Tired mommy, had a scary experience and now nervous about nights/early mornings... - Page 2

[staceychev]

Originally Posted by nicholeraine

Oh thanks... I am going to see a counsellor and get a referral to a good psychiatrist but otherwise I don't feel *right* going on anti-depressants while I'm breastfeeding.. I know so many women do it but I just can't.. So I'm trying to suck it up for another year because my goal is to breastfeed for 2 years..

I understand your reluctance, but... as the adult child of a mother who has dealt with depression her whole life, I would urge you to reconsider. I nursed my daughter for four years, so you can't say I'm discounting your desire to breastfeed. But, having a mother who's depressed is really hard. I mean, really really hard. If you can do meds while breastfeeding, that's awesome. But, your son needs a whole mother, not just a source of milk. Getting your depression dealt with should take priority, IMHO.

Good luck...

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by Maluhia

The good thing is that if you need medicine, they CAN find ones that are breastfeeding friendly BUT there is also so much more to therapy that can help, it's always worth going and even going to more than one Dr. if you don't fit with the first. Great therapy can go a long way, with or without medication

Do you have any relatives you can trust who'd be willing to come over and give you some breaks?

[Lilygoose]

That must have been really scary! But, this could have just as easily happened when you were fully awake (they're just so quick). Kids put stuff in their mouths and we as parents are not perfect. We can try our darndest and do really well, but inevitably we won't think of or notice everything. I'm just lucky my DD brings me and small things she is unfamiliar with (Bless her) or throws them in the garbage, although occasionally she'll somehow find old bits of food she threw weeks ago that I missed with the vacuum. Like PPs wrote, it is a good thing you co-sleep because that meant you were there to handle the situation. I watch my DD like a hawk, hoping to prevent things from happening, but mostly because then I am there to deal with whatever happened. Please take care of yourself. Having dealt with depression it can really be hard. Don't be afraid to ask for help and be understanding with yourself.

[milkybean]

I wouldn't worry one little bit about this!

First, you were there to hear him and sense him and work towards helping him. Second, he vomited which helped himself.

And third, most importantly, this isn't about cosleeping at all! My husband was climbing out of his crib at 9 months. And the first few times he did that new trick? He hid. Oh what fun for his mother!

So just being in a crib doesn't keep them out of stuff, unless you make the crib like a prison with a lock and everything.


So don't worry about this! You have the rats out of the room (I did not know they were nocturnal...my oldest friend had one, and he was always awake during the day) and so they won't spit out seeds anymore in the bedroom.


Oh also I am totally lazy, and would try to sleep as long as possible with DS. I had the room locked, door knob lock on the INSIDE of the door just in case he wanted to get out, and on the door to the bathroom, everything in that room was Eamon-proofed so that if he woke up before I did, he couldn't get into trouble. Worked out well! No reason to feel guilty about it, IMO.

[karika]

I do not understand how this 'incident' could make you question cosleeping. He got ahold of a seed. It is ok. relax. breastfed babies especially have a strong gag reflex and will not hurt themselves. babies can even put rocks in their mouths and not choke on them (mine have) but I am a nervous nellie and stop them when I see it. But really, I am wondering if you have read something or had someone offer some disparaging remarks about cosleepinng, or maybe you are really wanting the bed alone again? because a child choking on a seed really has nothing at all to do with cosleeping. how would it be any better if he were in another room when you are trying to get that 30-60 min cat nap in AM? the child would be terrified and screaming which would be much worse. babies and children belong with momma and sleeping all together is the way nature intended, so carry on please. I read you had been having soda and recently quit. good for you! the GMO corn they make HFCS with is very damaging, not to mention the preservatives. but the caffeine is particularly damaging and is just like cocaine IMO. When I first quit caffeine in '99, I slept for 3 days, had a headache like a hangover for 2 weeks and craved it to the point of salivating it for a month. you may be experiencing caffeine withdrawal with the extra tiredness. I suggest always lying down with the LO when they do, whis ensures you get plenty of down time since babies and children should be sleeping at least 12 hours a day, even if you don't sleep the whole time. I use my laptop, watch pbs, do word puzzles, read...

[nicholeraine]

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