I believe I have found my tribe as well. I can't stand any of my inlaws. DH's whole entire family are self centered, manipulative, totally redneck and just plain weird. Some of the reason I particularly can't stand my MIL:
-when they found out we were expecting she announced that she was going to be the first one to hold my baby in the delivery room.
-her and FIL gave us a list of BOY's names that they approved of. We didn't find out what we were having but they wanted a 'grandson'. How convenient for them that 'they' got one.
-MIL so graciously threw me a baby shower because I didn't know anyone here at the time and she invited all her cranky old bag friends to celebrate 'her' grandbaby. The whole thing was centered around her and they made fun of me and played games guessing how big I was etc. One of the games involved a word scramble and I found one humorous and commented that I thought it said 'boobies' and they all looked at me and MIL said "well that would be inappropriate now wouldn't it?". Yeah cause BOOBIES are totally inappropriate around babies. Right lady.
-she has basically commented in her own way that I am a vessel for her grandbabies. DH didn't hear it though and I can't prove it.
-she's said things to me when DH is out of earshot that are downright condescending and mean.
-she's commented to DH that "it must be nice to be that thin after having a baby"
-we didn't invite them over to see DS until the day after he was born and she said in a condescending tone when they came over "It's nice that we finally get to see our grandson!" and then proceeded to take him right out of my arms. I started crying because I was so emotional and someone had taken my baby from me. She just glared at me.
-she calls and leaves messages that we are keeping her grandbaby from her.
-she got very upset at me for 'wearing' my son and that she couldn't hold him.
-deliberately making food she knows I can't eat when we go over there then comments "no wonder your so skinny, you don't ever eat anything."
-for my birthday she got me the ugliest sweater you have ever seen in your life that was made for a person easily 3 times my size, so we went to exchange it (even DH said it was hideous and 'even I couldn't make it look good' lol) thinking we could find a shirt or something, anything! Well she paid $3.99 for it lol. DH ended up buying me a nice sweater lol.
-she/they hardly acknowledge my existence, it infuriates me.
-she is insanely jealous of my relationship with my parents and tries to insinuate that DS gets to see them way more. My parents live 500 miles away and the IL's live 10 miles away. Go figure.
There's so much more I could write a book. Like a PP said, a lot of it is the energy that she gives off too. She hates me, actually DH's entire family hates me. I'm starting to think they are just jealous. I have no idea how my sweet DH came from that either, and as hard as this is to say....if I knew what I was getting into then I probably wouldn't have married him. I love him dearly but it's extremely hard on an emotional level to be around such negativity. I honestly hope they die sooner rather than later. I know I'm going to hell for saying it but I've come to terms with that, and frankly, most of my friends will be there anyway so whatever. Yeah I can't stand my IL's.