My ds. 5 months now, has been sleeping in bed with me since he was 2 weeks old. We did not plan to co-sleep but it turned out to be the only way I could get him to sleep much at all. It's been lovely in many ways but my husband is not in favour of it continuing, and I am having some challenges with it as well.
Basically what it comes down to is ds will not sleep without me. This means I have to lay down with him for the duration of all his naps and also I go to bed at 6:30 every night with him and have to stay there. He wakes up when I try to leave him alone.
As nice as all the cuddling is I am beginning to feel resentful of this situation as I feel that I have no time at all to do any housework, anything for myself, or spend any time with my husband. I spend 15 hours a day in bed!
I have the No Cry Sleep Solution book and have used it to some extent, but I'm just wondering if anyone out there has any tips for moving an extremely attached baby out of the family bed. I am not in favour of too much crying and would like to make this transition as gentle as possible for all of us. At the same time I don't know if I can last another month or two of doing what we're currently doing.
I've thought about starting with the naps and once he's comfortable with sleeping alone for naps then trying the night time sleeping. Does anyone have experience with this? Would it be better and less confusing for my lo to just go for it all at once, day and night time sleep?
He also has little to no skills in self soothing so he cannot really put himself to sleep. I would like him to learn how to do this. How do I do this without too much crying? He is EBF and thus far has most of the time nursed to sleep but he can fall asleep other ways like holding/rocking or sshh and patting on the back. I want to be able to put him down awake but sleep and then have him fall asleep on his own from there. Up to this point he always falls fast asleep in my arms before he lays down with me.
I'm not sure what other info would be pertinent right now but if anyone has any advice or ideas based on what I've offered so far I would be so appreciative! I am quite desperate to make a change as life just feels unmanageable right now. I do have hope though that we will get through it!
Thank-you so much!
Basically what it comes down to is ds will not sleep without me. This means I have to lay down with him for the duration of all his naps and also I go to bed at 6:30 every night with him and have to stay there. He wakes up when I try to leave him alone.
As nice as all the cuddling is I am beginning to feel resentful of this situation as I feel that I have no time at all to do any housework, anything for myself, or spend any time with my husband. I spend 15 hours a day in bed!
I have the No Cry Sleep Solution book and have used it to some extent, but I'm just wondering if anyone out there has any tips for moving an extremely attached baby out of the family bed. I am not in favour of too much crying and would like to make this transition as gentle as possible for all of us. At the same time I don't know if I can last another month or two of doing what we're currently doing.
I've thought about starting with the naps and once he's comfortable with sleeping alone for naps then trying the night time sleeping. Does anyone have experience with this? Would it be better and less confusing for my lo to just go for it all at once, day and night time sleep?
He also has little to no skills in self soothing so he cannot really put himself to sleep. I would like him to learn how to do this. How do I do this without too much crying? He is EBF and thus far has most of the time nursed to sleep but he can fall asleep other ways like holding/rocking or sshh and patting on the back. I want to be able to put him down awake but sleep and then have him fall asleep on his own from there. Up to this point he always falls fast asleep in my arms before he lays down with me.
I'm not sure what other info would be pertinent right now but if anyone has any advice or ideas based on what I've offered so far I would be so appreciative! I am quite desperate to make a change as life just feels unmanageable right now. I do have hope though that we will get through it!
Thank-you so much!
