People in this thread are accusing him.
It's a very serious thing, to call someone a child molester or a potential child molester. "Mama bear instinct" isn't an excuse for making unsupported, potentially devastating accusations.
We can protect our children without calling every male who likes children a child molester.
And not handing a baby back when asked? That totally violates my sense of propriety.
Maybe he's not a child molester... but I don't think any of that is okay. I would be scheming hard to change the living situation.