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post #1 of 26
2/26/10 at 1:26am
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post #2 of 26
2/26/10 at 1:41am
oh dear!! STOP feeling so guilty!! I agree that having your pet rats in the bedroom was probably not a good idea, but now you have moved them and taken care of the problem. I was just reading a parenting magazine that suggested doing exactly what you are doing to get a few extra minutes of sleep in the morning- letting your baby/toddler play a bit on their own in the morning. You said you have a play pen? Would he play in there for awhile? Maybe that way you could worry less. We are all tired as mommies, and I understand trying to get any extra sleep. I think it's wonderful that you co-sleep with your son and you should continue to do so. Everything is ok- you're son is ok. Stop beating yourself up!
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post #3 of 26
2/26/10 at 1:44am
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post #4 of 26
2/26/10 at 1:47am
i kinda dont understand how the rats and co-sleeping relate =\

im sorry you had such a scare ... you can think of it this way - because you were co-sleeping, you heard your son choking and were able to get the seed out of his throat. does that help?

but honestly, no matter how tired i am in the morning, i HAVE to get up to watch my DS otherwise things just like this happen. even with a completely babyproofed room. what if he is crawling super fast then trips then bonks his head, KWIM?

hopefully going to bed earlier helps you out, GL
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post #5 of 26
2/26/10 at 2:00am
Really, stop beating yourself up! If it makes you geel any better my dd choked on a penny when I was awake and just vegging out! These things happen. Like pp said doesn't it make you feel better that you were there? One of the reasons I cosleep is to be with my child where I know what she's doing. Letting her sleep in another room? Forget about it!
Just a side thought... how big are these seeds? Could he really have choked or did it just make him gag?
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post #6 of 26
2/26/10 at 2:10am
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2/26/10 at 2:12am
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post #8 of 26
2/26/10 at 2:12am
i'm tired too. when i was reading and getting to the part about him choking, i was thinking, OMG it was one of the baby rats he was choking on. at least it wasn't that!!

well, for what it's worth, it sounds like you aren't going to be resting well for awhile now anyway, so i'd quit worrying about what will happen in the morning when you are dozing.

are you taking naps during the day, ie, when the baby sleeps? i have started taking naps around noon with my 5 month old whilest letting my 3.5 year old entertain herself. they are a great refresher that enable me to get through the afternoon with both kids...
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post #9 of 26
2/26/10 at 2:13am
no no no!! don't feel guilty! this happens to EVERY baby, i promise. and most of the time, mama catches it and everyone is okay! oh gosh, i can name something that each of my siblings (i have five) stuck in their mouth and gagged on. one time my sister who didn't crawl until she was ten months found a paper towel and almost choked on that ...and my mom has NO idea how she found it! my son has already had the opportunity to get bits of stuff in his mouth before i could catch him. don't feel guilty, just take it as a learning experience! now you will just be more cautious.
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post #10 of 26
2/26/10 at 2:29am
[QUOTE=nicholeraine;15118001]The rats only relate because they are nocturnal and they threw food out of their cage in the middle of the night when me and my son were already asleep.. If they weren't in there, there would've been nothing on the floor for him to pick up and eat..

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aah! i see

ETA - sorry, i guess i cant "quote" right
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post #11 of 26
2/26/10 at 2:29am
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post #12 of 26
2/26/10 at 3:28am
him choking on a tiny thing that you CAUGHT, not your fault. I'd be more concerned about getting help for your depression that is making you so tired, that makes me worry for you!
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post #13 of 26
2/26/10 at 3:29am
I don't think this has much to do with co-sleeping, being that he could've picked something up just about anywhere in the second or two that you have your back turned. Hang in there, mama. We all have choking stories of some kind or another.
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post #14 of 26
2/26/10 at 3:48am
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post #15 of 26
2/26/10 at 4:08am
The good thing is that if you need medicine, they CAN find ones that are breastfeeding friendly BUT there is also so much more to therapy that can help, it's always worth going and even going to more than one Dr. if you don't fit with the first. Great therapy can go a long way, with or without medication
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post #16 of 26
2/26/10 at 4:39am
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Originally Posted by starling&diesel View Post
I don't think this has much to do with co-sleeping, being that he could've picked something up just about anywhere in the second or two that you have your back turned. Hang in there, mama. We all have choking stories of some kind or another.
Yup, I make my dogs food for him out of rice, tofu, and a bit of whatever veggies I buy during the week. This week it was chunks of zucchini. Aparently the dog took a bit of his food, brought it across the kitchen and set some of it down on the floor. Unbeknownst to me, Rowan crawled over to where he set down a (completely choke-able!) piece of zucchini and put it in his mouth. Thankfully DH saw him do it and fished it out really quick, but it all happened so fast, in a matter of moments

