LOL: I'm so glad I've learned to ignore the mom and MIL comments
They are not that bad, and they have good intentions, but the comments are seriously not helpful.
MIL came to visit when my premature dd was 2 weeks old. She wasn't even 5 pounds at the time!! Anyway, we had a bassinet in the living room. I was always holding dd, doing kangaroo care etc. MIL looks at me and says "why in the world are you holding her, you need to learn to put her down" I started crying hysterically, put dd down, and went outside. DH followed me during my meltdown and told me it's ok, go back in and hold the baby.
MIL went to the store before she left to buy some presents for dd (same visit) She already knew I did not want her to have a paci (we were feeding on demand, she needed to gain weight). So, she comes home with a pacifier, and womb bear, and baby monitors. She said I would appreciate these later.
My mom: Same sort of things, although I can tell my mom to back off. I have no problem with that
Dd started crying ALL THE TIME at 3 weeks old. My mom said "it's time for solids, that's what she is telling you!" umm.. no. My mom said that's when she started giving me solids. WOW. Another great one was when my daughter actually slept for 4 hours straight. Boy, did I need that. I was so happy that I was rested and called my mom. She wanted to know what I did different. I told her it was the first night I just started her in bed with us, instead of having the bassinet push up against the bed. Her reply "no wonder, you spoiler her.. I wouldn't make a habit of this"
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