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What to do with leftover frozen sperm?

post #1 of 12
Thread Starter 
Hi Everyone-

My partner and I bought 12 vials of frozen sperm, in the hopes of making two kids with the same donor. We are now pregnant with #2, with vials remaining that we will not be using. What have folks done in this situation? Our vials are not stored at the cyrobank, so they won't take them. We are open to selling them or donating them for research purposes- just hate to see it all get thrown away .

Best, Whitney in Boston (mom to Graham and #2 this summer)
post #2 of 12
you can try posting your vials on donorsiblingregistry.com to see if anyone is interested. i don't know about research purposes.

congrats on your 2 children!
post #3 of 12
Does your bank have a chat room or way you could contact other possible users of the same donor? I would agree with jj, finding someone who really, really wants this particular donor would be my first attempt.
After that I would probably try donating or selling privately. I know people have done that on here before by posting a bit of info and then asking for PMs.

Congrats on two babies with <12 vials! Lucky you!
post #4 of 12
We're in a similar situation and are specifically interested in donating since there are at least 16 half-siblings out there--probably a good number more since we can't be the only ones who haven't joined DSR. Our remaining vials are also "factory seconds"--their numbers are below the bank's usual guarantees. We haven't done anything concrete towards this, though, since our second just joined us.
post #5 of 12
Thread Starter 
Thanks for your replies. I'm of mixed emotions about selling it to other TTC folks and will probably just let things lie at least until #2 is born. On the other hand, we know this is "good stuff," since I conceived the first try and my partner conceived her third try(we were both 30 at the time), and, well, it makes awesome kids .

My best to all of you.

Whitney
post #6 of 12
I would urge you to hold onto your extra vials for at least several months after the birth of your second baby. I considered selling our extra vials a "lesbian vasectomy," and I wouldn't recommend anyone get any type of vasectomy during pregnancy or the first few months postpartum.

In our case, we sold 6 remaining vials (to a donor sibling family) when ds 3 was only a couple of months old. It was totally premature. We ended up deciding that we did want to make more babies and then had to track down other families with remaining vials--we only found one!

So, I say WAIT. I know it seems a waste to continue to pay storage fees when you don't think you'll ever use the sperm, but it's really to soon to know how you'll feel after your babe is born.

And, I just wanted to clarify that MDC does not host any discussion of selling extra vials of sperm to other MDC members.


If you do choose to sell eventually, I would urge you to first make sure that none of the other families who used the same donor want your vials.

Lex
post #7 of 12
I gotta say, the title of this thread is killing me. I'm waiting for someone to suggest making a casserole with some pasta and a can of soup....like it's leftover chicken!

I don't know that there's much of a call for sperm for research...embryos, yes. Your options are pretty much sell/give to another family, store it indefinitely, or toss it.
post #8 of 12
i agree with lex and wanted to add that there are always families out there looking for vials from donors who have long since retired. i'd get on dsr and your bank's (if they have one) and if you are in touch with any donor sibling families you can also let them know.

congrats on your second! our second son is 3 weeks old today.

g
post #9 of 12
Thread Starter 
Thanks, again again to everyone. We are pretty sure we will be done with 2 (I'm 35 now and would be the one to carry a third which would make me 37/38 at that time, we live in the city, limited money, college, etc), but the "lesbian vasectomy" label made me laugh, and then stop and think.

I do know the donor is retired, and since NECC doesn't seem to have a forum, we will use the DSR.

I again, I appreciate the advice. It's just hard not to think about the $$$$ tied up in those vials.

Best, Whitney (Graham, 3 and #2 August)
post #10 of 12
We are in the same predicament. We have three vials left over and I am pretty certain I never want to be pregnant again. My DW has no desire either. And two kids is just about all we can afford, and yet, I am so very hesitant to get rid of them because it seems so final.

We decided to hold onto them until after this baby arrives and then some... We pay $37/mo to store and while we could redistribute that else where it seems like peanuts when thinking about never having the option. Our donor is retired and of the families who used the same donor and that we are in touch with, no one else has any sperm.

If we do get to a point where we are ready to relinquish, we will first ask the families who we are in touch with if they want it (although I am fairly certain everyone is done). And if not, I am not sure. We've learned a lot about building relationships with our DS's donor siblings, and mostly it's been really great, but it makes me think twice about just offering it up.
post #11 of 12
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Originally Posted by FtMPapa View Post
I gotta say, the title of this thread is killing me. I'm waiting for someone to suggest making a casserole with some pasta and a can of soup....like it's leftover chicken!

I don't know that there's much of a call for sperm for research...embryos, yes. Your options are pretty much sell/give to another family, store it indefinitely, or toss it.
Hee hee .... you said "toss" it

But I would definitely hang on to the vials. It would be great to go to a sibling family that is looking to add one more when they thought all hope was lost at finding another vial or 2
post #12 of 12
Hello, I have a question for you, and feel free to stop me. My question is dp you still jave any vials left or did you sell them all?
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