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post #21 of 107
American lingo - we don't use the term 'bucket' in this country so I only ran across the word on MDC. I caught on quick though lol

And when I asked if you have actually ever carried a baby in one - I was gently refering to how heavy and uncomfortable they are to be toting around dangling from the crook of your arm. Mind - my son was 10 and a half pounds born...but I can tell you that even the thought of using it as a type of 'carrier' other than a car seat anywhere out of the car was quickly forgotten! lol

I completely agree with everything Llyra has said... oh! - I like that name! hehe
post #22 of 107
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Originally Posted by GoBecGo View Post
Aw, wait a minute, LOOK how comfy this mama looks!

http://www.twinkleandwhimsy.com/flyi...rierstrap.aspx
This is ridiculous!
post #23 of 107
I call the baby car seat a bucket but not as a way to be negative.

I loved the bucket when my kids were little. It kept them warm between the house and car and where ever we were going in the car. Once they move out of the bucket you have to dress them warmly and then take the coat off to put their 5 pt harness on in a cold car. And get to where you are going and then re-dress them again. bluck. The bucket is lovely for cold weather.

Some folks call it a bucket in a negative way when kids are schlepped around in it and never get out. Every implement has its pros and cons (okay, maybe some have to be looked at very closely for the pros. But a carseat has obvious qualitites that make it needed!) Even the AP icon of a sling or wrap can be overused or used in a way that isn't good for the kid/baby/little being.
post #24 of 107
Wait...how can a sling or wrap be overused? lol
post #25 of 107
Oh, people get judgmental about all kinds of things, and I think at least some of this is about showing off your AP bona fides. I have seen absolutely ridiculous statements about buckets (a term I don't in itself consider pejorative) to the effect that by carrying your baby into a grocery store in one, you are treating her "like an object, not a person".

Now - when I was an ignorant, judgy, no-baby-havin' girl, I too was perplexed by parents who carted their baby into the store in a bucket. Why not just take them out and carry them, I thought?

And of course, because God loves a good joke, I had my baby in the middle of winter in a cold climate. You better believe I do not unbuckle my baby and put him in a sling out in an uncovered parking lot when it's snowing heavily and below freezing and my hands are too cold to safely manage the transfer. We don't own a stroller: I'll take him out of his bucket once we're in the store, but if he's asleep, I won't disturb him.

I get that some people use their bucket as a place to park a baby who is never really picked up. But I find it hard to believe that the majority of parents - particularly the majority of MDC parents - use it that way.
post #26 of 107
I've carried a lot of 5 gallon buckets in my life (used to work in a factory). When I call it a baby bucket, it's a term of endearment. It's exactly the same body mechanics to carry a bucket as an infant seat.
I have found that lots of kids who Hate the car, seem to like the car once switched to a convertible car set. I can't imagine doing newborn care somewhere really cold when then carseat would be freezing out in the car. I'd either need a garage, or preheat the car, or a removable bucket seat to avoid putting a tiny 6 pound baby in a frozen car seat.

Along the same line, a motorcycle helmet is a brain bucket. Baby bucket is a natural extension.
post #27 of 107
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Originally Posted by ann_of_loxley View Post
Wait...how can a sling or wrap be overused? lol
When you don't want to be seen carrying a baby bucket so you drag your kid out of a cozy bucket in the parking lot (where it is 17 degrees and sleet is coming down sideways) and pop him/her in a sling under your coat.

When your kid would really much rather be down walking but you'd rather move quickly and don't want to be patient and let him look at the interesting dog poop for 15 minutes (or poke it with a stick!).

When you are still 15 pounds over weight and your think your 25 lb baby hides it when he/she is in a carrier on you. (That is real, btw. I asked an acquaintance why she wouldn't let her kid out when we were visiting a working farm. I was surprised that she was worried about mud or poop, etc when she told me that!)

When you should be down on the floor playing with said kid but you really want to get something selfish done, like clean the toilets, or make dinner, so you wrap the kid on your back and hope he/she is entertained by your hair! (Okay, okay, that's just me.......)

post #28 of 107
I thought they had their uses until I tried carrying one of the younger cousins in one. He was only like 10 lbs and sooo easy to carry with one arm by himself. The seat only added 5? 6? lbs, but I had to use both arms so I could hold the accursed thing away from my body enough to not be thwacked repeatedly in the legs. (Left him in it because he was asleep and we were heading to put him in the car.)

Then I tried carrying one that was a bit better and had a sort of bend in the handle so it could be carried more naturally, but it was still cumbersome and still whacked me in the legs from time to time.

Plus, they aren't handsfree, so there's another nuisance factor.

Er, so they have their uses for people who have tougher legs or stronger arms, but they just don't work for me.
post #29 of 107
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Originally Posted by mumm View Post
...and hope he/she is entertained by your hair! (Okay, okay, that's just me.......)

BTDT. And it worked, too, until she figured out that all the interesting stuff happens on the other side of mama.
post #30 of 107
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Originally Posted by ann_of_loxley View Post


And - have you actually carried a baby in one?...Whenever I see someone carrying a baby around in one trying to do shopping, etc... I want to tell them about he wonderful world of slings! lol
...which is why I'm not anti-bucket in the same way much of MDC is. I don't have a sling (never did find one that fit, and probably won't bother now), but I do use an Ergo. I love the Ergo, and dd2 is in it quite a lot. However, I find shopping while babywearing kind of a pain (and have conked one child's head, and knocked a jar of jam off a shelf with another child's foot). More to the point, dd2 likes sitting in her bucket and smiling at me while I shop. If she's sleeping, she will wake up if I move her out of her carseat, and usually won't go back to sleep. She also hates being put back in the bucket, but doesn't mind being in the bucket.

