Putting the bank account in my name is to make sure that he doesn't take out the money I need to pay the mortgage, etc. I am not going to have my paychecks continue to be direct deposited into an account that he has access to and risk him draining it and leaving me no way to pay my bills. He hasn't done that yet, but obviously he is desperate and I can't trust him. We don't have extra $$, so it's not like there is a lot to be divided up.
Glad you're being careful about the money. There are too many stories of one person getting cleaned out and taking years to pay off the other person's debt.