Looking for Good Luck in March - Sept 2007

[mommajb]

Help me welcome March mommas!

Let's hope this month brings us good news collectively and individually. I want to get back to running as soon as my foot is in good shape and find a happy spring-time rhythm at home. Toilet learning on Linus' part would be a bonus.

Put your hopes in the hat and let's move forward.

[~Katie~]

Agreed, I need some good luck because my month started off with Liam breaking my glasses in half this morning. In any case, this is our last full month of deployment and that is awesome!

[Plaid Leopard]

big hugs all around.

March started out here with a sunny, warmish day.

Sorry about your glasses Katie.

mommajb- hope you're "on the road" again soon.

I am full of hope and feel like good things are going to start happening for all of us.

[mrsb422]

All this baby talk makes me want one...oh wait, or just the one in my belly to get the heck out Sooo ready for an eviction notice!! I'm so bad at being PG. This will be it for us. I love babies, kids, being a mom, but DH is focused on retirement, saving, beach houses, etc. etc. etc. He's the planner...he makes sense, I just can't really argue with him on that stuff. Besides, physically, I'm just not cut out for the birthing process. I am just really bad at it

Michelle Oh to be a princerina one day again So sweet!! Lucy sounds precious.
Lindsay at affording food AND preschool...yeah, I'd say they are both important. I'm struggling about waiting to find out if we're in the daycare for Anderson or not - it is so hard to wait. for super big girl panties though!! Go Ro!!
Mommajb oh, you're not bad - kids just don't feel the cold like we do. Remember being little and swimming in a pool that was too cold until your lips were blue, teeth chattering and then telling your mom/dad "No! I'm not cold!" Kids don't feel it!! I'm convinced.
Katie I don't know how you keep it all straight!! You've got so much going on. I feel so excited for you that Andrew will be home soon though - that's so wonderful. Your little family has so much catching up to do. Congrats on only having 9 lbs. to go - that's awesome
Rachel mama. The important thing is that Caroline is thriving and that you had a good birth experience. We're here for you mama. I hope you all get home soon
Plaid at the chihuahua story...Marty woke up talking about dragon flies the other day...from dinosaur train. His dreams are all of a sudden cropping up in waking hours. He talks in his sleep too which is usually pretty comical.
Katie Don't feel bad about Laine missing out on co-sleeping. Marty wasn't ever really very successful at it and I think I suffered more for it than he did. I beat myself up for it all the time, but he sleeps better alone - I think a lot of people do. I havent' slept in my bed in over a month now because of being uncomfortable from the pregnancy and seriuosly dont' know how I'll go back to my bed. The breathing sounds, my husband's tossing, my dog snoring...it all drives me nuts!! Laine is getting what she needs, and that's sleep - that's important. Parenting isn't one-size-fits all and neither are our kids mama...it'll be ok.

Well my day sucked...back to work after 5 days off. SO un-fun. I want to quit. I want to run away and never come back. If only that paid the bills!! Stupid money.
Thankfully my sweet little boy was a complete love tonight - hugs and kisses and I-love-you's aplenty...sooo what I needed.

to all

[~Katie~]

Thanks for the reassurance, Jess.

Liam has been really rough on me lately. No this and no that, breaking things and throwing things. Completely uncooperative about everything. He seems to be really angry with me about something but I don't know what. I have a feeling he may be jealous of Laine. This morning I woke up and he was next to my bed rubbing rosebud salve all over his face. I took it away and in retaliation he grabbed my glasses and slammed them against my night stand and broke them in half. So now I look like a big dork with taped glasses. Kind of ironic that on Friday I scheduled an eye appointment for this coming Saturday, I must have some kind of intuitive sense that he's about to destroy something.

I did order myself some homeschooling books tonight, I'm enjoying reading grown-up books for a change. I got a John Holt book and a Linda Dobson book. I think the John Holt book will be something that Andrew will enjoy reading as well, just by gauging from the reviews.

[Plaid Leopard]

Katie - hugs. DS3 didn't really start showing signs of jealousy until Yann was 7-8 months old - and then it showed up big time! Also, the hitting, not co-operating, saying no is all pretty normal developmental stuff for this age (unless I have been soing something really wrong with all my kids?)
Hang in there. Andrew will be home soon and you will have support and a break!

Mrsb- Hugs to you too. I hope the rest of your pregnancy is better.

