I don't know if this is the appropriate forum for this... if there is a more suitable forum, please move it!
But I was wondering for those Mom's who had their child(ren) while in a long term relationship (preferably several years and more), what were the deciding factors that finally caused you (two) to call it quits?
How long had you been in an essentially loveless relationship (if you were) before seperating?
I don't know what to do. I have been unhappy for quite some time. Probably close to if not a year. I've expressed my feelings multiple times, but neither him, nor I make any effort to change things. I've pretty much given up and we essentially live as roommates who share a bed. Not even, we rarely sleep at the same time, and if we do, one is on the couch.
I don't know how much of this is just our relationship and how much is outside stressors (we are currently both unemployed, expecting another baby, share a 1 bedroom basement suite), but he never wants to address our issues, just calls me names (which I do to, afterwards) and places most of the blame on me.
I suggested to him numerous times (in anger) that he should leave and stay with someone for a few weeks, but he never takes me seriously. I am preparing myself to suggest it again while we are both levelheaded, the only problem is he would have no where to go, and could make an excuse to stay.
I'm so torn. I want us to be happy again, but I feel so defeated. I know we should at least take a break to collect ourselves. I don't necessarily want us to seperate leading to a divorce, but I want us to be apart to fix ourselves as singles before we attempt to fix ourselves as a couple.
But I was wondering for those Mom's who had their child(ren) while in a long term relationship (preferably several years and more), what were the deciding factors that finally caused you (two) to call it quits?
How long had you been in an essentially loveless relationship (if you were) before seperating?
I don't know what to do. I have been unhappy for quite some time. Probably close to if not a year. I've expressed my feelings multiple times, but neither him, nor I make any effort to change things. I've pretty much given up and we essentially live as roommates who share a bed. Not even, we rarely sleep at the same time, and if we do, one is on the couch.
I don't know how much of this is just our relationship and how much is outside stressors (we are currently both unemployed, expecting another baby, share a 1 bedroom basement suite), but he never wants to address our issues, just calls me names (which I do to, afterwards) and places most of the blame on me.
I suggested to him numerous times (in anger) that he should leave and stay with someone for a few weeks, but he never takes me seriously. I am preparing myself to suggest it again while we are both levelheaded, the only problem is he would have no where to go, and could make an excuse to stay.
I'm so torn. I want us to be happy again, but I feel so defeated. I know we should at least take a break to collect ourselves. I don't necessarily want us to seperate leading to a divorce, but I want us to be apart to fix ourselves as singles before we attempt to fix ourselves as a couple.
