not 100% that im joining you but wanted to join in this discussion..hope its okay
i had midwifery care with my first two beginning at 12 weeks...which is the norm here in canada (i believe).
with my first i had midwives that were fairly medical oriented and did quite a few of the tests that they pushed on me, despite my uncertainty about them. i also had a US at 10 weeks for dating since i didnt know when i had conceived.. they told me things like i could want a homebirth but that a huge percentage of their planned homebirths became hospital transfers.. i always felt unhappy going to my appointments, my bp would go up and i had anxiety.. i decided at 8 months that i was going to move back `home`and find a midwife there and was lucky enough to find a wonderful one who helped me erase all of the fears my prior midwives had instilled in me. i had a wonderful homebirth with my son..bled a bit after and needed pitocin, but was otherwise perfect..
i saw the same MW with my second and had a homebirth with her as well. she was born at 42+2 and 10.5lbs.. she did have some sticky shoulders and i had pitocin for bleeding since it had been an issue before.
with my my third i was living out in the country and didn't have any prenatal care till...6 months along i think. i really felt like i didn't need any care, like my body was doing exactly what it needed to. later on i traveled to see my midwife a few times (over 5 hours away)and at one point she requested a US because of large measurements which i had and turns out she was just positioned funny and my uterus was stretched out i guess. she was big at that point so i didnt see much, but confirmed my knowing that she was a girl.. she was born at my moms home in the city..42 +2 weeks like my other dd.. i did pretty well all of the work. i think my MW checked her HB 3 times but i broke my own waters and caught her in the tub. a truly perfect birth..
her birth made me feel like if i were ever to have another baby i would definitely do it UC..
so, i am strongly considering UP & UC.. but i think mostly because i live even farther away (10 hours now) and have a hard time seeing myself birthing with any other MW.. also knowing i wouldn't want to travel again to birth. the MW in my town is a friend so i know i could go see her at anytime if i needed anything..i feel like i would be very confident ucìng and def. plan to UP at least the first while..
i really feel like, even with a midwife being super awesome, i still had to hear all of the info and statistics, decline all of the tests and ultrasounds, doppler ect. and i would rather just be..and not have to think about those things.. i would decline everything they offered anyways, and honetsly never would have been concerned about my 3rd baby measuring big had i been doing my own care..