Two under Two mommas...

[mamakims]

How's everyone doing?

The first month was great save for a few days at first but this past week has been SO hard. My 21 month old is awesome with his little sister, he's gentle with her and tries to rub her back or offer her a soother if she's upset but in general he's been pretty extreme with his temper tantrums. He's even bit me a few times which he's never done before. And there are days wehre he literally whines or cries all day unless he's nursing. Then there are the days where he's having a rough day and Sophie's having a non-sleeping fussy day and I'm feeling lost and overwhelmed. Those days usually have us all crying at one point or another.
I knew it would be hard and in most ways it's not as hard as I imagined but in others it's way harder.

[mrsfrenchy]

Some days its not so bad and other days I feel so overwhelmed. It helps that my 19 (almost 20!) month old is in daycare 3 days per week so I can get my online classes' homework done. But she's been hitting a lot more this past week and it's hard to handle. I'm really not sure how to approach it. I try to be understanding of the fact that she's not getting quite as much attention or activty--and I try to take into account if shes bored or tired or hungry. But I still need to set clear boundries and stop the hitting/kicking.

Its also really hard when she asks to nurse and I tell her we can't right now (because i'm busy or don't want to or need to cook, whatever) and then right away, her sister gets hungry and then Ali sees me nursing the baby...right after I said she couldnt. It really makes me sad for her, but what do you do, yk?
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[Astraia]

I am seriously, seriously overwhelmed. I feel bad about not playing with my daughter and she's whiney and crying and wants to nurse every 2 hours.... which I can't do anything about, because her brother wants to nurse or snuggle a boob (but NOT in a wrap, pouch or ring sling) 24/7 and wakes up instantly if I ever try to put him down. I still haven't had to deal with them both for a day by myself, but the few hours I have attempted leave us all strung out and miserable. It's going to suck when DH goes back to work.

[Kidzaplenty]

My two under two is very hard. And coming from me, that is something. My toddler is a very high maintanence baby and spends his days making me pull my hair out. I am just glad my WO is a very happy, content baby. Otherwise, I think I would be screeming all day like my LO does.

[smokeylo]

Robin JUST turned 2, but can I still be in your club?? We have good days and bad days. The bad days are fewer lately but they are awful when they happen. I'm feeling so guilty about DD1, I really feel like I'm hurting her terribly since she spends so much of the time unhappy. DD2 is lovely and accomodating but I don't want to put her down all the time -- she deserves cuddles, too!! DH is too stressed to be much help. Aaaagggghhhh.

[Usually Curious]

My toddler is 28mos but he is SO immature it's like having 2 under 2. When he was born his older brother was 21mos but we didn't have ANY of these issues. Ugh.

All of my older kids were speaking in complete sentences and potty trained by now. He hardly talks and only started saying the few words he says a couple of weeks ago. He shows NO interest in potty training and couldn't tell me if he did!

It's very frustrating. I totally feel your pain!!