Originally Posted by Barbie64g
I would like to point out my SIL as an example of how CIO DOESNT WORK! Shes almost 17. She was the fourth with 10 years between her and her youngest brother (Hes 27) She was a horrible sleeper. I don't know how often she was left to CIO, but I have heard my MIL make some sort of comment about having to clean up puke. I also know that at the age of three, the boys (HUsband and BILs) would take turns sleeping with her, because she would NOT sleep by herself. To this day, she HATES being home by herself. She gets to scared and freaked out. She still asks to spend the night at my house rather then be alone in her house until 1030pm (At which time her parents would get home from whatever) Just throwing that out there.
My mother was not AP, but her maternal instinct told her letting us cry at night was cruel. She spent many a night sleeping on the floors of our bedrooms. Neither of us have any problem being alone, EVER.
How funny, my SIL (the baby of the family) always slept with someone else (mom, sister or brothers) growing up, and has never been able to sleep alone! I don't think she's afraid of being home alone, but even as a teen would sleep w/mom or her friends. As soon as she went to college she found a boyfriend and they've been inseparable ever since...I don't know if it proves anything, but being left alone to cry is not the only way to make someone unable to sleep alone!
But in all seriousness, I totally agree with everything else you mamas are saying. Sure it would be nice to get a full night of sleep, but not at my daughter's expense. I could never sleep through her cries.