Originally Posted by Theia
Thank you for that perspective. I feel bad sometimes if I complain because I am a mom of 1. I always assume that it is more difficult with many.
I find it more difficult with many, but there are a lot of factors involved. My sister and I never fought until I hit puberty. I honestly don't remember a single squabble, and neither do my mom or sister. DD1 and ds2, otoh, play together really well sometimes...and are at each other's throats other days. DS2 is honestly more work than the other three combined, in many ways. I'd totally get any parent who had just him and complained about how hard it was, yk?
OTOH, I had a completely unplanned 10 year gap between one and two...so I've almost always
had a "built-in babysitter" (we do try not to abuse the privilege...and he gets paid for some of it). In that respect, I have it much easier
than many parents of one child, because I can go out on my own if I have to...at least at certain times of the day, but those times are less restricted than if I only
had dh to spell me, yk?
I think anyone who is having a hard time is entitled to vent. Rearing children is hard work...and can be incredibly emotionally draining.