2010 Moving Support Thread - Page 9

[confustication]

I am overwhelmed at the idea of a garage sale, but I think that is what we will ultimately do- at least as a jumping off point. Because it is a very long move for us, we are going to take pretty limited 'stuff' with us.

[limette]

I wanted to update you all because this house selling mess is the most bizarre thing ever.

So last I wrote, buyer had said things would be sorted out that Monday. Of course they were not. Then he moved it to Tuesday. Our conditions for the NS house were supposed to be met that Friday, they were not.

His excuse was that he owed the bank a fine and they wouldn't let him transfer the settlement money into the account until he had paid the fine ($1k). Said he had been running around all week trying to get the 1k. Said he was extremely broke and would be getting a pension check this past Monday to open the account with.

Called him Monday. Claims he was thrown out of the bank and then went to a bar and got into a fistfight with the security guard from the bank. Said the police were on their way over and he was expecting to get arrested. Will call us back.

Tuesday, no phone call. Our real estate agent called him and his girlfriend said he was in Timmins until Thursday talking to his lawyer. During this time he kept texting our agent asking to borrow more money from him (agent had lent him $4k), using his cell phone or his remote control helicopter as collateral (unbelievable I know).

Today dh called him again and he says "oh my kidneys failed I'm in the hospital!" Dh told him we're done with this and he needs to sign a release from the contract. He said that's fine, just drop the papers off with his mom and she'll bring them to the hospital.

Dh called the hospital and nobody by his name has been admitted.

So hopefully he'll either sign the release or our lawyer can get us out of the contract via a loop hole.

Either way we have a new legitimate buyer who wants the house as badly as we want out of it. She already has financing in place at the bank and her deposit money, just need to get an inspection (pending cancellation of our current contract).

If a miracle happens we'll be out of here by the end of the month if not sooner.


I swear I will never move again after this completely unbelievable fiasco.

[dawningmama]

Oh my goodness, limette! That sounds so frustrating!

I have not been keeping up with this thread because our move kept getting pushed back and there were all these obstacles and I just didn't want to think or talk about it more than I absolutely had to. But, things are moving ahead now! We have a closing date on the new house in NC next week! My mom and dp are going down Wednesday, doing a walk through and closing. Dp also has a couple of interviews lined up. Very promising!

The plan is to get the moving truck and actually move the following weekend (the 22ndish?) so I am now packing up the rest of the stuff. I'm going through clothes and linens and tossing/passing down what isn't in top shape. Then I'll start packing paperwork I think. I'm waiting to hear from the school district what stuff I'll need to bring to get the kids registered.

[mumkimum]

Crazy stuff going on there limette - but it's awesome that you have a legitimate buyer now after all that drama .


We've hit this 'OMG will this place ever sell why'd we do this' wall of frustration and have been pretty bummed out . Waiting, waiting, waiting. Sigh. I know we just have to wait and do this now, later isn't really going to be any better, blah blah blah. (The heat doesn't help - we all get extra cranky during the summer to begin with). Trying to get the pity party for myself over this week and then I can get back to the being motivated to keep up on the cleaning and keeping good energy in the house (got a chocolate parfait the other day)

[limette]

Originally Posted by mumkimum

We've hit this 'OMG will this place ever sell why'd we do this' wall of frustration and have been pretty bummed out . Waiting, waiting, waiting. Sigh. I know we just have to wait and do this now, later isn't really going to be any better, blah blah blah.

It is so hard because your life becomes about cleaning and waiting and not much else. It's impossible to move forward with your life if you don't know how much longer you'll be in your house.

We realized last night that our biggest source of depression was the inability to exercise our creativity at this point. We spent the past 5 years in this house renoing, decorating, gardening and making plans. To have that all stop while we wait for it to sell is soul sucking.

[mumkimum]

Originally Posted by limette

It's impossible to move forward with your life if you don't know how much longer you'll be in your house.

We realized last night that our biggest source of depression was the inability to exercise our creativity at this point. We spent the past 5 years in this house renoing, decorating, gardening and making plans. To have that all stop while we wait for it to sell is soul sucking.

YES! That is so where we're at. We're usually doing a lot of gardening, I can mess around buying new house stuff or sewing or making other stuff but I can't now cause of the mess and, oh yeah, IT'S ALL PACKED UP. We finally put in some watermelons in the raised bed cause we figured it'd look nicer. Sigh. And I just realized I packed up all the 6-12 month clothes and since it's getting closer I might need some of those (and we can't get to them in storage). It's so hard to stay motivated.


Hope other people have exciting stuff going on even though we don't.

We'd been working on an offer for a new house that would be concurrent while ours is still for sale and they're totally getting everything they want and dragging their feet, I think we're going to drop that. . . we're going to look at other stuff, at least we enjoy that and can have some kind of excitement.


And Avent how's it been for you?