So - what would you do if you knew that someone was telling lies? I have a neighbour that I see quite often. Her 3 kids are close in age to mine, and it is nice to be able to pop over for a cup of tea and let the kids play. Recently she has been passing off stories like this and this as things that have happened to her cousin, or her friend, or her cousin's friend...
I usually just say things like "oh wow! That is terrible!" - or funny or whatever reaction the story calls for, but it's a bit weird, especially in light of other recent events involving other people making up stories. And I wonder what else she is making up. It's also strange because she is always talking about how she is Christian and making sure people know she goes to church, and telling lies doesn't seem to be very Christian in my opinion.

Anyway - I have decided that I really need to get in shape and lose a few pounds before I go to Texas. I feel the need to wow everybody I haven't seen in years. Silly, I know - but it is what it is. So, have been cutting out the sweets and I need to fix up my bike so I can go riding again. I've got about 6 weeks.

We have another sunny day here. The kids are outside and friends are coming over soon. I am still in pajamas so better get a move on.

Joy and peace to all of you!!

[Faliciagayle]

hi all! baby's asleep and dd is planted on the boob.

sorry about the foot, mommajb. i do hope L. is diaper free soon!

gah, wanted to do more personals but Cs off the boob and needs attention. Talk later!




xoxo

[Sabo]

Originally Posted by KatieJD

Liam has been really rough on me lately. No this and no that, breaking things and throwing things. Completely uncooperative about everything. He seems to be really angry with me about something but I don't know what. I have a feeling he may be jealous of Laine. This morning I woke up and he was next to my bed rubbing rosebud salve all over his face. I took it away and in retaliation he grabbed my glasses and slammed them against my night stand and broke them in half.

I don't think it sounds like he's mad at you. To me, it sounds more like normal 2 yo frustration. Aili is full of "no's" these days to the point where it is almost a joke on her part. She has also been a little tantrummy (I know that's not really a word, but you get it) lately if she can't play with exactly what she wants. Fortunately, she doesn't draw it out; she gets angry for a few excruciating minutes and then realizes that she has to enjoy something else. The thing that upsets me is when she gets angry and will accidentally (it seems accidental) hit or kick me, I tell her that she needs to be careful b/c she hurt Momma and she thinks it's funny. She used to be so empathetic.

Plaid, good luck with the pre-Texas weight loss. Maybe the next time that the neighbor starts one of her stories, you can say, "When did this happen? . . . Wow, I'm having deja vu b/c I swear that I've heard about something like that happening to someone else. Weird. Anyway, sorry to interrupt. Go on." It may make her more cautious about sharing tall tales with you. Perhaps she doesn't really have anything to say, so she just embellishes and starts telling lies. It is a shame that you can't trust a thing she says though.

[*jeanine*]

Plaid - maybe she's super-gullible, and when she gets an email from her friend, who got it from her cousin, she truly believes it happened to her friend's cousin? My MIL has a tendency to believe all that stuff. Granted, she doesn't say it happened to someone she knows, but she still believes it and sends it on, even though I've told her about snopes. The latest was about a recently passed CA law that says you have to move over a lane to the left (if it's safe) when there's an emergency vehicle or cal-trans vehicle on the shoulder with its lights on. (True). Some lady's son didn't move over a lane and wound up with a $700+ fine. My brain says "Really!?!? That seems awfully steep." So I use my mad googling skills and find a cal-trans website that says the fine is "not to exceed $50." My MIL just has no common sense and no mind of her own, and believes everything she sees/hears/reads. I do kinda like sabo's idea of gently calling her out on it, though.

Katie - hang in there, you'll have a co-parent soon!

Jessica - hang in there, you'll have Anderson on the outside soon!

Hi Alicia!

Jamison isn't too violent with her parents. With her siblings she is, though. Although it's hard to say who's starting it. DS is a sneaky button pusher, iykwim.

I have not yet been bitten by the baby bug, but if that Caroline were any cuter...

[~Katie~]

I have to agree with what Jeanine said, some people are just gullible and believe the chain emails and stuff like that.

I do think it is jealousy induced. The other day he came over and headbutted me while I was holding Laine. I thought he was coming over for a kiss and instead he headbutted me in the nose. He also hits, kicks, and slaps Laine. This morning he kicked her in the chest and knocked her down because she stood up next to him and apparently that made him angry or annoyed him. He used to be so good around her so I don't really get it, it seems like he goes from one extreme to the other. He has always been a difficult kid but this is getting to be extreme because we no longer have any positive interactions. He doesn't care about GD, he takes obvious enjoyment from misbehaving. He doesn't care about being redirected to something else (and never has). It just seems like we go from one poor scenario to the next until bedtime. So yeah, might be typical 2 year old stuff, but it sure doesn't make parenting him enjoyable.

[Sabo]

Originally Posted by KatieJD

I have to agree with what Jeanine said, some people are just gullible and believe the chain emails and stuff like that.

