So, I can't believe I am posting this lol.
My SO is so much less AP than me it's not even funny. Yet *I* am the one pushing for a pack n play and he insists the baby can just sleep with us. I am all for cosleeping and coslept with ds full time until about 15 months (and he still comes into bed with us sometimes).
But, I am worried about safety. There are several things I'm worried about.
1) SO is a smoker. He does not smoke around us and always goes outside to do it, but I still feel that he is increasing our dd's risk of SIDS by being a smoker and then sleeping next to her. He says he will change his shirt and brush his teeth if he's been smoking, before holding her.
2) We have a rambunctious 2 year old. Need I say more?
I certainly don't think he would hurt his sister on purpose, but what about if I have to put her down to take a shower or if she's taking a nap? It makes me nervous, the idea of her just being on the bed vulnerable to whatever crazy ideas he concocts that may involve her.
3) We don't have our own home. We have two rooms that we rent in a house, therefore, sex is limited to our bedroom/bathroom. We only have a full size bed. If dd is ALWAYS in our bed, how are we ever supposed to have sex?
My thought was to buy a pack n play and keep it set up next to the bed for naps and if we ever needed a little more "space" to ourselves. We are definitely not getting a crib or bassinet or anything. But my SO keeps saying we don't need a pack n play. We are planning to nightwean dd at a year, hopefully, and put her in the room with her brother, so we will never need a crib because at that point she will go in a regular bed just like ds did. I figure they will probably sleep together for a couple years anyway. But wouldn't a pack n play be useful? Or should I just be grateful that he is so fully on board with cosleeping?
My SO is so much less AP than me it's not even funny. Yet *I* am the one pushing for a pack n play and he insists the baby can just sleep with us. I am all for cosleeping and coslept with ds full time until about 15 months (and he still comes into bed with us sometimes).
But, I am worried about safety. There are several things I'm worried about.
1) SO is a smoker. He does not smoke around us and always goes outside to do it, but I still feel that he is increasing our dd's risk of SIDS by being a smoker and then sleeping next to her. He says he will change his shirt and brush his teeth if he's been smoking, before holding her.
2) We have a rambunctious 2 year old. Need I say more?
I certainly don't think he would hurt his sister on purpose, but what about if I have to put her down to take a shower or if she's taking a nap? It makes me nervous, the idea of her just being on the bed vulnerable to whatever crazy ideas he concocts that may involve her.3) We don't have our own home. We have two rooms that we rent in a house, therefore, sex is limited to our bedroom/bathroom. We only have a full size bed. If dd is ALWAYS in our bed, how are we ever supposed to have sex?
My thought was to buy a pack n play and keep it set up next to the bed for naps and if we ever needed a little more "space" to ourselves. We are definitely not getting a crib or bassinet or anything. But my SO keeps saying we don't need a pack n play. We are planning to nightwean dd at a year, hopefully, and put her in the room with her brother, so we will never need a crib because at that point she will go in a regular bed just like ds did. I figure they will probably sleep together for a couple years anyway. But wouldn't a pack n play be useful? Or should I just be grateful that he is so fully on board with cosleeping?
. So it wouldn't be all four of us in bed all night (we only have a full size bed) but my concern is if I do put dd down to go do something (take a shower, check on hot food on the stove etc) I don't want ds to be able to just go and pick her up, or start jumping on the bed and send her flying or something.
