Things your mother says. - Page 5

[Beauchamp]

Yesterday I told my mom that my back has been hurting, and I think it's because of holding/wearing DD so much. Of course, my mom's response was, "Well of course, you have to stop doing that!!"

[samann1121]

My mom is great! My MIL is alright (except for the part where she keeps asking me if I'm pregnant again -- DD is 10 months). But my husband's grandma? Drives me up the wall. She has some comment every 5 minutes, but she says them quietly enough that only I hear them. At first I tried to explain what was going on to her. At 3 weeks, she thought since DD kept wanting to nurse, maybe she wasn't getting enough. I explained that at 3 weeks she was due for a growth spurt.

But then I got tired of defending myself every 5 minutes, and decided to stop talking to her if that's all she had to say. I kept telling DH about her comments, but he never heard them! The last time we visited, *he* was the one defending our choices every 5 minutes! He was like, "OMG! Is that how she always is??" Yes.

At 7 months DD was munching on apples, and she said, "Oh, she'll be ready for solids pretty soon, won't she?" (Um, what are apples??)

She wanted to know why I hold DD so much, and suggested perhaps she was spoiled.

Overreacting when DD tries to stand up/walk and falls down on her (fluffy cloth-diapered) bum.

Wants to know if DD can eat some of her box mix strawberry cake. "No." "Really? Just a little?" ::happy voice::"Nope! Cake's not for babies!"

GAH! Shut up, woman!


Oh, and MIL says DH weaned himself at 6 months. That just makes me sad. She didn't know! No one told her about nursing strikes.

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by samann1121

At 7 months DD was munching on apples, and she said, "Oh, she'll be ready for solids pretty soon, won't she?" (Um, what are apples??)

She wanted to know why I hold DD so much, and suggested perhaps she was spoiled.

Wants to know if DD can eat some of her box mix strawberry cake. "No." "Really? Just a little?" ::happy voice::"Nope! Cake's not for babies!"

1) Didn't you know it only counts as solids if it's from a jar?

2) I always answer this one with "Yep, he sure is"

3) We were at a friend's daughter's birthday and her grandmother walked up and asked DS (who was 5 months at the time) "Did Mommy give you some icing?" I just LOOKED at her and said, "he can't have dairy" And she laughed and said, "Aww, maybe next time."

[Beauchamp]

Step-MIL "I can't hold her when you have her in that THING."

(it's a Pikkolo, by the way. And, no. You can't. That's part of the plan.)

[Beauchamp]

from Step-MIL (currently visiting...ugh!)

"Well, (deep Southern accent) you stay home and don't have to work because your husband goes to work and brings home the bacon." (While this may be true, it was still weird to hear from her.)

and, when the subject came up (ugh) that DD doesn't STTN...

S-MIL- "Weeeelll...she'd sleep through the night if she were in her own room down the hall."

me- "Well, no, she'd still wake up, we just wouldn't *hear* her cry, which isn't the same thing." (an attempt to fight the good fight...)

S-MIL- "Well, you're just rewarding her for waking up, is all I'm saying."

I'll probably have more because she's staying until Saturday.

[NEastMomma]

Well, my FIL tried to tell me that I "have to let him cry sometimes" when DS was 3 WEEKS OLD!

But I also wanted to post something that my own mother says that I think is really great advice. In response to my worrying a while back about DS's bedtime routine (what if I'm making it so that he'll never go to sleep without me... what if... what if...) My mom told me not to worry, keep on doing whatever was getting both me and DS the most sleep and that

"Whatever you do now can be undone later if you want"

I love it because I felt like my mom was giving me the "permission" I was looking for. AND she's been totally supportive of us co-sleeping, even though she never did that (unless we were sick or scared from a nightmare).

Finally, she apologized to me for letting me cry it out when I was a baby.

[Kelly1101]

Originally Posted by Beauchamp

from Step-MIL (currently visiting...ugh!)

"Well, (deep Southern accent) you stay home and don't have to work because your husband goes to work and brings home the bacon." (While this may be true, it was still weird to hear from her.)