It also takes time to move her back and forth. I'm often on a fairly tight schedule. So, when I pick ds2 up from preschool, and head off to dd1's ballet class, I carry dd2 in the bucket - she'll be going in the Ergo during the class, but I really don't have the time or energy to pack an extra wrestle-screaming-baby-into-carseat episode into my afternoon.

I know there are babies that spend their whole lives in one container or another. But, a bucket is just a tool, and it kind of gets on my nerves when people express the "I want to tell them about slings/Ergos/babywearing" viewpoint. A baby being out in public in a bucket doesn't mean the mom (or dad, for that matter) doesn't know about babywearing. I was babywearing in 1993, long before I ever heard the term. I love babywearing. DD2 spends most of her life being carried, worn, or crawling around exploring. She also spends a bit of time in a bucket...and that's almost all in public (we do sometimes use a swing for short naps at home).
post #31 of 107
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Originally Posted by GoBecGo View Post
Aw, wait a minute, LOOK how comfy this mama looks!

http://www.twinkleandwhimsy.com/flyi...rierstrap.aspx
She must have given birth to an invisible air baby! Lucky gal!

Can you imagine the neck/back problems that think would cause?! Not to mention the bruises on your thighs. I'm laughing over here at the idea of anyone using one, but obviously SOMEONE is purchasing it or it wouldn't exist. Yikes.
post #32 of 107
Even with a summer baby I had plenty of times of getting into the backseat of the car to put her into a sling and zip my extra large coat over both of us. And half the time latch her on to nurse, too.
post #33 of 107
I consider a ergo a sling.
post #34 of 107
If baby falls asleep in the car, I take the bucket in with me (to wherever). But if baby is awake, I sling 'em. We don't use it inside though. Just for car rides and if they fall asleep, for the errand itself.
post #35 of 107
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Originally Posted by mumm View Post
When you don't want to be seen carrying a baby bucket so you drag your kid out of a cozy bucket in the parking lot (where it is 17 degrees and sleet is coming down sideways) and pop him/her in a sling under your coat.
OMG that's totally me. I feel really bad about being ashamed of being seen with a carseat LOL I've never even taken it out of my car but you know if I had a convertible for her that wouldn't be an option anyway.
post #36 of 107
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Originally Posted by ann_of_loxley View Post
Wait...how can a sling or wrap be overused? lol
If one is wearing a baby who desperately wants down, then the sling/wrap/other carrier is being overused, don't you think?
post #37 of 107
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Originally Posted by ann_of_loxley View Post
American lingo - we don't use the term 'bucket' in this country so I only ran across the word on MDC. I caught on quick though lol

And when I asked if you have actually ever carried a baby in one - I was gently refering to how heavy and uncomfortable they are to be toting around dangling from the crook of your arm. Mind - my son was 10 and a half pounds born...but I can tell you that even the thought of using it as a type of 'carrier' other than a car seat anywhere out of the car was quickly forgotten! lol

I completely agree with everything Llyra has said... oh! - I like that name! hehe
ah ok yeah I understand that because I do recall thinking when carrying around the bigger baby that there is now way I could do this for a long walk/period of time..lol
post #38 of 107
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Originally Posted by Storm Bride View Post
If one is wearing a baby who desperately wants down, then the sling/wrap/other carrier is being overused, don't you think?
If we're in the middle of a busy farmer's market and he wants down to pull a pile of ripe tomatoes off a farmer's table, nope.
If we are some place where he could reasonably and safely walk on his own and hold my hand or otherwise be put down to do his own thing, then absolutely!

Melinda
post #39 of 107
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Originally Posted by Sharlla View Post
OMG that's totally me. I feel really bad about being ashamed of being seen with a carseat LOL I've never even taken it out of my car but you know if I had a convertible for her that wouldn't be an option anyway.
Wait, so some people are honestly self-conscious or ashamed to be seen carrying an infant car seat? Wow.

My DD was a horrible napper, so if she fell asleep in the infant seat (nobody in my part of the country calls them "buckets"), you can bet I was keeping her in it for our trek into the store. If I had taken her out to wear her, she would have been awake instantly. And you know, sometimes it's just nice being able to enjoy dinner out with your husband while the baby sleeps next to you on an upside down high chair in a car seat. I did enough one-handed eating at home. It never crossed my mind to be embarrassed about being seen carrying it. That's just ridiculous, IMO.
post #40 of 107


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Originally Posted by Gimme Pineapple View Post
She must have given birth to an invisible air baby! Lucky gal!

Can you imagine the neck/back problems that think would cause?! Not to mention the bruises on your thighs. I'm laughing over here at the idea of anyone using one, but obviously SOMEONE is purchasing it or it wouldn't exist. Yikes.
And here I out myself...

When DS was born (he is now almost 8.5 yo), Fisher Price was just stopping making car seats. They had an infant seat that had a strap instead of a handle so you could wear it like that.

It was WONDERFUL. I had to search it down to get it, but it was great. For the times DS was asleep in the carseat so I didn't have to remove him BUT I could still have both hands free for DD (2.5 when he was born). I could hold her hand. Pick her up with both hands under her armpits and get her on my shoulders. Whatever. I could pick up my stuff with my hands and DS was right there in front of me.

I think my thighs did get pretty banged up but it was totally worth it to not have to decide between:
1) keeping baby in seat and using both hands to carry it
2) somehow transfering baby from seat to sling, probably waking him up.

Now, we used the seat right around two months, so kinda expensive per use, but I that seat was great. With DD we basically didn't put her down *at all* until she was four months old (and the doctor asked if she could roll over--- we didn't know because we never put her down! lol) and I knew that wouldn't happen with DS because I also had DD. This allowed me to keep him closer than a "normal" infant seat while he slept and be, literally, hands on with DD at the same time.
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