Originally Posted by peachopotamus
Thanks BeautifulWife for your kind words.
I let people figure it out themselves with my last pregnancy also. I suppose I'll do the same this go round. The problem is mostly my in-laws. They seemed upset with me no matter what I do. They have a tendency to make my life their problem. They wanted DH to have a vasectomy because they didn't want us having more kids. I know this is going to freak MIL out. It makes it difficult to celebrate when I feel I need to hide the news.
I'm glad to have MDC!
uhm, i am WITH YOU ON THIS ONE! i have a "comfort lie" i tell everyone who asks. becuase evidently, drs are the ONLY way to go. my mil was a nurse, like 9876437247813570948558253234534543.7 years ago, and thinks she knows it ALL. i constantly get comments like "thats not how they do it in the hospital" and "you dont know what your getting into" and then anything new i tell her, she tries to reteach me. oh man, and when she found out we were having a home birth! she FLIPPED! i just said, i understand your concern, but we are fully capable of handling our decisions and the problems that arise. didnt work, she still screamed at me, but hey i tried
the inlaws are also throwing a fit for us to go to st louis (12hr car ride) on easter.. im due today. seems like a little much for a newborn i tell them, and then i immedietly get a lecture on carseats, breastfeeding, and cloth diapers. also, she is still griping at my husband for using bodywash instead of bar soap
(minirant snuck in somewhere
so everyone thinks i have a MW, and they still freak out, but not as much
this is out first baby/first uc
my mom and gma and sister will be at the birth, but they think the mw just isnt coming becuase i dont want her. we live in a small german community in texas, and EVERYONE is soo concerned on when "squish" is getting here, and when we are being induced, and blah blah blah. next time, i wont be using a comfort lie, and i wont be announcing. i will just let them find out when they do. my mother is a little more accepting of my hippie ways
she will probably be told somewhere around the second tri, and so her fam will know, but everyone else can just find out when they realize that im not just gaining tons of weight
so know your not alone
and let the naysayers find out when they notice. i also dont give up birth details, if ppl ask what hospital, i say oh no, at home, they say OMGSH! SERIOUSLY! i say yes, YOUR CRAZY. possibly. and then we move on. same goes whith when are you being induced!?- i am not. -the baby will grow to 16 lbs! you cant!- big baby= long slow labor, im okay with that. go have your elective csection and leave me alone
chin up momma! its hard to stay positive feeling about something you feel so strongly about when everyone is looking down on you, but know that they dont decide for you. and God makes it difficult for a reason. he gives us the naysayers, and the rude people to make it hard to make us strong
have faith, and keep your chin up
i personally cant wait to rub it in their faces that i went down a different less beaten path, and dang it all, came out marvelous!