DD is almost 3 and we are suddently having major behavioral issues. She is suddenly not cooperating with me at all...i didn't know how to word this because i know words like "obey" can be triggers on this site. The way we have approached discipline so far has really been based on everything i've read from this site. We are not harsh disciplinarians...our major technique is distraction, but as DD has gotten older and able to communicate we often give her options. If we want her to do something and she's not ready, we give her a few extra minutes...and compromise, allow her to do things in the order that she wants. We're firm when it comes to safety or when things just have to get done...like we have to be at church on time. We've never had problems before but she is suddenly unwilling to compromise. For instance, yesterday she wanted to wear her fancy christmas dress. I am usually extremely flexible with what she wears, but I was willing to let her wear ANYTHING else. She went straight into a tantrum - kicking, screaming, refused to put anything on at all. We tried bribing her, talking to her about what she wanted. This is one example of what's been going on, but she's basically not doing anything i ask of her. I can't get anything done and we can't go anywhere.
The other thing is that she is tantruming when daddy leaves - every single day this week he had to leave her in hysterics. The other day i basically had to lock myself in another room with the baby because i literally couldn't take it. I was afraid i would hurt her because i just couldn't handle her screaming at me.
I have read the articles on this site about tantrums...and i just cannot figure them out in relation to our daughter. She does not seem better after a tantrum, she seems exhausted. We try to give her space, but she's so violent and confused...she wants us to hold her, but then she fights and kicks us. It goes back and forth. We try to leave the room...she follows.
Her tantrums are not related to tiredness or lack of food. I've seen that in the past and it's predictable. That's not what's going on here.
We're really at a loss and need help.
The other thing is that she is tantruming when daddy leaves - every single day this week he had to leave her in hysterics. The other day i basically had to lock myself in another room with the baby because i literally couldn't take it. I was afraid i would hurt her because i just couldn't handle her screaming at me.
I have read the articles on this site about tantrums...and i just cannot figure them out in relation to our daughter. She does not seem better after a tantrum, she seems exhausted. We try to give her space, but she's so violent and confused...she wants us to hold her, but then she fights and kicks us. It goes back and forth. We try to leave the room...she follows.
Her tantrums are not related to tiredness or lack of food. I've seen that in the past and it's predictable. That's not what's going on here.
We're really at a loss and need help.
