Aw! I just noticed this post and how timely and sweet of you to post it! Thank you!
A huge thing for me has been realizing that I am *totally capable* of being a single woman. I've been partnered since I was 22 years old and my STBX was (is) very, very handy and has always done all the "manly" things around the house. Because of that, and because, also, I think, of the way I grew (which is that my dad belittled women who were handy and we girls were never really taught the skills that our brother was--like changing tires or operating tools or mowing the lawn. Rather, we were encouraged to find a man to take care of us and treat us like princesses!)
So my belief that I'm incapable of doing things like shoveling my walk or taking out the trash or fixing loose cabinet doors or whatever is very deep-seated. For me, realizing that a) I *can* do these things! Or at least I can learn to or b) I can call someone for things I really can't do and that is NOT a big deal has been HUGE.
Basically, I've felt both terrified and exhilarated by this whole thing. I am realizing that I am strong and I don't NEED a man and this is a revelation to me. When I realize that in my bones and in my heart, I feel so strong and alive!
So thank you again for the reminder that we can all do this! We will all heal from this and can build lives that are happier, fuller and stronger than ever before!
Hugs!
and shout out to all the Mamas out there that are single, in the divorce process or in the process of leaving a marriage. It is all tough and I admire anyone living it and going through it. I am starting the divorce process as well and it is super stressful. We are all strong though and can do this!!! 