So now I make sure to chop up the veggies in the dogs food really small, just in case it ever happens again. Don't beat yourself up Mama, sorting out the baby/ pet relations has been a learning experience for us, but ( I hate to say) it's pretty normal, as scary as it all is.

ETA: but, to end on a more positive note, it's not all scary, the baby and the dog are totally smitten with each other
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post #17 of 26
2/26/10 at 2:59pm
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Oh thanks... I am going to see a counsellor and get a referral to a good psychiatrist but otherwise I don't feel *right* going on anti-depressants while I'm breastfeeding.. I know so many women do it but I just can't.. So I'm trying to suck it up for another year because my goal is to breastfeed for 2 years..
Honestly, I can understand the reluctance, but if meds will help you be the mom he needs now, and will help you be more comfortable now- I'd go for it. There are some that won't cross into breastmilk in substantial quantities.

That said- you were there, and he was ok. No guilt allowed.
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post #18 of 26
2/26/10 at 4:53pm
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Honestly, I can understand the reluctance, but if meds will help you be the mom he needs now, and will help you be more comfortable now- I'd go for it. There are some that won't cross into breastmilk in substantial quantities.

That said- you were there, and he was ok. No guilt allowed.
yes, yes, yes! I am a completely different mommy on zoloft. I HATE taking meds. Hate the extra chemicals. But if you are sick, you need help. Someone on MDC told me: If you had a broken leg, would you feel guilty for going to the doc and having it set and taking painkillers?

DD2 swallowed a THUMBTACK at 10 months, when I was just getting out of bed, maybe 8 feet away from her (the cats knocked off the bulliten board during the night)... The day we got out of the hospital (3 day stay ) she pulled off a prong of a hairbrush and ate it. Then found a little toy dental mirror and choked on that. At least your kid was choking on food, lol I felt like the worst mommy ever... but this kid puts EVERYTHING in her mouth. I was right there each time, and it still happened. Had absolutely nothing to do with co-sleeping!!! (I have a feeling she would have eaten any screws in a crib if she were in one, lol)

Accidents happen. You are a good mommy!
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post #19 of 26
2/26/10 at 5:47pm
Please don't beat yourself up -these things happen, even to the most vigilant... you cannot foresee everything that is going to be a potential "hazard". You were there for him and were able to react in time.

DD never swallowed anything unusual, but we have had our share of scares with her. Last month she asked if she could peel a potato for me. She's 5yo and I figured that the peeler was less dangerous than her "safety" scissors so I set her up. She also said that she has done it before with her babysitter. Five minutes later, I hear her say "ouch", then she started crying hysterically. There was quite a bit of blood and it initially looked like she scraped it down to the bone. She didn't but still skinned off quite a few layers of skin. By then I was relieved but it took me a couple of days to come clean with DH that I was the one who gave her the peeler (he thought that she just took it). Lesson learned. She healed and I got over the guilt though I now think twice before giving her any such tasks.

And, as other PPs have suggested, do be sure to take care of yourself!
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post #20 of 26
2/27/10 at 1:47am
I recently started taking fish oil twice a day, as well as a B complex, and a liquid mulitvitamin. I've been amazed at what a difference it's already making in my depression. I've been a much better mommy to my 3 year old lately because of it. I've also recently started therapy.
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