I had someone say this to me. My response: "No, I stay home because I breastfeed, use cloth diapers, clip coupons, cook from scratch, and keep us from having to pay for daycare." That irks the hell out of me. Yes, my husband goes out and works. But raising a baby and running a household full-time, on a very tight budget (we are not well-off), is work. The money I save through the aforementioned activities allows me to stay home as much as the money my husband brings home. As in, I bake all of our bread because it saves 3-5 bucks a week, for one example.



/rant, sorry

[_betsy_]

We;re thinking about maybe putting DD1, now 3.5 in pre-K in the fall. There's a free program through our local school district. We're not decided, for a variety of reasons.

When I told my Mom we were thinking about it and had reserved her a spot just in case we decide to do it, she said "Wow, I didn't think she was that independent yet!"

Huh? You're constantly telling me how surprised you are that she's as independent as she is, since I nursed her for soooo long (19 months, she weaned when I was PG with DD2) and since I always just pick her up and since I never just let her cry, and...

What do ya know? Now, despite all of my parenting, she's grown "independent" to you. Whatever that means!

[GreenGranolaMama]

"Where did the walker I bought you go?"



I lied and said it broke............

[Xavismom]

Originally Posted by NEastMomma

"Whatever you do now can be undone later if you want"

I love this, your mom sounds awesome!

[Beauchamp]

step-MIL-- "The sleep experts say that having a baby in your room for more than a year is a boundary violation."

me-- "Oh, I hadn't heard that. Have you heard of Dr. Sears?"

step-MIL-- "No, not *prominently*" (whatever THAT means.)

me-- "He's a well known pediatrician, his wife is a nurse, and they have about 8 kids, many of whom are well known doctors as well. He is a big supporter of sleep-sharing, in whatever way the family sleeps best."

step-MIL-- (laughing snootily) "Well, how did he even GET 8 kids if they slept with the first one?!? How did they even make a second baby?"

me-- "Well, you don't exactly need the master bedroom to make a baby."

step-MIL-- (eyebrows in hairline) "You mean you're telling me the PARENTS had to make some kind of appointment to have their bedroom to themselves?!?"

me-- (trying to laugh it off) "no, I'm just saying there are other rooms in the house, aren't there?"

step-MIL-- (getting nasty now) "I just don't understand how they can with their child in the room."

me-- "Well, that's what the kitchen table is for, isn't it?"



step-MIL-- (Silence. Eyebrows in hairline. Shakes her head.)



Yep, she hates me now.

[texaspeach]

Beauchamp

[Super~Single~Mama]

Originally Posted by Beauchamp

step-MIL-- (laughing snootily) "Well, how did he even GET 8 kids if they slept with the first one?!? How did they even make a second baby?"

Whenever people say things like this to me, I want to make a joke about how boring their sex life must be. I'm a single mom though, so I'm not really one to talk about sex lives....(I don't have one, but I'm 100% ok with that!)

[Super~Single~Mama]

Originally Posted by Kelly1101

I am guilty of sometimes attributing to the mythical doctor things I don't feel like arguing about: "the doctor says that co-sleeping is good for the baby" "the doctor says that picking up babies when they cry improves their social development." Etc. Haha.

Dr. Sears TOTALLY counts!!! He's a Dr right??

[Xavismom]

Originally Posted by Beauchamp

step-MIL-- "The sleep experts say that having a baby in your room for more than a year is a boundary violation."

me-- "Oh, I hadn't heard that. Have you heard of Dr. Sears?"

step-MIL-- "No, not *prominently*" (whatever THAT means.)

me-- "He's a well known pediatrician, his wife is a nurse, and they have about 8 kids, many of whom are well known doctors as well. He is a big supporter of sleep-sharing, in whatever way the family sleeps best."

step-MIL-- (laughing snootily) "Well, how did he even GET 8 kids if they slept with the first one?!? How did they even make a second baby?"

me-- "Well, you don't exactly need the master bedroom to make a baby."

step-MIL-- (eyebrows in hairline) "You mean you're telling me the PARENTS had to make some kind of appointment to have their bedroom to themselves?!?"

me-- (trying to laugh it off) "no, I'm just saying there are other rooms in the house, aren't there?"

step-MIL-- (getting nasty now) "I just don't understand how they can with their child in the room."

me-- "Well, that's what the kitchen table is for, isn't it?"



step-MIL-- (Silence. Eyebrows in hairline. Shakes her head.)



