I am want to be done

[poopzmom]

I have twins who are 19 months. They have been bf since day one. No bottles no pacis and they have always slept with me. One is very laid back the other is high maintenance. I hate hate hate loathe despise bfing this time around. It is uncomfortable and draining and I want to be done. The one that is laid back I could probably wean. If I tell her no when she wants to nurse she is fine with cuddling. The problem is when she sees her sister nurse then she wants to. The other one is just so high maintenace. She wants to stay latched on all night. She won't let go. If I un latch her she screams. I am against CIO but honestly I thought I would just lose it some nights because she won't get off me. I can't function after sleeping with 45 lbs of babies on me. Scratching me and moving around all night. I am just tired and I want to be done. Honestly I would be okay with just nursing them to sleep but they don't sleep more then an hour. If I tell the one no she will just sit in the room and scream her lungs out. She has cried for over an hour and then I give in. my dh is useless and I am exhausted and could use some advice.

[0cean]

I don't think setting limits on nursing is the same as CIO. CIO is like abandoning a baby alone with no parent. But if you are there and offering something to drink and your company the message will get through that you are not an "open bar" all night long. It may take a week or a few, but they can adjust for you. And if they are ever sick then maybe you will make an exception but then go back to meeting your needs for sleep. You will not do anyone any favors by wearing yourself out! And if you really want to totally wean I think 19 months with twins is an outstanding accomplishment and would be proud! I have nursed for 11 years now and just now am weaning my 4th and know personally the stress of tandem nursing.

You are an amazing woman and you deserve your rest!

[jecombs]

My DD was slightly younger than your twins when I decided we needed to night-wean. Getting some sleep at night enabled to continue nursing DD for another year during the day. We used Dr. Jay Gordon's method for co-sleeping families. Yes, DD cried... a lot for the first couple of nights... but I stayed strong and the crying gradually decreased every night and she stopped asking to nurse. Here is the link to Dr. Jay's method, in case you're interested.

I have to say, I think nursing twins for 19 mo is a fabulous accomplishment! I wouldn't blame you if you decide you want to totally wean. You have done more than I probably could have!

[cmhermes]

I set limits and say no to nursing with my 2. They aren't twins, but they are 2 and 3. They learned nursing etiquette. I night weaned both around the age of your twins.
I have no concrete advice other than, if you are ready to wean, do it. If you just want it to be at certain times with time timits, do it. ((((hugs))))