What's with intact men trashing foreskins? - Page 2

[Laur318]

Trashing foreskins

Originally Posted by mntnmom

The only man I've ever had advise me to get my boys cut was my intact FIL. Of course, his sons are cut, because that was the medical advice at the time. I take it with a HUGE grain of salt though. He is very much a product of his "never question authority" upbringing, and didn't get circ' himself, even though he seems to think it's better for everyone else.
Even if these guys are legitimate, you never know what kind of issues they might have driving their behavior. Comments from a parent, shallow ex girlfriend, justifying their sons' circumcisions... you just never know.

Originally Posted by hakunangovi

Mtnmom, I find the attitude expressed by people like your FIL to be the height of hypocrisy. If circumcision is such a wonderful procedure for everyone else, why do they not jump on the bandwagon and get themselves circumcised??

My situation entirely. My FIL is intact and trashed foreskins. He complained that he ripped his once or twice, it's hard to clean, yet he never got circed as an adult *this is also the man who is 70 and hasnt been to the Dr in at least 25 yrs and never had a prostate exam* of course he circed his infant son/my DH. my FIL was so shocked that we didnt want to circ our son because circed penises are "so much easier". how about hygiene, eh?

Its a very sensitive subject for my DH and I. I want him to restore his foreskin but it's not mine, ya know? He hates the thought that his parents took something from him and he is astounded at how much of his penis (foreskin) is actually gone, compared to what he is left with (scars and thick glans). he was so nervous my son would know they are different

Then there's my step dad. He is intact like my FIL , except he (and mom! lol!) are very happy with his anatomy. never been upset and he didn't blink an eye when i didn't circ my son. i dont think he expected me to.

Conversely, my dad and brother are VERY pro-circ and constantly talk about it. my father: "I will never get over the fact that you left his johnson looking like that". WTF it's a penis! even if it was rainbow colored with sparkles on it, how often is it hanging out anyway? he forced my mom to cric my brother. i think my father fits the "has to conform, doesn't question authority" type of guy we see a lot of, born in the 1930's-1940's and living in the depression you did what you were told.
Kinda like with vax...our dads will never get it.

[proudmomof4]

Some of the quotes here (FIL and such) make me so thankful to be European.

[doulatara]

Huh. Never heard that. My husband is intact and never complained and would definitely not choose to circ a son, (if we ever have one.) No stinky issues, cleaning issues or anything else. He acts as the go-to guy to all of our friends when they have questions about their intact sons, or intact future sons or w/ parents who are grappling with the decision.

[LVale]

My husband was intact until he was 28, then he had a circumcision of his own free will and choice, for reasons that I had to agree with, so there are 2 sides of every story. He is now 53 and does not regret it. If you would like to know the why he did it please pm me.

[Storm Bride]

Originally Posted by MyBoysBlue

I also wonder if it's a result of over cleaning because the perception is that the foreskin is dirty and smelly. If you over clean like using harsh soap all the time the foreskin will smell more it's like if you wash your hair often you end up with more oily hair.

I would guess this is part of it, and also that a lot of them have real problems with their foreskins, from having them forcibly retracted (torn loose!!) regularly as infants. My brother is intact, but mom looked after it the way she was told to - in 1963 - and was really surprised when I mentioned that you're not supposed to do anything to it. I don't think my brother has ever had any problems, but I'm sure many men do. There's no way for them to know that their problems probably stem from having been torn and forcibly "cleaned" repeatedly as children...they just think it's because foreskins are inherently problemetic body parts.

Oh - and a lot of them are trolls.

[Fellow Traveler]

Originally Posted by LVale

My husband was intact until he was 28, then he had a circumcision of his own free will and choice, for reasons that I had to agree with, so there are 2 sides of every story. He is now 53 and does not regret it. If you would like to know the why he did it please pm me.

I don't think anyone has an issue with that because he chose to do that to himself. The issue discussed here is forced infant/child circumcision which is different. All boys deserve the dignity of the decision your husband had.

[Laur318]

Originally Posted by Fellow Traveler

I don't think anyone has an issue with that because he chose to do that to himself. The issue discussed here is forced infant/child circumcision which is different. All boys deserve the dignity of the decision your husband had.

agreed