Normal for Toddler to Be Fastidious? - Page 2

[mamamillet]

"I will fully disclose that as someone who also went to college for child development and worked closely in this field for a while I have real issues with early intervention in my state (texas) and their huge mis-diagnosis and labeling of children who do not fit into their schedule of what things should be. Don't get me wrong I have seen them help kids and I know that they do good as well, but they are too happy to label. My husband would have been labelled as having issues at if he would have been born recently for sure and there is nothing wrong with him he just developed at his own rate."


I guess EI is different in Texas cause we certainly did not give out any diagnosis--only drs can here! We just provided services for children that were having delays for whatever reason.

[almadianna]

Thats why I specified where I was from and gave that disclaimer, I seriously think that in my state EI is really not the best. I really do believe that other states have to be better.

[kdtmom2be]

Originally Posted by almadianna

At this age they are really into order.

NO kidding! I am sitting here watching my 2 3/4 yo DD empty the dominoes out of thier box and then put them all back in. Over and over and over again. She likes that they all fit so neatly together and I think she enjoys that they are "bone" and "click" when they hit together.

I believe it has something to do with learning language. To really get language you need order and syntax so that part is working extra hard and on steroids during this age.

I'd say it has to do with learning math skills, but who knows. Definitely is normal though!

[MissMommyNiceNice]

Originally Posted by Latte Mama

My DS has a "thing" with shutting doors, drawers and cabinets. They must.be.closed.all.the.time. It's cute and kind of OCD'ish.

It once took us almost an hour to walk a qurter mile b/c of this! We were at th lake & the swimming area is marked w/ a fence w/ gates at regular intervals. And there's a lot of gates. A LOT!!! DS had to shut every single one on our walk down the water's edge. It took a LONG time.

[not_telling]

Thanks for all the responses. I do think there's something to the idea of wanting/looking for order at this age. I was thinking about SPD or "being on the spectrum" when I wondered if the behaviors were normal....but I'm feeling pretty confident now that this is "just toddlerness." DS has no qualms about putting his hands into different materials (e.g. water, mushy stuff, snow) and playing around. He just tends to want to clean off his hands afterwards - like today, when I suggested he use his spoon to eat the yogurt instead of his hands...and he happily used both hands and spoon but asked for the "napky" several times.

[ASusan]

Montessori sensitive period for order manifests itself differently in different children. But, what you're seeing is basically normal.

(Not necessarily the best link for it, but you can dig further down google.)

[Yuba_River]

Seems incredibly common from what I've seen of DS and his playgroup friends. He was so intense about it for a while that I was a little worried, but he has gotten more relaxed about it as he has gotten a little older. I think about 18 months was the peak for him.