I dont know what she needs

[poiyt]

I have 4 kids in my home, 2 birthed by me. ds1 (3.5) dd1 (2.5), ds2 (16months) and dd2 (7months). Im not a newbie parent by any stretch. dd1 is "that child"...she is difficult - but I know what she needs, and though sometimes I lose my patience....its easier...

dd2 on the other hand is a high needs baby. even her birth (6 days of active labour...) was long and tiring. She cant be put down, must nurse exactly when she wants to, cant be held by others etc etc...everything a high needs baby is - she is. I can accept it, and know it will pass. But...she cries when im holding her, whenI wear her, in her sleep, sometimes when she is nursing....I dont know what to do..

What bioogical/physiological need is being met by her being on me all the time (nb's i get...but she is older)

why does she cry while im doing the things she is supposed to need? I have given her to other people, she screams harder, and then I take her back and she will stop crying as if she is reminded by not being with me that she prefers when I hold her so she no longer needs to cry. And when she cries we arent talking like a little cry, its a my life is ending scream with giant tears cry...

How do I get through this? What does she need?

mamas...help

[askew]

It sounds exhausting. Have you looked into something being actually wrong? Like maybe she is in pain, or something? Perhaps food intolerance? I say this because my 7 month old was like this for two months before we figured out she was having seizures. I don't think your LO is having seizures, more I think maybe it is worth considering that something might be hurting her more than just normal high needs fussiness.

[Louisep]

Hugs. I agree with PP, get her checked out and look into food allergies. My hn son became much happier around 5 months. He's still needy for mama but the crying disappeared to a large extent.

Do you use pacifiers? Hn babies have an intense sucking need - not sure it would result in constant crying though. Also, is she getting enough sleep? It took me awhile to figure out ds needed way more naps than other babies and he was crying because he was over stimulated and tired. But again, that was pre-5 months.

[pbjmama]

I think food allergies are a good idea. I would also consider cranio/chiropractic evaluation well as sensory integration evaluation. I'm sorry, I know how stressful having a baby that cries all the time can be. I hope you find some answers soon!