Originally Posted by RiverTam
Too many gifted people in my family have had too many bad run-ins with public schools with an agenda that is NOT in their best interest for me to trust any public school with assessing my child. Refusing a school's diagnosis and recommendations re. medication is a fast ticket to being labeled an uncaring, uncooperative bad parent.
Please be careful how you state such information. The OP said that her child goes to a public gifted
school. My daughter goes to a public gifted magnet school--one in which children who are assessed as gifted are "invited" to attend. ALL of the teachers are endorsed in gifted education. Both my husband and I are gifted and I have a PhD in education and have worked in public education for most of my career. I am extremely impressed with our gifted magnet elementary school. They meet my daughter's needs and differentiate instruction to meet the needs of ALL of the learners in the classroom. Gifted doesn't just mean "smart". You can be gifted in a variety of ways (see writings by Howard Gardner) and this school has been the best learning environment for my child. I always cringe when I see or hear things like what you have written because it wipes away the work of those of us who DO understand gifted learners, work with them, know them, and educate them...and sometimes ARE them.
To the OP, make sure your child's teacher has an endorsement in gifted education (it varies state by state). If so, I would assume that she would be well aware of the variety of ways that students who are identified as gifted present themselves. My daughter has classmates who sound very much like your child--and they are not ADHD or have any other "issues" (for lack of a better word). The teacher makes sure that her instructional plans meet the variety of oral, aural, kinesthetic and visual learning needs for EACH learner in her classroom. There are a variety of kinesthetic activities for that style of learner built in to each lesson for children who sound very much like yours--and then, for a child like my daughter, she has simultaneous learning opportunities for those who are "the book worms" and who do best while engaging verbally but not physically.
I would say that if your son goes to the same type of school that my daugther attends (a public magnet school where students are identified in the first grade and then chosen specifically for this school)--then there is someone on that staff who can help you. These schools are not funded willy-nilly and they have to keep their noses clean in order to keep their funding (especially in this economy). That's our situation, anyway, so I know my child is getting what she needs. Hope this helps.