Originally Posted by 3*is*magic
What, exactly, were those "other options" in this situation?
I totally agree, according to the OP:
|For the return trip though, the brother was unhappy because we didn't stop off to get ice cream. He started chucking a tantrum and ran far ahead. I asked him to stop, but he said no.
Because it was getting dark, I took the reins off his sister and put them on him instead for the remainder of the walk home.
It's awfully difficult (if not impossible) to reason with a child who is running away
from you. As he was also mid-tantrum, it seems pretty fair to assume that his ability to act rationally and listen to reason was further diminished in this situation.
|This child is 9, not 2. That's old enough to rely on not to run in front of a car.
Perhaps that age is generally old enough for a parent to make this assumption. But, it sounds as though this particular child may very well have been so caught up in the moment that one could no longer rely on him to act responsibly and avoid running in front of a moving vehicle.
I think the OP did the best she could in a difficult situation to avoid a far more dangerous outcome, especially something like him getting hit by a car. As others have also pointed out, the OP was also responsible for the care of the boy's 3yo little sister, who is likely no longer all that easy to pick up and run with if she had to continue trying to chase her nephew. As it was also getting dark, the likelihood of him eluding her (or being obscured by a someone operating a vehicle down that street) was even greater than it would have been in full daylight.
I really think some of the harsher criticism is unwarranted. Sometimes caregivers and parents alike have to take the less than ideal solution when confronted with such a tough set of circumstances. It sure beats the guilt she would have to deal with if something bad had in fact happened to her nephew. Personally, I would rather my child's caregiver physically restrain my kid if it meant preventing him from harming himself, but then again I'm the meany mom who had no compunction with strapping my tantrum throwing, trying to run away kiddo into the stroller instead of trying to reason with him.