EC only works for me?

[physmom]

To make a long story short DD only does EC well for me. We have a babysitter that comes about 9-12 hours a week so I can work and she's only peed in the potty twice for her. When DD is home alone with me we have some days where she is completely dry in comparison! DH also has a lot of problems with it and while she'll pee more with him than with the sitter it's still not a lot. The final straw was today when she pooped in her diaper, which NEVER happens with the sitter. I was pretty shocked since she hasn't done that for awhile (unless she is sick and she's not sick right now). Also, I'm seeing that it affects how well EC is going with me (as in she doesn't signal as much with me now because she's getting more used to her diapers again ). I really like her babysitter and it took DD a long time to get adjusted to the lady so we're definitely not switching but I'm not sure how to fix the problem? I know the lady will take DD often but she obviously will get tired of it since DD never goes with her...

DH wants us to start going at timed intervals (right now DD just signals for me or i take her when I go to the bathroom). That alone is enough to keep her dry some days. Not sure where to go from here...

[sapphire_chan]

The timed intervals could help get your dd used to going with them. Also, if they take her to the same place you do, they could try using a different potty, and vice versa. If it's the same place, maybe it makes her think YOU should be there, if it's a different place, maybe that makes it too different for her or something.

Also, some times of the day are just harder, so if they're always watching her from x o'clock to y thirty, that could be a factor too.

[hrsmom]

My dd would only go for me for the longest time. She's very comfortable around my mom (her Nana) but she only recently started going for Nana. It's just me at home, so I don't know if she'd go for someone else who was living here or not. Because I'm a single mom and have to work (she's with me when I'm working, but I couldn't always take her potty) I knew there were just going to be times that my dd went in her diaper. (I write in the past tense because she has one miss or fewer in a week, even during times when she would have had misses before.) If she's happy and comfortable with the sitter, I would be happy and not worry about the misses.

ETA- Signalling can taper off anyway, even if there aren't other people offering the potty. I know this from experience!

[zoebird]

it could just be a phase, though, too, and not about the sitter or your DH.

right now, hawk is in a strange phase. he signals, but fights when DH takes him to the toilet. he doesn't fight when i take him. I have put DH and hawk on a schedule of potty, because i'll catch everything in a day, and DH is catching very little.

part of that is because DH gets distracted and doesn't see the signals. hawk is pretty clear, but i look at him more often apparently. and hten when he does see the signals, hawk fights him.

we don't know why. we aren't worried about it really.

so, this could be just a phase. if everyoen gets on the same schedule of taking her to potty, then perhaps she'll be ok with it. or perhaps she'll keep fighting the others for a bit.

i wouldn't worry about it too much. things come around.

[riboflavin]

My DS would only go for me for a while too. Then it took a bizarre turn, and he would only go for DH for at least a month! I think they just go through different comfort level phases. I mean, going potty is a pretty private thing, so it might feel weird for them at times going in front of others; especially someone newer like the babysitter. But maybe you could try the things others here suggested to see if it helps. Also, maybe DH and babysitter could try some things you don't usually do with her that could be exciting for her. I am not sure of her age, but what about a special toy to hold that she doesn't usually get-like an old cell phone or remote or something? Have her turn the bathroom light on and off or flush the toilet with her feet? Something different and fun. Maybe a potty song or a book.

For us, we would try these different things at times and other times we would just let him go with whomever he was most comfortable with if possible. If that person wasn't around we just expected misses. Eventually these phases ended and he went for both of us again.

[mamatobe08]

We have the same issue. DS will sign to me but no matter how many people are in the room, I am the one he comes up to when signing. And I'm not sure if he does it when I'm gone or not, because the other day he was with his dad and I was out for a few hours, and he went through 4(yes, FOUR) sets of training pants/jeans. The 2 days prior when I was with him all day, he was 100% dry. I don't know if that's because daddy doesn't pay attention like I do, or if he really waited to sign until after peeing his pants, but either way, I wasn't a happy camper lol.