4 yr old "I don't want boobs!"

[Autumn Breeze]

She's been at it for a while. I've told her that, they just are part of life in 4 yo terms....

I've pretty much resorted to saying "I'm sorry, you feel that way, but I love mine because they gave you milk and made you strong."

I guess that's about all I can do, right?

[GoBecGo]

I would say "that's lucky because you don't have any" and left it at that. She has about 6 years before she has to actually deal with it, and i'm sure by then her 4-year-old view of it all will have changed.

My DD is the opposite, "mama, why do i have small boobs instead of big giant floppy ones" (implication - like mama's! ). I told her when you are 3 you like to run around so boobs would be annoying, but when you are a big lady you will need to feed your babies, and that's good because you'll get boobs when you grow up.

[Autumn Breeze]

that's funny!

[Llyra]

My DD1 (5 1/2) feels that way about pubic hair. She asked me recently about it-- finally noticed, I guess, that I have it and she doesn't. So I told her that when she got bigger, it would begin to grow, and she was horrified and told me that SHE wasn't going to, and that was just that.

I just shrugged, and said, okay, that's fine, whatever you want is fine with me. She's always trying to tangle me into arguments I can't win, and I wasn't about to get drawn in over something so patently absurd. And it's going to be years and years before this is an issue anyway, so there's plenty of time for her to come around to realizing she can't stop it from happening.

I wouldn't worry about it. If she was ten or eleven and they were growing, and she was really ambivalent or worried about it, that would be something different. But at this age? No, I wouldn't even worry about trying to persuade her to change her attitude.

[One_Girl]

I think you should just not engage in that conversation. When my dd was four she didn't want to get any older. It was something that was going to happen, but she had a fit and become more resistant to the idea of getting older if I pointed this out, so I stopped engaging her in the conversation. When she actually did get older she was thrilled and decided it was fine. By the time your dd is old enough for boobs she will probably be happy to have them.

[philomom]

At four she doesn't have them. And truthfully, who knows what size she'll be .... daughter's often have different breast sizes than their moms. Just tell her you like yours and leave it at that.

[redpajama]

Yeah, I wouldn't worry about it. My son, at 3-or-so, was quite disappointed to know that he *wouldn't* naturally develop breasts when he got older. I said, "What do you want breasts for?" and he said, "To nurse babies!"

[Katielady]

I wouldn't read too much into it. When I was 3 I told my mom that when I went to Kindergarten I was going to grow a penis. It hasn't come in yet!

[bandgeek]

When I was a kid I was scared to death of any and all bodily changes....boobs, pubic hair, pregnancy, ect. I was also scared to death of one day needing to learn to drive.

I never talked about it with anyone though. I'm sure it would have helped if someone reassured me that it wasn't as scary as it seemed. And that I had years to get used to the idea. And that I wasn't just going to "get" pregnant (I thought it was something you had no control over). And that the changes come on gradually and you adjust to them over several years.

I don't know what I was scared of exactly, but I'm sure any reassurance would have done me some good.

So I feel for her. Keep talking to her about it and she'll be fine.

[Ellien C]

Mine wants to grow up and have "huge nonnies." (I went from a "nearly A" to A while nursing).

Why is that?

So I can makes LOTS of milk for babies.

Well, luckily dear, the size of your breasts is not related to how much milk you can make. But you might have big ones anyway, like Nana. (She got DH's body).

[meemee]

if she brings it up again i would try to find out why?

i have found (and i have to do this coz dd has anxiety so she might be worrying her head over nothing) that usually dd has been misinformed about something or drawn the wrong conclusion and so doesnt want it.

in our case dd CANT wait when she will have boobs and pubic hair. the first day she discovered fuzz on her legs she ran around the whole house for a looooong time doing a joyful dance. KIDS!!!!