sex, drugs, drama

[mtiger]

My younger has walked into the older's bailiwick (with his blessing - and he's walked out for a number of unrelated reasons) of school Drama. She's in a unique situation in that she goes to a different school (magnet), but participates in extracurriculars at our home HS.

She was telling me today about all the drama behind Drama... and... wow. Kids I've known for years hooking up with guys, girls, whoever. Drinking, drugs, smoking. NOW I understand why older never wanted to go to the cast parties, and why younger is walking away from them.

The parents are, apparently, clueless. I know quite a few of them - and their kids - quite well. On one hand, I would want to know if this was my child. On the other, I don't want to shut down the stream of communication with my kid.

[Linda on the move]

So is you question whether your should spill the beans or not?

I think not. There's not a good way for a conversation that starts with "my kid says your kid is hooking up and drinking" to end.

I'm of the view that if parents are clueless about what is going on with their offspring, it's most likely their own fault, and that spreading rumors is usually a bad thing. Just be thankful that your child doesn't want to be involved in the nonsense and talks to you!

[Oriole]

If you maintain close relationship with some of the parents, I might mention something like "I heard there were no adults present at the last party, so I'm glad my kid doesn't want to go" , or something of the sort.

Unless you are super great friends with parents - I would not jeopardize what you've go going there with your kids.

[atheistmama]

I wouldn't tell.

Or...er...maybe I would! Geez. I really don't know.

As someone who had sex, drank and smoked pot at an early age I know that if the parents totally flip out...it can get ugly. My dad literally kicked my a**....numerous times in numerous ways.

However...that was MY dad and that's how he was raised...so that's how he raised me.

If my dd or ds ever was doing those things I'd want to know. They would get punished, not beat!

If you know the parents REALLY well and know that the child isn't in any physical harm, I'd tell them. Especially if you are good friends with them.

[mtiger]

Really didn't have a question - it was more of a commentary, thinking aloud type of post. I wouldn't jeopardize my daughter's willingness to talk to me by spilling the beans to the parents. She knows taht she can coem to me with anything and I'll listen/talk about it w/o judgment. Usually. At the end of the day, my kids are my top priority. And if my saying something would cut off the communication with them? Not doing it.