Announcing your pregnancy??

[naturelady]

Hi ladies!

I didn't really think too far into this..but now that I got a BFP, I have been wondering when is a good time to announce the pregnancy? Wait a few weeks to make sure it sticks? Wait till first trimester (the most risky one) is over? Tell everyone right away? I'm leaning toward waiting till around week 10 just to be extra sure it's going to stick.

Anyone know when they are going to announce? Have any creative ways to announce? Past experiences?

Congrats on everyone's BFP's!

[Sagesgirl]

We are not announcing to anyone until after we are married--we're eloping. Poor E's mom is going to have quite a bit dumped on her at once. I dunno when to go widely public with it...I'm hoping to get an early(ish) ultrasound, and I reckon I'll just post that on Facebook to announe to the world at large.

My mom & daughters already know, being that they were there for the test.

[leurMaman]

Let's see. With one baby we sent my mom flowers saying "congratulations on the new grand-baby you're going to have" (the funny thing is she thought it was from my sister who already had 4 and called her to giver her an earful Another time we put a pregnancy test in her stocking (guess that won't work for ya). Another time we took a picture of our son with a shirt that said "I'm going to be a big brother" and sent it. This last time I sent an email from my iPhone that said "an update on your grandkids". It had a picture of each kid playing and the last pic was a positive pregnancy test. It surprised her! Good luck ladies!

[Sagesgirl]

Hmm, so DF & I just decided to UP/UC, so the ultrasound idea is out, LOL. I guess as far as Facebook goes I'll just post a picture of the pregnancy test.

[jennmk13]

We’ll wait for the first trimester to be over before we announce the pregnancy. Last time we had an U/S at 11.5 W and everything looked great at that point so we went ahead and told people right after that. I likely won’t be having an U/S this time so we’re going to wait to tell people around Mother’s Day, because my mom who lives out of town will be here for a visit then. We may tell local friends a bit sooner, but I’m not sure yet. I would really like to hear a heartbeat before we tell people, but I have a tilted uterus so it takes longer to be able to pick up the heart beat.

To tell my mom I’m thinking that we will get DS a T-shirt that says I’m a big brother. Another option would be to get DS a book about becoming a big brother and giving it to him to have grandma read to him. Then we’ll see how long it takes her to figure it out.

[47chromosomes]

Originally Posted by leurMaman

Another time we took a picture of our son with a shirt that said "I'm going to be a big brother" and sent it. This last time I sent an email from my iPhone that said "an update on your grandkids". It had a picture of each kid playing and the last pic was a positive pregnancy test. It surprised her! Good luck ladies!

We did that to announce our second pregnancy, only we put DS in the shirt, then left DS with the family while we went shopping. They didn't read the shirt! So, we had to drop major corny hints until someone did read it, and they all screamed and danced around, which totally freaked our DS! It was pretty funny, but I think this time we will leave DS1 out of it. DS2 on the other hand would probably love it if people were screaming and dancing with him being the center of it all.

In the past we have waited almost until the 2nd trimester to tell even close friends or family. This time, we really need some support and encouragement, and maybe a little free babysitting here and there, so we will be telling family and a few very close, dear friends very soon. Then at 10 or 12 weeks, we will go Facebook crazy and tell the world!

[leurMaman]

Originally Posted by 47chromosomes

So, we had to drop major corny hints until someone did read it, and they all screamed and danced around, which totally freaked our DS! !

That's funny I'm definitely not announcing anything on facebook until way into the second trimester or more. I didn't announce my last one either (the miscarriage), thank goodness.

[~Demeter~]

I announced on Facebook right away last time... and I'm a little more hesitant to this time around. Some of my friends still haven't gotten that I miscarried last time so I'm still having to explain.

I'm worried about my family's reaction a bit. Conceiving 2 months after a miscarriage implies we were really trying. We weren't.. we actually had one oops moment this month that must have been timed ever so perfectly or my husband has great aim or something. I wanted another but I'm sure my family just wouldn't 'get it' and might have nasty things to say. I'm debating not even telling them and just letting them figure out when I really start to show, though at the rate my belly is popping out this time it won't take long.

[calihannah]

I've told a few people (though not family yet)...if (WHEN) all goes well (fingers crossed and lots of prayers) and we see the heartbeat at our early u/s, we'll tell MIL and FIL and BIL and future SIL when we go visit them at 7w. My parents...they won't be as thrilled, as they seriously advocated for us to have an only child, so I'm not sure when/how I'll tell them. I'm sure they'll love the new baby too, but it's just silly that they're so not adult about these things. It's my life, we can support another child financially, so what's the big problem??

Not sure how we'll tell the ILs -- thinking maybe refusing a glass of wine at dinner? That would be a sure sign to them... I do like the idea of a book that DD asks them to read about being a big sister

[naturelady]

Those are all great ideas!

We fly home in April so we will tell them then if plans go accordingly. Not sure how to tell them or when I will start showing.

