Do you have an "accident plan"? - Page 2

[new2this]

I can understand being upset. IMO if it were my child I would not be as upset because things turned out fine. Now had they had to take DC to hospital or it was bigger then what it was and no call yeah I would be upset.

Now you have requested to be called in the future I think that should be respected.

[claras_mom]

I think that once everyone's calmed down, conversations can be had that aren't hysterical, defensive, or accusatory. I'll bet anything that if the paramedics had wanted to transport, she'd have called.

But I also agree that it may be an old school thing. For example, before he died, my grandfather was in the hospital for 6 weeks before my dad let me know. I lived out of state; he didn't want to worry me because "there was nothing I could do about it." I didn't agree, but I saw his point.

Not the same thing, I know; but if the OP can try to really understand MIL's attitude--and visa versa--then it will be possible to come to a resolution.

ETA - what would be more important than fussing about the finer points of when to call and under what circumstances is to make sure that paperwork is on file authorizing the various childcare providers in your LO's life to seek care.

[WindyCityMom]

nak

thanks all.

Only thing I can think of is DH was in an accident in September 09. A bad one. Iy wasnt his fault and he is a good driver though. Also, MIL is 38.. so its not her age. (DH & I are just shy of 20).

[mamazee]

If it's worth calling 911, it's worth calling me or dh. That would not be negotiable for me. You want to watch the kid, you promise to call me if you feel a need to call 911 or take the kid to the hospital or anything like that.

[Kirsten]

If you think 911 is a necessary call then you also CALL THE PARENTS! If she won't abide by this very reasonable request, then you don't watch my kid.

[fyrwmn]

if it warranted a call to 911, i would absolutely expect a call! out of curiosity, how is it that she was able to refuse transport to the hosapital for your child? i work for an ambulance, and we are required by law to get a guardian to sign off that they do not want the minor to be transported (whether because we've let them know that things are okay or because they change their mind about going to the hospital). if a child is with a grandparent, babysitter, etc, we call a parent and they have to give us verbal permission for that person to sign off. if we cannot contact a parent/legal guardian, that child/minor gets transported no matter what. my mom watches ds & dd one day a week while i'm at work, and she has a written "permission slip" stating that she is allowed to seek medical care and make decisions in my or dh's place if necessary while caring for them. even that would not allow her to refuse ambilance transport though without one of the emt' s getting one of our verbal permission.

[claras_mom]

Originally Posted by WindyCityMom

nak

thanks all.

Only thing I can think of is DH was in an accident in September 09. A bad one. Iy wasnt his fault and he is a good driver though. Also, MIL is 38.. so its not her age. (DH & I are just shy of 20).

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So I'm older than your MIL. Heavens.

Yeah, not an old-school thing at all. Probably the accident, like maybe her fear of something happening to you guys is outweighing the need for reasonable compromise.