I posted this in single parenting also...
she doesn't have much of any connection w/her bio Dad, whom she just saw for the first time since she was 3 and that has really effected her. The last visit she had with him she was very emotional and acted out quite explosively.
She has my partner of nearly 4 years in her life...they have a very strong connection who has been like a father to her except for the fact that he came along when she was 4 and each of them has some parts of them that rub the other the wrong way and it is not always easy for the 3 of us to be together.
She has a hard time interacting with both of us quite often. Much of the time when it is just one on one with either of us it goes great.
There are times when I feel like I have to choose between them and I realize there is something there DP needs to take care of and we will be talking to our counselor about that the next chance we have.
DP is on an extended work trip in Asia so it has been just DD and I for a while now...and she is really testing me...
two days this week she has had violent fits where I have to restrain her because she is hitting and uncontrollably angry...I calmly and gently restrain her legs and arms, she also tries to hit with her head sometimes so it takes a lot of energy for me to have to do this but when she is in this mode there is no other option.
She is a brilliantly smart girl...very bright, social and talented. At home with me it all comes out.
I have a counselor who I talk to about this but I want to reach out for more help..I did talk to her on the phone today...
I called 4 people today to get support with this...
I get such good insights on here most of the time I post so I wanted to come here also.
After DD hit me and I warned her that if she does that again she will not get to go to her sleepover and she did it again she lost the playdate/sleepover tonight and she ranted about it for an hour afterwards but I stuck to my word.
I am letting her know this behavior is not okay. setting boundaries and trying my best to unconditional love and nurture her....
it can be very discouraging to have my child acting this way (she is an aries) it can feel like she is very messed up and it is my fault
on top of all this, right now in my life I am going through tremendous self growth and healing of childhood wounds so it is a lot to be doing this not only for myself but for my daughter while navigating a very close intimate relationship with my partner.
thank you for reading this.
Na Maste'
she doesn't have much of any connection w/her bio Dad, whom she just saw for the first time since she was 3 and that has really effected her. The last visit she had with him she was very emotional and acted out quite explosively.
She has my partner of nearly 4 years in her life...they have a very strong connection who has been like a father to her except for the fact that he came along when she was 4 and each of them has some parts of them that rub the other the wrong way and it is not always easy for the 3 of us to be together.
She has a hard time interacting with both of us quite often. Much of the time when it is just one on one with either of us it goes great.
There are times when I feel like I have to choose between them and I realize there is something there DP needs to take care of and we will be talking to our counselor about that the next chance we have.
DP is on an extended work trip in Asia so it has been just DD and I for a while now...and she is really testing me...
two days this week she has had violent fits where I have to restrain her because she is hitting and uncontrollably angry...I calmly and gently restrain her legs and arms, she also tries to hit with her head sometimes so it takes a lot of energy for me to have to do this but when she is in this mode there is no other option.
She is a brilliantly smart girl...very bright, social and talented. At home with me it all comes out.
I have a counselor who I talk to about this but I want to reach out for more help..I did talk to her on the phone today...
I called 4 people today to get support with this...
I get such good insights on here most of the time I post so I wanted to come here also.
After DD hit me and I warned her that if she does that again she will not get to go to her sleepover and she did it again she lost the playdate/sleepover tonight and she ranted about it for an hour afterwards but I stuck to my word.
I am letting her know this behavior is not okay. setting boundaries and trying my best to unconditional love and nurture her....
it can be very discouraging to have my child acting this way (she is an aries) it can feel like she is very messed up and it is my fault
on top of all this, right now in my life I am going through tremendous self growth and healing of childhood wounds so it is a lot to be doing this not only for myself but for my daughter while navigating a very close intimate relationship with my partner.
thank you for reading this.
Na Maste'
. My dd went through behavior like you are describing when she was 6-7, and it is was so hard. A lot of similarities: the violent fits (exactly as you describe), letting it all out with me/us, highly intelligent, etc.
