Hello all
I hope you don't lind me asking for your opinions / experiences. I am TTC while living in France with my DH and DS. I don't speak French well enough to ask any local midwives their opinions on this and am fretting a lot about it!
DS was born December 08 in NEw Zealand where, as you probably know, birthing is largely midwife led and normal birth is encouraged. Birth was 14 days overdue, the night before I due due for an induction. I laboured at home then in a pool at the hospital. I had my waters broken at around 7 cm after 'not progressing' for a while. I went back in the pool until I was about 9 cm. I got out (largely because I had used up the hosps supplies of portable G&A and needed to get to the piped supply in the delivery suite!). I continued to move around, use the shower, etc until fully dilated and told to push. By this point I was up on the bed. Well I pushed and pushed. After a short time DH and the MW were telling me that they could see DS head and it was virtually delivered... but then I just couldn't sustain the pushing and he slipped back in. I could feel this happening (boy could I feel it!), hand on his hair and everything but just couldn't get him out. After (I think) quite some time of this, an obs came and examined me and warned me that if he wasn't delivered in the next 15 mins or so, they would look at using ventouse to get him out. Everything is a bit hazy by this point as I was fairly knackered and disheartened. However I remember looking at my MW face and realising just how serious things were getting... so I gave it my all in when the next contraction came along. Next thing I knew the room filled with people, 2 MWs threw my legs back in the air while another pushed right down on my pubis (McRoberts and suprapublic pressure I am guessing?), MW cut a 2nd degree epis and performed Woods screw (?) manouver. At which point DS finally was born. He was slightly blue, but recovered very fast, and sustained no other damage. After his birth, I had a debrief with the MW. She's a seasoned professional, and has been in the business a long time but she looked truly shaken by his birth. And once she heard we were leaving NZ she made me promise that if I got pregnant again I absolutely had to tell the medics / MW that DS had been a SD.
So fast forward 2 years and we are living in France. Birth here is highly medicalised, epidurals are standard, monitors fitted on arrival, no pools, no moving freely and - unsurprisingly a high rate of CS. And a lot of weight is placed on maternal and baby size / weight measurements for 'allowing' a normal labour to proceed. ECS is readily recommended for large babies / small mums. DS was a lot larger than my NZ MW was expecting - 9lb 4oz. But there they don't even measure you or weight you through the pregnancy. I just hid it well I guess as I am tall.
What I am looking for your opinion on is whether to fight my corner for a natural birth after a SD, or whether I should go for an ECS? IF there had been no SD then no question, I would do whatever it took to have a normal birth. But the possible recurrence of the SD is really shaking me.
Seems crazy to be asking when not even PG but I like to tick boxes in advance! thank you so much for reading this far.
I hope you don't lind me asking for your opinions / experiences. I am TTC while living in France with my DH and DS. I don't speak French well enough to ask any local midwives their opinions on this and am fretting a lot about it!
DS was born December 08 in NEw Zealand where, as you probably know, birthing is largely midwife led and normal birth is encouraged. Birth was 14 days overdue, the night before I due due for an induction. I laboured at home then in a pool at the hospital. I had my waters broken at around 7 cm after 'not progressing' for a while. I went back in the pool until I was about 9 cm. I got out (largely because I had used up the hosps supplies of portable G&A and needed to get to the piped supply in the delivery suite!). I continued to move around, use the shower, etc until fully dilated and told to push. By this point I was up on the bed. Well I pushed and pushed. After a short time DH and the MW were telling me that they could see DS head and it was virtually delivered... but then I just couldn't sustain the pushing and he slipped back in. I could feel this happening (boy could I feel it!), hand on his hair and everything but just couldn't get him out. After (I think) quite some time of this, an obs came and examined me and warned me that if he wasn't delivered in the next 15 mins or so, they would look at using ventouse to get him out. Everything is a bit hazy by this point as I was fairly knackered and disheartened. However I remember looking at my MW face and realising just how serious things were getting... so I gave it my all in when the next contraction came along. Next thing I knew the room filled with people, 2 MWs threw my legs back in the air while another pushed right down on my pubis (McRoberts and suprapublic pressure I am guessing?), MW cut a 2nd degree epis and performed Woods screw (?) manouver. At which point DS finally was born. He was slightly blue, but recovered very fast, and sustained no other damage. After his birth, I had a debrief with the MW. She's a seasoned professional, and has been in the business a long time but she looked truly shaken by his birth. And once she heard we were leaving NZ she made me promise that if I got pregnant again I absolutely had to tell the medics / MW that DS had been a SD.
So fast forward 2 years and we are living in France. Birth here is highly medicalised, epidurals are standard, monitors fitted on arrival, no pools, no moving freely and - unsurprisingly a high rate of CS. And a lot of weight is placed on maternal and baby size / weight measurements for 'allowing' a normal labour to proceed. ECS is readily recommended for large babies / small mums. DS was a lot larger than my NZ MW was expecting - 9lb 4oz. But there they don't even measure you or weight you through the pregnancy. I just hid it well I guess as I am tall.
What I am looking for your opinion on is whether to fight my corner for a natural birth after a SD, or whether I should go for an ECS? IF there had been no SD then no question, I would do whatever it took to have a normal birth. But the possible recurrence of the SD is really shaking me.
Seems crazy to be asking when not even PG but I like to tick boxes in advance! thank you so much for reading this far.