I am a pretty small person so if I'm showing by then, my mom will totally know the second I step off the plane. We'll see though. I want to come up with something realllly good.

[~Demeter~]

I'm small (well... I used to be smaller lol),too and with my first I don't think anybody noticed I was pregnant until my 6th or 7th month. All those muscles hold everything in the first time around... now I start to show before I get a bfp and need maternity clothes as soon as I get a positive pregnancy test! I'm just kidding

[jenniferadurham]

With DD I just showed my mom the test. DS we had DD wear a "big sister" tshirt, went over to my parents house and just relaxed...wanted to see how long it took. Mom got it after about 5-10 min, dad too a while longer(he wasn't in the room when got there)...we just started laughing and staring at him. Then he got it. LOL With this one, we are thinking of getting a tshirt for me to wear, putting the due date(or something similar to November something-or-other), having a picture taken of DH and I, framing it and giving it them. I like to try and make it creative and fun.

[alesmama07]

I have told 2 dear friends, and my husband. Ale and I made him a card this morning and I taped the positive CBE digital inside of the card that said (in Spanish) I'm going to be a big brother in November! I also called my doula, who already knew in her heart I am pregnant. I'll tell my other doula sisters at our monthly get together. Family will wait until I go and see my midwife. I know some people don't tell anyone, but it's so hard not to share the joy!

[LadyCatherine185]

We just started telling a few people yesterday.. My mom, dad and sister. We're planning to tell DH's family this weekend when we see them. I like the "big brother" shirt idea! I think we may do that...

[naturelady]

Those are all great ideas!

We fly home in April so we will tell them then if plans go accordingly. Not sure how to tell them..I guess it depends on when I start showing.

I am a pretty small person so if I'm showing by then, my mom will totally know the second I step off the plane. We'll see though. I want to come up with something realllly good.

[HeatherB]

Bumping for more ideas! I'm not sure yet when or how to tell anyone... I actually told my MW first, as she'd just left our house after visiting for a bit when I took the HPT. Then I dropped the results-end of an EPT digital in DH's pocket before I told him to get dressed and get DS's medicine. We're still both really getting used to the idea so I think we'll wait until it's sunk in a bit more. I'm thinking a week or two, at least until my mom gets back in town from a trip she just left on. But I need something clever!

The first time, I wrapped up an "I love my Grandma" outfit and gave it to her as an "early birthday" gift. The second time, it was right before my birthday, so I bought two outfits, wrapped them up, and as his parents, my parents, and grandparents were all there (a rare occurrence) we gave one gift to each set of parents and had them open it. It took them a few minutes to get it. The third time, it must've been around Valentine's, and I wrapped up another baby outfit and gave it to my mom. So, um, what holiday is coming up next?!

[3sweetsurprises]

Originally Posted by HeatherB

So, um, what holiday is coming up next?!

St. Patricks day, Easter, Mother's day (though it is quite far away). I'm certain that I will have to tell before Mother's day as I'll be in maternity pants soon.

I have told dh and one very close friend. We don't live close to any family, so I think I might send pictures of both girls wearing big sister shirts, and see how long it takes to get a phone call. I won't be posting on Facebook until at least the second trimester.

[~Demeter~]

I'm thinking about spilling the beans on Easter. I have never waited to announce, usually I tell before the test dries, lol. After the miscarriage in December I just don't feel comfortable facing everybody's potential disappointment without feeling certain I'm carrying a sticky babe.

[fyrwmn]

with dd, we told our mom's the day we found out. then with angel #1, we waited till 8 wks and told them all at christmas by giving them a framed pic of dd. the other side of the frame said "pic on back order till (edd)". after all the losses, we waited till 16wks to tell immediate family, and 20wks for friends with ds. this time around, i have no intentions of telling anyone other than dh till at least 12 wks. i haven't even called the dr yet, though i think i will in th enext week or two. i'm thinking i'll use the dr's office till 12 or so wks and then switch to a midwife for a homebirth. i just want the u/s so i can see that things are okay.

i like the idea o fsending flowers...i may do that for my grandmother. dh's parents will be happy, so i'm not worried about telling them. my mom made a really hurtful comment a month or so ago though about how my siste rshould be the next one to have a baby since "it's not loike the rest o fyou don't deserve them, but she's our kid person". really hoping to wait as long as possible before telling her. she ignores d as it is, even though he's the youngest grnadkid and she knows the hell we went thru trying to have him.

[naturelady]

fyrwmn- Sorry to hear about your experience.

I think we are going to wait a long time too. We aren't flying home till I'm almost 12 weeks along. I think we are going to tell them the second we step off the plane. (I am a fairly little person, and from the looks of bloating, etc, momma will know whats up for sure unless I wear something that's huge!) Is 12 weeks along enough in the clear? Once DH's family finds out, the news is going to spread like wildfire. I like to keep things somewhat private and I'm really nervous about having a miscarriage. It would be horrible to have one after telling the family considering it will be the first grandkid on both sides. How long should I wait?