[Ruthiegirl]

Well, we are sort of moving. We will be leaving our house for 6-7 months next year while we travel for dh's sabbatical. Friends will be housesitting and while we don't need to move the big furniture, we do need to move all of our gear out, store things in the attic and generally make it decent so that someone else can live here.

I have been clearing cabinets and hauling loads and loads of things to the thriftshops around town. I am so tired! And my jaw is literally dropped when I realize how much stuff we have. I thought we were such minimalists! We have boxes of books we have never opened from our last move. I have loads and loads of things my MIL dumped here. I really wish she had just hauled this stuff to the junk shop herself. Instead, I am stuck doing it.

I am really stuck with what to do with family 'treasures'. When we bought our house, my MIL gave me boxes and boxes of family glass -- lots of depression glass and glasses that dh's mom collected over the years.

The stuff is fine, I don't really like it though and we have never used it. It is all in the same boxes it came in. I have three wild kids and there is no chance I am bringing this stuff out. I hate feeling guilty when things get broken -- especially delicate, fragile glass that is just begging to be broken!

Anyway, my big project this weekend is to unpack the glassware, photograph it all and then post a big email to the family and see if anyone wants it. If not, it is out of here!


My list of things to work on:

1. Glassware
2. Kids toys (they have so many!!!!!)
3. Kids books

[Ruthiegirl]

Oh, and my thoughts and well wishes are with all of you gals selling your houses! This market is crazy! We initially thought about selling our house and taking this opportunity to buy something smaller, but the market here is saturated and insane.

[limette]

After dodging us all day Thursday with various unbelievable excuses, the buyer finally signed a release from the contract. Turns out his lawyers didn't even know who he was. I don't what kinda scam he was pulling but I am so relieved to be out of that sale.

We should have a closing date and thus a purchase agreement with our new buyer today. Our agent found her (she's his friend) a real estate lawyer that can close the sale quickly so we can get out of here.

The couple we are buying from in Nova Scotia is fine with a last minute closing date, they will just move in with relatives if they can't find something else quickly. Told us we need to hurry before they harvest the whole garden!

I just turned 34 weeks and it's getting a little too close to the due date for my comfort. I'm crossing my fingers that we are out of here by the 20th.

[limette]

We're pulling our house off the market tonight. We just got jerked around with buyer number two who signed a purchase agreement and then had to pull out yesterday because her uncle is mad that she purchased a house without getting his input first (retired real estate agent).

We're so done. Two failed sales in two weeks, jerked around for over a month by the buyers and had tons of lookers who had no intention of buying anyway.

I'm so sick of people wasting our time. Now dh is unemployed as a result and we are up $2k in debt.

So yeah, we aren't moving. Dreams don't come true.

[dawningmama]

Oh, (((limette))). ugh, that just sucks. I'm so sorry.

[Paxjourney]

Feeling a bit overwhelmed. Dh was gone for 7mo with his job and during that time I started working 32 hours a week. DH came home and has been offered a position 4 hours away from where we currently live. We are still undecided about if he will take it or not... We lean more and more on the yes end of things. More money, less hours, good stability, we have friends that live in that area so not starting from scratch. Land is cheaper and we could purchase a few acres and have the life style we have been wanting. My profession it's easier than most to find some type of employment (nurse).

We've been spending the last week going thru our belongings. I've gone to Goodwill 4 times and will be making another trip there Monday. I thought we had simplified along time ago.. but I'm amazed at the extra "stuff" we have.

Our plan if DH takes this job is to put the house on the market ASAP. DH would be starting in September and I would keep working until November at my current Job. DH would get a 2 bedroom flat and we would alternate weekends up there to visit him. Hoping that our house will sell quick.

We hope to price it aggressively and we have friends of our who made this same move last year. Their home sold in 5 mo. Similar house etc.

The plan would be for me and the girls to move there permantly at Christmas time.

We would be down sizing from 1840 sq feet to about 800 sq feet. For about a year or so.

[lolar2]

I'm sorry your selling didn't work out, limette.

Paxjourney, good luck!

Tomorrow is the big day for us! We don't own a house so that has made it somewhat easier, but packing is never easy of course.

[lookatreestar]

do you guys mind if i join in? we are moving out of our rental in 3 weeks and have nowhere to go yet! so frustrating. everything is in boxes/storage minus, clothes and our comp. however i am packing us up this week and we are going to stay with family until i find a place. thinking of buying is overwhelming, but on the other hand thinking about another rental is just depressing

[dawningmama]

We are moving on Saturday! We get the rental truck on Thursday and we'll pack all day Friday. My dp and cousin will drive the truck down Saturday and I'll drive myself, the kids and dog down Saturday as well.

omg


I'm pretty well packed. Just have to do the dishes and glasses, electronics (computers and game systems which are just going in plastic tubs), clothes and linens (going in plastic bags). Have a couple of pieces of business I need to take care of in town, but other than that, I'm ready! lol Boy, it sounds like a lot when I type it all out but I'm pretty confident we'll be able to get it all done.

