x posted with Night time parenting: CIO logic rant

[hakeber]

My cousin who is struggling to get her 2.5 year to sleep, old posts her frustration and gets advice on CIO from a FB friend.

It's hard but you just have to just let her cry it out. If you keep going in, she will only cry longer. if you dont go in the crying will get shorter every night.

I post in desperate disagreement and the friend says to her,

You have a "smarter than average" child. Also she is not an infant.

So What's the logic there...if the child were of average intelligence she would be okay to go in and reassure her?

Smart kids must be manipulative by nature?

Only dumb kids really need their moms at night?

And if her 2 and half year old is THAT clever, if she is such a manipulative mastermind that she simply must be at it and is clearly just trying to, I don't know, take over the world one exhausted parent at a time, why not TALK to her and find out what the trouble is. My ds was pretty capable of making simple requests and needs clear at that age, and I am pretty sure he's of average intelligence.

Garrrr! I don't even know where to begin!

I hope my cousin comes here for advice and support!

[kgreenemama]

If only dumb kids need their moms at night, my son is an idiot.

What on earth are some of these people thinking? What kind of messed-up advice was dolled out to them? I just don't understand, and it makes me feel SO sad for all those LOs who are the victims of their parents' ignorance.