Military Families TTC Chat Thread

[~Adorkable~]

I felt like starting this, since there seems to be a whole extra layer of issues with TTC while in a military family.
Wether its deployments, PCSing or just dealing with TriCare. There are certainly good sides to it as well, and we can enjoy those as well.

I figure i'd give us a chance to chat about it where we all know just what its like.

[~Adorkable~]

As for me I'm an Army Wife and we have been working on #1 for 42 months now.

• that includes 6 months of figuring out if the timing was right
• right as we figured it was, he gets sent away early for a 9 month school
• then right as he comes back my cycle goes crazy (like 101 day anovulatory cycle and crap)
• then right as i got my cycle back he shipped to Iraq
• well he got back last march and its been one thing or another and well im still not preggo
• now it looks like he might be going to haiti, we dont know anything , but they are packed,

we have only had 9 cycles actually "work right" in all that time, not that it helped any, uuuugg

[lovebug]

oh the joys of TTC and the military! DH and i have been trying for #1 a little over 4 years a little over 2 years of that between deployments. with one year before it all that we had to wait to get help. its been really hard because we get everything on track with test and such and then he has to turn around and deploy! its just crazy.

he is getting ready to leave again for a year and will leave mid-march

i have PCOS will have an induces AF if she does not show up (thats her mo!) on the 3rd with the start of my first ever round of clomid.

•Adorkable•- we had the issue of timing too. DH really wants to be a dad and with him gone so much its been hard on him.

[~Adorkable~]

welcome lovebug, yeah its hard to understand the ups and down if you haven't lived them.

sound like you have a good plan, sorry it has been so hard.

but im wondering if he leaves mid march, and you haven't started AF yet, how are you going to have time for this cycle??

im racing to get cycles in as well, though with me i dont know what date im racing to beat, so thats even another hassle.

my current cycle looks like it is going anovulatory, so now im looking at a course of provera and then waiting for AF then clomid then waiting for that to work, boy i hope we have time

[lovebug]

its going to be CLOSE! the stars are going to need to line up but if we start an AF on the 3rd and he does not leave until the 20th we have a good chance of making it. my fingers are crossed!

we will see i am just so sick of this. we were so happy and then so sad about this last pregnancy. it was a HUGE roller coaster. it was just crap! sooo close!

[~Adorkable~]

have you guys considered banking his sperm so you could do i iui after he left if needed?

we banked, but now i cant really imagine using it, it seems so "your doing it wrong!" so disconnected. but we are already at using IUI so who knows.

[lovebug]

yes we have thought of it, but DH is having a hard time with it right now. he cant wrap his head around not (poss) being here for the birth. he is ok with that idea, but not being here when baby is made... he just cant do it at this time. he did say that if we are at this again next deployment he would be willing to look into it more...

[~Adorkable~]

yeah i dont think we would have done it prior to this last deployment.

what we got to thinking is that we would rather have him here for birth and those few months and if that means getting preggo mid deployment, and giving up him being here for that, well that was sucky buy doable.

at first i really didn't want him to miss my pregnancy, then i realize that it would be worse to have a baby and then have him ship off and miss bonding with a little kid.
there is kinda no way to win, i used to think that i could decide all this stuff, and 3.5 years later i just a baby, pleeeeeeeese?

boy military life is hard.

[lovebug]

i know its like a roller coaster. i came to except that he was going to miss something and that at any given time i will be a 'single' mom. DH grew up in a military family so he knows what its like; me on the other hand, i did not so it will be all new to me.

[~Adorkable~]

So often I feel like under the list of "known fertility issues"
they should list "millitary wife"

[lovebug]

thats so true!!! it compounds everything!

[sweetest77]

I don't post much, but thought I'd pop in and say hi!

I'm a military wife ttc #3...

Both of my babes were born overseas (4 1/2 years apart in two different countries) - for me that has been the hardest part of being a military mom!

Fortunately, we had great luck with timing for the first two, DD was conceived about two days after DH returned from a 5 week TDY and DS was conceived one month after DH returned from a 5 month deployment.

I'm having a really hard time believing it will happen for us again because it was so easy the first two times and now we have been trying for 10 cycles (which rationally I know is really not all that long...) But we are much older now and my cycle is not as regular as it used to be

I'm now at the tail end of my first clomid cycle and started spotting today (I spot every month so who knows)... I don't think this is our month Fortunately DH is home and we are not expecting any deployments in the near future.

Praying that you both to get your BFP's soon!

[~Adorkable~]

hi sweetest! good luck with the clomid. it can be hard. how much spotting do you usally have?

[sweetest77]

Lately I have been spotting around 7dpo and it lasts until AF, about 13/14 dpo.

So frustrating, but at least DH is home (and we are finally stateside!) - that helps me to keep things in perspective

Thanks for the welcome!

[~Adorkable~]

what does your doctor say about the spotting?

[sweetest77]

My OB doesn't seem too concerned with the spotting. She seems to think I can get PG despite it, but I'm doubtful. Everything looks good aside from the spotting (she did suggest I get an HSG if I'm not pg in the next 3 months)

First she prescribed Progesterone (although my 7dpo test was normal, around 14), which did lengthen my LP but didn't stop the spotting.

After 3 cycles of prog. she suggested adding clomid to strengthen my O, which I did this month, still not sure of the results .