Postpartum Mama Weekly Check-In (Feb 15-21) - Page 2

[basje]

Originally Posted by Ficus

In non baby news, because it is so huge it is affecting my time with and ability to care for my children, we found out my husband (29 yo, never smoker, never chewer, no a big drinker) was diagnosed with oral cancer.

I spent the day getting him in to see THE BEST ENT doctors at Emory in Atlanta and now we have a plan of attack.

I am so, so sorry! How horrible. Emory is a very good hospital and I'm glad to hear that you're going to do everything possible. Will be thinking of you.

Let me know if you want any suggestions on a place to go rest between doctors appointments. I lived in Atlanta for five years and my ex-wife went to Emory. You're very close to downtown Decatur which might be a nice place to spend some time with your hubby and try and decompress between all the doctors appointments. My favorite place is Java Monkey where they have an awesome hummus plate and vegan apple pie.

[NicoleS]

Originally Posted by Ficus

In non baby news, because it is so huge it is affecting my time with and ability to care for my children, we found out my husband (29 yo, never smoker, never chewer, no a big drinker) was diagnosed with oral cancer.

I spent the day getting him in to see THE BEST ENT doctors at Emory in Atlanta and now we have a plan of attack. What this has meant is 2 days away from my babies (by luck, my parents are here), and (gulp) Felix had to get 2 oz of formula today b/c he finished the milk I left for him and my mom couldn't defrost the frozen milk fast enough. (I don't blame her for not trying warm water and letting him cry for a bit...)

So, yeah. That's our $hitty news right now. I know some (tamara) have read about it on the blog. I may be kinda absent b/c we are planning on drop kicking this cancer, punching it in the throat and then annihilating it as soon as possible.

Please--hug all your little ones a little extra tight tonight. Well...every night.

Big hugs to you. Cancer sucks. Praying you can knock it out quickly.





Having an ok day here. Caleb is up to 10 lbs. 15 oz. as of his weight check this afternoon. And I found out I can't leave him alone with DH for an hour, apparently the two of them don't want to get along.

[clicksab]

Ficus- I'm sorry to hear about your husband! You sound like you guys are doing a great job handling everything...amazing how we can step up to what gets thrown at us, right?

Let's see, I'll try not to make this a novel...

Robbie is 8 days old and I am so ridiculously in love with him. I did realize after this VBAC that for me, bonding takes a day or two but once it kicks in I am obsessed! I thought it was b/c I had a c-section with DD, and I was a bit scared that first night when I felt disconnected to him. But the next day my heart completely melted and I've been in love ever since.
Took him to the ped last Friday and he was already 6lbs 10oz (was 6.14 at birth) so I think he is chunking up well. He is a totally different nurser than DD was, and that is taking some getting used to! He is very laid back, and I am also much more laid back this time around. I'm not counting hours or anything between feedings...his output has been PLENTY, so I figure the input is just fine

Sleep. I need sleep. Not because of my sweet newborn...but my crazy three year old! She is not doing so well in the adjusting department. She's back to sleeping in our bed. Ok, fine. First night she slept great. But now she wants to be touching me all night long (and by touching, I mean practically laying on top of me...as well as putting her hands in my armpits and pinching me. yeah. ew.) and when I shift to nurse DS, she wakes up. And if she really wakes up, she can't fall back asleep. She woke up this morning at 2:30. TWO FREAKIN THIRTY! I spent the next four hours trying to get her to fall back asleep, and emotionally I was a wreck. I was angry, frustrated, sad. I gave up trying to get her to sleep at about 6:30am. She took a two hour nap at 2pm, when a friend came and saved me by driving her around. I am exhausted and she just fell asleep for the night (at 10:30)...I know I should go to sleep too. But I'm actually just dreading getting into bed with her and having last night replay itself.

Dh is being amazing but I'm worried about him. His job only gave him one day off to spend with us. He missed all of his classes last week and is really behind. So now he is trying to play catch up and I am worried sick...he HAS to graduate in May. There is no room for error right now. So he has a lot on his plate, and I just hope he doesn't crack under the strain. I'm trying not to put anything extra on him, but I also don't want to try and be superwoman myself.

