to far here but.... when your child is older do you really want them around this kind of behavior? You have already cut ties once. And if you have adequate support, then it is their loss. Do what is best for you. But don't let them break apart your family unit just so they are comfortable in theirs.
Good luck and keep us updated.

[Lilacmoon]

I have been in a very similar situation and it is extremely difficult. My 2 cents......

As a pp pointed out, this can put a major strain on your relationship with your husband and has the potential to put a wedge between you. Please be sure that you both communicate honestly and openly about your feelings and that your relationship stays on solid ground.
Engaging in the battle of Bible verses is useless... If it were an honest discussion and reflection on the intrepretation of the book or the instruction of God that would be different... but this sounds very childish and more like playground tactics than a family concerned for your well being.
When those in my life began with the.. we need to talk, yada yada yada, My mantra became... " Thank you, I appreciate your concern. I know it was meant in love.. I will pray about it and let God show me the way."
Call your Mother, talk about the baby... tell her stories, share photos and if she begins to harp about your husband/marriage/why you haven't seen the light etc... don't engage... pull the old" someones at the door" or "Oh the baby is crying, gotta go.. love you and talk with you soon" and hang up. I have done this numerous times.. they soon learn that if they want to talk with you.. they can't head down that road. I always call my mother once a week no matter what.. she can never say that I have cut her off and I do love her and am concerned about her and my grandfather...

Blessings to you and your family

[Sweetiemommy]

This is a great post, I agree with everything here.

Originally Posted by Shami

Regarding the 'live the whole book' comment:
In one of Paul's epistles, he says to live Christ. He also says, for to me to live is Christ. And another, Christ lives in you. Christ in you the hope of glory.

You cannot change your parents, but Christ can. Go to the Lord every time you feel bothered by them and pray. Pray for mercy that God's will be done in your relationship. I don't know if God wants to restore your relationship or cut it off, but He knows. If He wants to restore it, He can do it. He is the only one who can do this. You cannot work this out. What is impossible with man is possible with God. So feel the freedom of taking your hands off and letting go. Say amen to the Lord's arrangement in your life and you will feel free of it.

Your responsibility is to follow the Lord and your husband. You are one with your husband and he is your head now. The Lord can really bless your marriage if you are really one on every matter.

Sorry I didn't put the verse ref. because it is late and I didn't feel like getting up to find my Bible. I can find them later if you want me to.

Pray with your husband and ask the Lord to lead you in how much time to spend with them. One of the previous posters gave some very good advice about meeting in neutral places and setting some boundaries. Include the Lord in what ever you do. The Lord lives in you and you have His presence at all times, just tap into to it by calling on His precious Name, Lord Jesus.

Even while you are with your parents, you can be inwardly calling on the Lord Jesus. Ask Him to fill you with His Spirit. You may have a very sweet experience of the Lord this way. Outwardly things may be hostile, but inwardly you will have peace and rest. Paul went through imprisonments and beatings, but if you read Philippians he says rejoice in the Lord always and again i say rejoice.

The civil ceremony takes care of the law of the land. So you are def. married, if that was even a question. The marriage ceremony done amongst the believers is just for the sake of the testimony that you are married and takes care of the people so they know you are married and not just living together. No where in the Bible does it say that you have to be married by a pastor to make it a done deal. In the New Testament in one or more of the gospels, not sure, there is a wedding. There the Lord turned the water into wine. This is the only wedding. In Ephesians and in Revelation, Christ gets His bride, the church. Hallelujah! This is the real wedding!