HARD HARD HARD and I'm getting scared...

[makinganescape]

Ok, here's my background... I'm 25... at 17 I met my ex, he was 33. We were together until March 08... Got married in June of 07... Had DD Oct. 06. It was always pretty strained, mostly because I always wanted to be free and explore and I never did because he made me feel so guilty about "abandoning him" (that isn't an excuse, only an explanation... I know I shouldn't have married him before I did.) I was young and naive. I left him and it was uglyuglyuglyuglyugly... Too long to post here... I left DD with him because I had no home and worked 80 hours a week... He kept the apt. and had no job. It was obvious that was the best place for her. I met my boyfriend and had DD2 in August 09. We have a great relationship, but a few weeks ago we got into a fight. I told my mom, and she told my uncle who told his friend who told his wife who told my ex... (follow that?) Now my ex (still technically my husband as we have no agreement to ANYTHING) won't let my daughter come to my house. I am allowed to have her away from my boyfriend and she can sleep over if I don't sleep at home. I said f*** no... He wants me to take her only when he is at work... Time when I can't. I don't know what to do. I know this isn't enough info... There are a million things that he is doing and saying to me... I am just at a loss... I will write more when I have a battery for my computer...

[Goodmom2008]

Did your boyfriend hit you? That could be your stbx's (he's not an ex until the divorce is final) objection. I know I would have a problem with my ex being hit by his gf or hit her, if he has one, that is. I wouldn't want my kids to be around that. That's why I got a divorce.

Regardless, without a custody order and a parenting plan in place, there's not much you can do. You may want to consult with an attorney and get the ball rolling on your divorce.

[Freedom~Mama]

I agree with the PP. Getting something filed as far as temp. custody and divorce papers would be your best bet. Without anything in place you aren't very protected. Good luck Mama.