I think this is the place to put it, as I don't think it belongs in the VBAC archives, as I'm not looking for advice on VBAC, but how to deal with VBAC awareness.
Ok, so a friend of mine has two kids, and just found out she is pregnant. I am also pregnant just ending the first trimester. So anywho, she and I are both VBACs, I only after one cs, her after 2. That is if she decides to VBAC.
Her first, of what I know, was an elective induction at 39 weeks, I think she may have been told her placenta was "aging", but I'm convinced most OBs say this to get a consent to inducing. Her cervix never ripened, or effaced and she was started on Pitocin, with no epidural, no birth class education, and was in immense pain, with contractions that wouldn't let up, and then after a while, as her cervix didn't dilate because it wasn't ripe, she was given a cesarean. Baby was never in distress, and mom had no signs of distress, only couldn't take pain and she wasn't dilating. So, she's pregnant again, and this time it was a scheduled repeat cs, 1 week early as her Dr. was going on vacation. When she and I were talking about our next babies, I said, "oh we are going to have a VBAC" She then asked what that was. I was pretty shocked that her Dr. hadn't told her what it was, after having 2 cs and the plans of another baby.
So, I told her, gave her info on what I have found, I'm a studying Doula, so I have tons of info, and being an HBAC I have enough education to feel I'm making a fully informed decision. So I've given her tons of info. She said she will talk to her Dr. about it. In our area, the VBAC rate in hospitals, and has been for years and years is about 1%, and those are mostly in one OBs practice. Most hospitals have "banned" VBACs. Also, I believe, based on her description, that he gave her, possibly, some faulty information on her pelvis.
She was really crushed when she could birth vaginally with her first, had tons of BF problems after both CS. I really feel she wants to birth vaginally, but I feel she isn't the type of person who feel comfortable "going against the grain" when it comes to this.
So my question is, what am I supposed to do? I know, if she asks for advice/something, to tell her what I feel/think and studies and such. But I don't know if she is the type to go looking for this stuff. The thing is, I'd rather her have the info, not asked for, then not have the info.
What would y'all do? Am I being to pushy? Is this my business or my part to say anything?
Ok, so a friend of mine has two kids, and just found out she is pregnant. I am also pregnant just ending the first trimester. So anywho, she and I are both VBACs, I only after one cs, her after 2. That is if she decides to VBAC.
Her first, of what I know, was an elective induction at 39 weeks, I think she may have been told her placenta was "aging", but I'm convinced most OBs say this to get a consent to inducing. Her cervix never ripened, or effaced and she was started on Pitocin, with no epidural, no birth class education, and was in immense pain, with contractions that wouldn't let up, and then after a while, as her cervix didn't dilate because it wasn't ripe, she was given a cesarean. Baby was never in distress, and mom had no signs of distress, only couldn't take pain and she wasn't dilating. So, she's pregnant again, and this time it was a scheduled repeat cs, 1 week early as her Dr. was going on vacation. When she and I were talking about our next babies, I said, "oh we are going to have a VBAC" She then asked what that was. I was pretty shocked that her Dr. hadn't told her what it was, after having 2 cs and the plans of another baby.
So, I told her, gave her info on what I have found, I'm a studying Doula, so I have tons of info, and being an HBAC I have enough education to feel I'm making a fully informed decision. So I've given her tons of info. She said she will talk to her Dr. about it. In our area, the VBAC rate in hospitals, and has been for years and years is about 1%, and those are mostly in one OBs practice. Most hospitals have "banned" VBACs. Also, I believe, based on her description, that he gave her, possibly, some faulty information on her pelvis.
She was really crushed when she could birth vaginally with her first, had tons of BF problems after both CS. I really feel she wants to birth vaginally, but I feel she isn't the type of person who feel comfortable "going against the grain" when it comes to this.
So my question is, what am I supposed to do? I know, if she asks for advice/something, to tell her what I feel/think and studies and such. But I don't know if she is the type to go looking for this stuff. The thing is, I'd rather her have the info, not asked for, then not have the info.
What would y'all do? Am I being to pushy? Is this my business or my part to say anything?
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