I hope I can accurately describe the problem here. A big struggle with my almost 4 year old is how slow he is in EVERYTHING he does. Part of this is that I am a rusher I know, but not all of it. When we get up and get ready for school I ask him to get dressed. I ask him and then leave. If I stay in there it becomes a power struggle, not to mention I have other things to be doing. I come back in, and he has taken off ONE sock or something equally ridiculous. If I leave him alone long enough, he will eventually get dressed. It usually takes around 90 minutes start to finish. So I tried to just give up on the fight and allow this process to take 90 minutes each day. However, then the kid gets no breakfast and no time to play. None. Then he is upset about it. I've tried the, "well if you would get dressed faster then you would have more time for other things." argument, but I really don't think he gets it. It is not just getting dressed, it is EVERYTHING he does. Going to the bathroom takes at least 5 full minutes. Getting in the car seat takes 5 - 10 minutes. And while it is always annoying, sometimes it is just flat out unacceptable. Like when we need to get to school or someplace. I really think he is just inherently slow at life. Please tell me this is going to change at some point! Or that there is any way for me to teach him to hurry things up. It causes so much stress in our lives, and so much anger from me.
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2/13/10 at 11:30pm