Yep, she hates me now.

Nice one!!

[DevaMajka]

Ds has food sensitivities, and I was on an ED. I lost a little bit of weight. My grandma left a phone message that I should stop nursing and give ds formula yeah right!
My grandma has strong opinions- cd'ing is too hard, I was mean for not giving ds1 candy (even if he didn't ask for it. lol) etc. But she's a *total* believer in holding babies a lot, and always comforting them when they cry, so she gets a for that.

My mom just had some generic "giving him water to drink might help his rash" and "breastfeeding is so hard" and "give him cereal before bed and he might sleep better." But she's really accepting of what I do, and doesn't mention those things more than once.

My MIL thought that EC was awesome, and kept saying that she hoped ds2 would be potty trained before he was 1yo. We were totally laidback about it, and he's on a major potty strike atm.
However, when ds1 was was little, she was different. He HATED being put down. She was pretty sure we made it up, I think, because she'd just take him from me and put him down. And yeah, he cried. Dp was just like "uh, we don't want him to cry!" and she backed off. I asked him to talk to her, and she's improved greatly since then.

[Belia]

For a while my mom was referring to DS as "MY baby" too.

She would call and say "So how is MY BABY doing?" and I would respond, "Well, I'm doing ok, things are a little tough at work, but whatever..." and on and on.

Or when she was over she would say "Oh let me see MY LITTLE BABY" and I would say, "Well, I'm a little busy right this second but give me a minute and I'll come over and give you a hug."

And so on and so on. She got the hint and we all had a good laugh.

[Kelly1101]

Originally Posted by Beauchamp

me-- "Well, that's what the kitchen table is for, isn't it?"



step-MIL-- (Silence. Eyebrows in hairline. Shakes her head.)



Yep, she hates me now.

*wild applause* I love you now.

I know. I don't understand how people don't realize that sex IS in fact possible in other places around the house....

[EmilyVorpe]

Ooooh man.

My mom is big on trying to talk us into doing things she did.

Its time for the chicken bones....at 5 months. I wouldnt let any of my kids chew on a bone at any age....

I just got out of the hospital...was gone for 2 weeks. Was so sick, couldnt pump and baby is now on formula. EVERYONE thinks this is great, as I had to cut out dairy and soy due to his sensitivities. Mom, stepmom, and dad all said " its been long enough....how long could you have wanted to nurse?" longer than 5 months......

Oh my mil.... and dhs nana....ugh. Dd1 had severe allergies and was formula fed. We went through lots of formulas before finding out it was dairy and soy allergies. In the meantime, they were all pushing for every other feeding to be water and telling dh it couldnt possibly be anything other than gas, no such thing as allergies.

Oooh my favorite. I let my ds1 spend the night with my mom over the weekend. He comes home insane, throwing fits, melting down, etc... I asked him what he ate. two ice creams, chocolate milk, juice (hawain punch), skittles, chips, sugary cereal, and maple candy. I called and asked her why she gave him that much junk, told her he was off the walls. "Oh, hes probably just tired....that stuff wouldnt have messed with how he acts!!"

[Gimme Pineapple]

This thread makes me so grateful for my mom. Today we were grocery shopping and there was a table of baby stuff on sale. My mom picks up a tube of teething gel and says "Look Honey! This is approved by that Dr. Sears that you like so much!" So she got if for us. It was very sweet because it just showed how much she pays attention to all the details.

My son is HUGE- just turned three months and is in 9 month clothes. I mean, I don't know if he is, but everyone seems to thinks so... Someone suggested we give him bottles of water as a "diet" and my mom was quick to tell them I was nursing and he was "genetically engineered" to be "tall and strong." I loved that.