I'm incredibly excited but also a little anxious about the actual drive down. It feels like so much could go wrong! I'm just breathing and concentrating on the exciting stuff.

[marieangela]

We have yet to get an offer on our house. People keep coming to see it, love it....but have problems with things that we can't do anything about (shared driveway, small closets). Meanwhile, the house that we wanted was taken off the market. School starts in a month and there is nothing in our school district that we like (if we manage to sell). Now I'm worrying about having to pull a 2nd grader and a kindergartener out of school in the middle of the year if we end up buying a house in a different school district.

On another note, has anyone else done this- we worked like crazy to get our house ready to be put on sale and now that it's on sale, we can't seem bring ourselves to do much else. There are some places where I need to touch up paint, but I just keep putting it off. I'm so tired of painting! We have neatly stacked piles of stuff in the basement that need to be sorted, but I just can't bring myself to do it. The house looks good enough to sell now and we can't change the things like having a duplex behind us and a shared driveway, so why bother...

[dawningmama]

Oh my goodness! We have a cash offer on our house! Ohplease ohplease ohplease let this happen!!!!

[mumkimum]

Originally Posted by marieangela

On another note, has anyone else done this- we worked like crazy to get our house ready to be put on sale and now that it's on sale, we can't seem bring ourselves to do much else. There are some places where I need to touch up paint, but I just keep putting it off. I'm so tired of painting! We have neatly stacked piles of stuff in the basement that need to be sorted, but I just can't bring myself to do it. The house looks good enough to sell now and we can't change the things like having a duplex behind us and a shared driveway, so why bother...

Yeah, at moments I feel like we're letting the place get worse (probably not - I mean we've looked at places kept up in way worse shape than ours that have sold or whatever. . . so there's that) but minor touch-ups or things I really meant to take care of here or there (honestly, probably stuff that people don't notice) go by the wayside cause after all "nice house. . . buyers liked other places better" just doesn't get that motivating over time. Gah!

Dh & I had this 'what are we going to do if we're at this a year?' discussion, and talked about renting out the house or something else as a possibility. It's hard to stay upbeat (and generally we feel upbeat and at peace and meant to sell and move now). We'll probably reduce again sometime before the fall and see if that gets us.

Dawningmama - woohoo! Good luck for you!


And I'm bummed for you too limette. Hope your lovely new baby helps bring some cheer around soon.

[dawningmama]

Omg, moving tomorrow. The rental truck (the enormous, sun-blocking, nearly-the-size-of-my-whole-house rental truck) is in my driveway.



omg

[Magelet]

we're moving. We couldn't afford our apartment anymore, so we gave notice on it almost a month ago. we have to be out by july 31, and we haven't/hadn't found a place yet.

My dad is moving to the city for a couple months, and not renting out his place, so he's letting us stay there for a while. Which is emotionally weird. Also, packing is hard. (plus trying to figure out what of our stuff we'll need there and what to stay in boxes since he's not moving most of his stuff (obviously it would be great not to half unpack any boxes.)

It's half an hour/45 minutes from both of our jobs, (different schedules), my synagogue, to which I go 1-2 times a week, minimum, our friends, where we go dancing, etc, and we have one car. And the public transportation from here to there is hugely crappy. (and if one of us goes out to work and takes the car, the other is stuck in the house (or hiking). there is no stores/markets/libraries/anything but a park, and elementary school and some trails within walking distance, and no public transit at all without driving at least 10-15 minutes. It will save us a lot of money though (1200 in rent a month saved- increased travel costs of 250 IF we came back here every day). we'll be able to build up some savings. and I'll get to see my sis more before she goes away to college in a couple weeks (well for like a week or two lol)

I have the double task of packing up our apartment, moving it, AND getting rid of/storing everything in my childhood room and bathroom, which I never dealt with other than to take the stuff I wanted to have with me out. It's a mess. We'll need to take apart the twin bed and store it, and probably sell? store? the desk, just to fit our mattress in. (tiny room). also the cat will have to live in just my childhood room (where we'll sleep to be with him,) or on a harness/leash combo outside.

I'm very overwhelmed with packing. Yesterday though, we did buy a file box, and I got 80% of our papers filed away. It felt so great, because piles of papers were my biggest clutter bugaboo. But most of the stuff is still here, still a mess, and I'm a bit overwhelmed.

I've never really moved a ton of stuff by myself before. When we moved in, I gradually moved some stuff in over two weeks, then over the year, moved more stuff in and aquired new stuff. (for instance, purchasing a mattress, finding a table) When I moved to college my mom helped/did most of it.

(And I'm ignoring until we've moved that we can only stay there til december max, and that we may have trouble finding a place we can afford here. And that we both have to increase our income. It's not an issue while we're at dad's, and I can only deal with moving OR money issues/finding a new place, not both at once.)