I do think it is jealousy induced. The other day he came over and headbutted me while I was holding Laine. I thought he was coming over for a kiss and instead he headbutted me in the nose. He also hits, kicks, and slaps Laine. This morning he kicked her in the chest and knocked her down because she stood up next to him and apparently that made him angry or annoyed him. He used to be so good around her so I don't really get it, it seems like he goes from one extreme to the other. He has always been a difficult kid but this is getting to be extreme because we no longer have any positive interactions. He doesn't care about GD, he takes obvious enjoyment from misbehaving. He doesn't care about being redirected to something else (and never has). It just seems like we go from one poor scenario to the next until bedtime. So yeah, might be typical 2 year old stuff, but it sure doesn't make parenting him enjoyable.

I can't think of anything to help except to share the story of my niece and nephew. Nephew (L) is about 18 months older than Niece (L too, but for the sake of this story, I'll call her "R"). SIL was very confused as to why R wasn't learning to walk when R was about 1 yo b/c she seemed to be steady on her feet. Finally, after sil had L out of the house for much of the day, she returned to her dh telling her that R had been walking around all day. As soon as L was back in the house, she went to crawling again. Apparently L really enjoyed pushing R down.

Now, L is almost 6 and R is 4.5. For the past two years, they have been inseparable, hugging and loving on one another like crazy. I know it doesn't make it much easier right now, but I suspect that Liam will become an incredibly sweet older brother . . . crossing my fingers that he crosses that bridge sooner than later.

[*jeanine*]

Jamison's word of the day - bignormous

[Plaid Leopard]

Look, a bignormous princerina!

AT first I thought she was just gulllible, but she adds personal touches. With the Eddie Murphy story she added that when the friend to whom this happened came back from the US, she (my friend) planned a movie night and picked out every Eddie Murphy movie she could find, as a joke.

[*jeanine*]

In that case, I'd go back to Sabo's plan of gently calling her out, just to see how she responds. Might give you some insight into why she's doing it, which might help you decide if she's an acceptable level of crazy

[*jeanine*]

So I'm in the process of moving my "office" () and going through the file cabinets to get rid of old stuff (dog vaccination records from 10 years ago ) to make room for newer-ish stuff which is currently filed using the "pile management system" () and guess what I found?
A postcard from Lindsay
and a postcard from Mommajb
and a postcard from Mighty Mama

[SweetTexasgal]

bignormous princerina!! Love it!! I think Lucy would love it too.

So next week Lucy has an "interview" for a montessori school that I just love. It is 30 minutes and she will go with a teacher/guide and intergrate into a class and interact with the kids. I am not worried about the interacting with the other kids....it is the teacher leading her off that has me I just don't know how she is going to handle it. Back history is that we tried montessori at 19-20 months and it was a NO GO. She freaked. She has developed a lot since then and is hugely independent, but is still my very attached child. I just hope she is ready....

[SweetTexasgal]

So worrying about an interview wasn't enough....Miss Lucy decided to stick half a cashew up her nose last night ...I wasn't positive, but after a sleepless night and many "ouchies Mama" I called her Ped and they sent us straight to the ENT.

Doctor was as gentle as possible and very kind to her...explained everything. She was and I cringed in the corner. Doctor explained to her afterward that no more nuts in the nose. Glad that is over with.

She is taking a much needed nap now and I hope it is a long one....

[mommajb]

Michelle, s I think it is worse for us than them. We have BTDT only it was a playmobil flower and Helen stuck it so far up her nose the ENT couldn't get it we needed a facial reconstructive surgeon over an hour away. The good news is she hasn't stuck anything else up there since and at 7 yo I hope she is past those days. May Lucy have learned her lesson.

Jeanine, postcards from wayback, Wow! I wonder wher mine are, I know I kept them; they are importnat to me because you ladies are.

We went to a preschool play place this morning and I was offered a very small job. I was so flattered I almost took it on the spot but now that I am home I am having second thoughts. I need to figure out if it fits in with my goals because the pay (trade, no $) really isn't worth the time commitment. In any event it is like the children's museum play toddler/preschool room only local or the world's best home playroom x 9. The owner is a retired educator that has done some incredible work with the gifted population and we already knew of each other so it was nice to chat again while my children played like angels. How often do I report that? I am not sure that it was the best part but a really lovely part was when C & L were reluctant to leave they ezxpressed it nicely and she turned off the lights and let them think she was closing for lunch. How awesome is that?

[Plaid Leopard]

Michelle - I hope the interview goes well, and that nothing else ends up in Lucy's nose.

[~Katie~]

Michelle. I hope the interview goes well also, I bet she will surprise you in a good way