I'll try to sum this up short and sweet, because I tend to get unwieldy in my posts.
Where I live, there are pretty much two 'circles' of lesbians. The younger, partiers who hit the bar lots, are very active physically, etc. This is who I've been hanging around with, as my girlfriend is a couple years younger than me, and I met all these people through her.
The other crowd is older (my age and up - I'm 28) have kids, are also very active physically, tend towards professionals, go camping, house parties, etc.
Lots of our younger friends are leaving town and moving down south. We do live in a larger city, but it's up north and sadly lacking in art, culture, etc. At this time, I can't leave because my ex has visitation with our two kids. So - I'm stuck here, and trying to make the best of it.
My question/ponder is this - I'd like to start hanging around a bit with this other crowd. I think it'd be lots of fun, good for my kids (who need exposure to other families like ours) and good for my gf and myself to have a larger social circle.
How exactly does one go about doing this?
One of the girls in this group is someone I went to highschool with, so I facebooked her and said you know, we'd like to hang out with them, if there were any events, etc coming up. She said absolutely, thought it was a fantastic idea (this was just a couple of days ago) and asked what we were doing this weekend.
Well, I messaged her right back, said we were free, and I haven't heard back from her. I think I'm feeling nervous because this is really our only chance at having this kind of community, and I really don't want to screw it up. This group looks like they have SO much fun, and I'd really like to join in.
Advice? Thoughts? Should I message her again, or just wait?
Where I live, there are pretty much two 'circles' of lesbians. The younger, partiers who hit the bar lots, are very active physically, etc. This is who I've been hanging around with, as my girlfriend is a couple years younger than me, and I met all these people through her.
The other crowd is older (my age and up - I'm 28) have kids, are also very active physically, tend towards professionals, go camping, house parties, etc.
Lots of our younger friends are leaving town and moving down south. We do live in a larger city, but it's up north and sadly lacking in art, culture, etc. At this time, I can't leave because my ex has visitation with our two kids. So - I'm stuck here, and trying to make the best of it.
My question/ponder is this - I'd like to start hanging around a bit with this other crowd. I think it'd be lots of fun, good for my kids (who need exposure to other families like ours) and good for my gf and myself to have a larger social circle.
How exactly does one go about doing this?
One of the girls in this group is someone I went to highschool with, so I facebooked her and said you know, we'd like to hang out with them, if there were any events, etc coming up. She said absolutely, thought it was a fantastic idea (this was just a couple of days ago) and asked what we were doing this weekend.Well, I messaged her right back, said we were free, and I haven't heard back from her. I think I'm feeling nervous because this is really our only chance at having this kind of community, and I really don't want to screw it up. This group looks like they have SO much fun, and I'd really like to join in.
Advice? Thoughts? Should I message her again, or just wait?
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