My 5yo DD is driving me (and everyone else around her) insane! Sometimes she can be just the sweetest child in the world, very loving, very nice. But then she can change and become very disrespectul. Some of the things she has done just in the last few days:
Calling nanny names (dumb, stupid), taking my phone and running around the house after I had told her not to play with it (she was eating and her hands were dirty), taking stuff from her brother and running around the house with it after he asked her to give it back and then throwing it on the floor when he caught up to her, ignored another child in a social setting the other day because the girl she was hanging around with doesn't like the other girl, kicking the seat in my car with her mud covered boots, etc. etc. etc.
She is not a hitter, but she knows how to push peoples buttons and she does it very well. i am at my wits end with how to deal with it and how to get it to stop.
Last night, I was putting her to sleep and she refused to lay down and actually go to sleep. My kids won't sleep on their own so I have to lay with them until they fall asleep. it usually doesn't take but 5 minutes so no big deal but last night, she was keeping herself up on purpose. I talked to her about the fact that I had laundry to do and stuff to get ready for the next day and that I was going to leave her room in a few minutes to go do what I needed to do and she said she would follow me. I explained that she needed to respect me and my need to be alone for awhile but that did absolutely nothing.
I finally got up out of her bed and took the dog outside to pee. She sat on the stairs. I came in, paid her no attention and went to the bathroom. I locked the door so I could have a couple of minutes to myself to calm down. She finally knocked on the door and apologized.
So I guess my tactic was just to ignore the behavior and it seemed to work. but is that the right tactic? I don't want to have a child that is rude and I fear that by ignoring it, it isn't really solving the problem. I do talk to her about it every time, but many times she just sits there with a smile on her face which makes me even angrier.
Help - how do I raise a respectful child????
(We don't do timeouts so please don't recommend that)
Calling nanny names (dumb, stupid), taking my phone and running around the house after I had told her not to play with it (she was eating and her hands were dirty), taking stuff from her brother and running around the house with it after he asked her to give it back and then throwing it on the floor when he caught up to her, ignored another child in a social setting the other day because the girl she was hanging around with doesn't like the other girl, kicking the seat in my car with her mud covered boots, etc. etc. etc.
She is not a hitter, but she knows how to push peoples buttons and she does it very well. i am at my wits end with how to deal with it and how to get it to stop.
Last night, I was putting her to sleep and she refused to lay down and actually go to sleep. My kids won't sleep on their own so I have to lay with them until they fall asleep. it usually doesn't take but 5 minutes so no big deal but last night, she was keeping herself up on purpose. I talked to her about the fact that I had laundry to do and stuff to get ready for the next day and that I was going to leave her room in a few minutes to go do what I needed to do and she said she would follow me. I explained that she needed to respect me and my need to be alone for awhile but that did absolutely nothing.
I finally got up out of her bed and took the dog outside to pee. She sat on the stairs. I came in, paid her no attention and went to the bathroom. I locked the door so I could have a couple of minutes to myself to calm down. She finally knocked on the door and apologized.
So I guess my tactic was just to ignore the behavior and it seemed to work. but is that the right tactic? I don't want to have a child that is rude and I fear that by ignoring it, it isn't really solving the problem. I do talk to her about it every time, but many times she just sits there with a smile on her face which makes me even angrier.
Help - how do I raise a respectful child????
(We don't do timeouts so please don't recommend that)
