I hate my laptop SO much right now! If you breath on it wrong, it navigates away and loses my entire post! And it was long. Ok, again!
Originally Posted by mumm
I have my M.Ed. and think that homeschooling would probably be best for my oldest child. The thing that is holding me back isn't the concern of teaching him (or more accurately him learning) but household management and family balance. When the heck would I clean my floors and prep dinner and clean up the general clutter if I had 4 kids with me all day, every day? When would I sneak my ice cream and check in here at mdc?
I'm afraid I would end up hating my kids (and them hating me) if they didn't have the break school provides for us all. So i "don't know how you do it
" but in a household management sort of way.
For me, when my dd turned "school age", taking care of her and her two younger brothers and running the house was absolutely no different than it had been BEFORE she turned that age. In fact, it was easier, but I find older kids easier. They can wait, they can help you, can wash their own hands and wipe their own butts and turn lights and tvs off and on and put on their own shoes and hand you a diaper for the baby and entertain themselves for periods of time and they are fun to talk to.
Of course, we aren't "sit at the kitchen table" kind of homeschoolers, but more of unschoolers. And at the first grade age level, she knows everything any first grader does, only she learned it in a ridiculously shorter time. And bonus, her brother who isn't "school age" yet, knows roughly two thirds of what she does ALREADY from watching and soaking it up.
I have an 18 year old who went through public school and when he was dd's age, I spent much more time helping him with homework and to study for tests than I now spent on the sum total of her school and she knows every bit as much as he did, probably more. And without the stress induced tummy aches that he had. And he was an honor student, it wasn't that he struggled in school, but school was stressful to him. Given dd's personality, it would be for her too.
I mean no offense to anyone, but I don't see how school is a break for the child. That's like saying work is a break for me. Not really. Does it get me out of the house? Yes. Is it relaxing? Not so much.
For me personally, the getting my oldest up and to school in the mornings and to bed at night was a freaking nightmare. But some kids are morning larks and I imagine that makes it much easier! So, for me and I'm not saying it should be the same for everyone, but for me, homeschooling is easier or at least less stressful!
Originally Posted by Storm Bride
Yeah. Four kids, stressful as it is (especially with ds2), is a walk in the park compared to one kid, massive financial strain, and a disintegrating marriage. DS1 was a picnic...the others aren't a picnic - but I have a functional life.
So true! When my oldest was little (and he was an only child for 11 years) I was in a miserable marriage, struggled financially and was just generally not happy. Fast forward, now I have four, at one point six living at home (inherited two nephews when I married dh) plus my disabled fil who lives with us, but my stress levels are so much lower because I have a happy marriage, which just makes up for anything else! Plus a stable income, that helps too! So, it's certainly not just how many kids you have. Plus ds1 was SO high needs! I knew early on that I could in no way handle him and a baby. I had to wait. DD was so freaking easy that we had ds2 19months later!! So there are life circumstances, there are the personalities of the kids and let's face it, the personality of the parent. Some people can't handle as much as others.
I had a professor say once that "everyone, if they have one child or twelve, has one more than they can competently handle" which made me laugh cuz it's kinda true. You don't realize until you are in the situation that perhaps I have bitten off more than I can chew.....
Originally Posted by Breathless Wonder
Anglyn- I think this is probably one of the best posts on this subject I have ever seen. Thanks!