I'm going to go cuddle with my little boy right now and remind myself that above all, I am happy...even if I am stressed!

[jul511riv]

Originally Posted by Ficus

In non baby news, because it is so huge it is affecting my time with and ability to care for my children, we found out my husband (29 yo, never smoker, never chewer, no a big drinker) was diagnosed with oral cancer.

I spent the day getting him in to see THE BEST ENT doctors at Emory in Atlanta and now we have a plan of attack. What this has meant is 2 days away from my babies (by luck, my parents are here), and (gulp) Felix had to get 2 oz of formula today b/c he finished the milk I left for him and my mom couldn't defrost the frozen milk fast enough. (I don't blame her for not trying warm water and letting him cry for a bit...)

So, yeah. That's our $hitty news right now. I know some (tamara) have read about it on the blog. I may be kinda absent b/c we are planning on drop kicking this cancer, punching it in the throat and then annihilating it as soon as possible.

Please--hug all your little ones a little extra tight tonight. Well...every night.

please tell me you got a second...and third opinion. (((hugs)))

[QUOTE=clicksab;15083643]
Sleep. I need sleep. Not because of my sweet newborn...but my crazy three year old! She is not doing so well in the adjusting department. She's back to sleeping in our bed. Ok, fine. First night she slept great. But now she wants to be touching me all night long (and by touching, I mean practically laying on top of me...as well as putting her hands in my armpits and pinching me. yeah. ew.) and when I shift to nurse DS, she wakes up. And if she really wakes up, she can't fall back asleep. She woke up this morning at 2:30. TWO FREAKIN THIRTY! I spent the next four hours trying to get her to fall back asleep, and emotionally I was a wreck. I was angry, frustrated, sad. I gave up trying to get her to sleep at about 6:30am. She took a two hour nap at 2pm, when a friend came and saved me by driving her around. I am exhausted and she just fell asleep for the night (at 10:30)...I know I should go to sleep too. But I'm actually just dreading getting into bed with her and having last night replay itself.
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nak.
get 3 yr old back in her bed. b4 u go to bed, pick her up and take to her bed. its ok to say no. wont be the 1st time. her reality has changed, and so has yours. you need to sleep. that must take a top priority and 230am waking is unacceptable.

your dh WILL have to take over...you need rest and to heal. he might need to go in toddlers room and get her back 2 sleep @2am. reality changes. 2 is hard. this too shall pass, tho.
xoxo

[angrypixiemama]

Sending you hugs and good energy for dealing with the cancer issue. That must be so overwhelming, especially right now!

We too are having issues with our three year old here. She would nurse down at night, pre-baby sister arrival, and I mean, for 2-3 minutes and then pass out. Now she wants to nurse all the time, and I have allowed her a few "sips" for naps, etc....explaining at all times, this is all baby sister can eat, we need to make sure there is enough for her. I have never tandem nursed before, and I don't really know what I am doing. But DD has become enraged lately if I try to get her to unlatch - hitting, biting, kicking....ugh. Last night she had to go to time out for biting me so hard she left a bruise...came back and apologized and I rubbed her back until she fell asleep. I guess I feel like I am not doing well by either one of them right now.

I also am with you all in the stitches department.....mine are very itchy and sore...and I am leaking a lot of pee. Grrrr. I leaked all pregnancy but really hoped it would stop. I know I had a bad time pushing this time, which I am imagining is contributing to this. It is hard to tell DD #1 - I can't crawl on the floor, jump up and down, etc, just yet.

Baby girl is doing great! 8lbs 10 at birth, 8lbs 2 when we left the hospital Friday, and Tuesday at her weight check she was 9lbs 1 oz!!! I was so happy, because DD #1 took a month to get to birth weight and was labeled failure to thrive....I had to use shields with her, and I didn't find the ped group very supportive. I am glad to not have to deal with that this time....enjoy your week!