May '09 Mamas - Feeling Lucky in March! - Page 2

[OceansEve]

Depends on what you mean by sick. Katie is right most of your coming or going sicknesses get you dehydrated. I was told once if you are taking meds to dry up the gunk for a minor sickness that it can effect your supply. Dunno if thats 100% true but sounds probable to me.

Homecomings - both husbands and moving your family home (ldavis).

for annoyed inlaws and crappy landlords.

boo on sickness, AF and sleep regression


Yep I think that sums up the thread so far

I don't know what the problem is but I've been losing it everyday this last week. DD1 is just pushing every button and then flopping to being sweet as can be so I feel like crap about yelling! AGH! Then to top it off she got soap in her eye this evening and screamed her head off the entire night. I felt so sad she was in pain but by the time it was going on two hours of screaming wanting her to just zip it. By the end of it she was just screaming to be screaming and I am getting so fed up. Between the lack of sleep, being kicked and hit 50 times a day, the constant screaming (including myself), DH giving me crap for the lack of sex life recently, waking up with a headache every morning and feeling like a shtias (yes explitive) mom, for the first time ever I am seriously considering taking a weekend off. One night a month isn't cutting it. I think part of the problem too is the fact my cycle is going on two months, so I'm fairly certain my hormones are off. /vent sorry

[Ldavis24]

I loved how you summed up the thread Oceans! It made me laugh really hard!

Tell your husband he can handle the lack of sex himself Thats usually what I say to DH when he starts harping on that, although fortunately that hasn't happened in a while. Maybe you need a few hours to yourself? I don't know how you could get that but I find my favorite part of the day sometimes is taking a 40 minute shower. I can be totally alone and it is soooo relaxing. A mini break if you can't have a nice big one!

[~Katie~]

I sympathize with you, OE. I don't know what happened to DS but I feel like he's such a difficult child lately. He's all of a sudden being really mean to Laine and pushing and hitting her. Or hitting me. He has always been so good with her so I don't get it. He's definitely jealous and wants more attention from me, but he does the terrible two thing where he refuses to cooperate or do anything with me because of the "if mom suggested it I have to refuse" mentality that two year olds seem to have. Even when he suggests something, if I agree with it he has to do the opposite. Very frustrating.

I'm glad this is the last month because I can't handle another month of this I told DH last night that I'm just going to check out mentally for a while, I know in reality I can't do that because he has no idea how to care for two children, but I wish I could.

[Auraji]

Ah, my patience has been running out too. I find it so hard to deal with dss, he just has this really bad attitude about everything. The other night with cleaning up, he as always didnt want to and basically told me to shut up and leave his room because he just wanted to play. Im still being like, c'mon ill help you, then he starts FREAKING out about me helping him and tells me he can do it by himself, then I leave because he obviously doesnt want my help and then starts freaking out that he wants my help. He spends like half the day crying and screaming about something and I feel like I just live with a headache. His mom on the other hand keeps bringing him here for extra days, drops him off without warning when it's about to be Sophia's naptime, so that means she'll get excited to see him and not sleep and get grumpy. Then she says she'll pick him up at 9am on Sunday (calls the day before to say that he needs to be ready then). DP wakes up to give him a bath and get him ready, Sophia wakes up because of all the activity/noise and I wake up and then he gets picked up after noon.

Sophia doesnt want to sleep. Ldavis, she has always taken at least an hour to fall asleep, now sometimes the bedtime ritual extends 3-4 hours, with me giving up somewhere in the middle. Then she wakes up and sits up and starts crawling or standing, or blabbering. She just wants to be active all day long. So Im usually feeling kinda grumpy because Im not sleeping well

I've been keeping up with the decluterring though and I feel much better. It's all a mess, but I've been getting rid of so maaaany things.

[j_p_i]

Looks like I'm not the only one whose child is having sleep issues lately! For us, I think the past couple nights may be due to being on antibiotics and her belly hurting. She has had diarrhea because of them, and I am so thankful that they are done tomorrow. Hopefully that will help her sleep. However, she is also very close to walking (yikes!) so I think there might be some developmental reasons hindering her sleep.

Who knows, all those hours we spend awake I guess I'm just grasping at straws

Katie - so exciting your DH is coming home soon.

Lauren - that stinks about your landlady not giving you much notice when showing your apartment, but yay for coming to Maine!

Oceans - sounds like you have a lot going on! My DH gives me crap for a lack of sex life too (we still manage at least once a week, which to me is pretty good considering!) and we only have one kid.


Aside from the sleep issues, I am finding this to be a really fun age. Olivia is just so BUSY! Speaking of... she is playing in the dog's water dish so I think that's my cue...

[OceansEve]

for decluttering and getting off abx!

Katie - Well once he gets adjusted he better give you a break! I honestly don't know how you do it! You deserve a week off if anyone ever did!

Anna's sleep schedule has gotten off this last week too. Last night tho I ended up in one of my DD's twin beds w/ her so when Anna woke up she was stuck between me and the wall - haha mama had a smart moment so I just laid there until she decided to nurse again.

Sex life - yeah, I kinda feel bad for DH tho. Before we had kids we were a 10 times minimum a week kind of couple. Then after having DD1 and DD2 is changed to 3-5 times a week. Now he's lucky if I'm interested once a week. I've been popping pumpkin and sunflower seeds like crazy but I just have no sex drive. It's just one of those things tho where the moment I get the girls to sleep I want some time to myself and instead he's like "my turn!" so I get pissed at him for acting like that, then he gets pissed at me for being pissed. So it's just frustrating cause him not understanding makes me want to have sex even less. The romance is just gone I guess We'll be having our seventh anniversary this year in october (ninth just being together) I guess it was just time for romance to set sail

[lil_miss_understood]

Originally Posted by OceansEve

Sex life - yeah, I kinda feel bad for DH tho. Before we had kids we were a 10 times minimum a week kind of couple. Then after having DD1 and DD2 is changed to 3-5 times a week. Now he's lucky if I'm interested once a week. I've been popping pumpkin and sunflower seeds like crazy but I just have no sex drive. It's just one of those things tho where the moment I get the girls to sleep I want some time to myself and instead he's like "my turn!" so I get pissed at him for acting like that, then he gets pissed at me for being pissed. So it's just frustrating cause him not understanding makes me want to have sex even less. The romance is just gone I guess We'll be having our seventh anniversary this year in october (ninth just being together) I guess it was just time for romance to set sail

I hear you all complaining about no sex life, but I'm not seeing it.
Last time we DTD was before DS3 was born. I have absolutely no desire whatsoever. None. Give me a week to sleep and then I might consider it. Maybe.
I blame it all on thyroid issues. And DH (who does VERY little to help with the kids or house).

[OceansEve]

Jacqueline

[Blessed_Mom]

What are some ideas in your arsenal for taking care of your sick bubs? My DD is sick with a runny nose and some elevated temp and she never had one earlier. So I called her ped just now but what would you do?

[Blessed_Mom]

What does abx stand for?

[lil_miss_understood]

Originally Posted by Blessed_Mom

What does abx stand for?

abx = antibiotics
pbx = probiotics

[OceansEve]

sick babe - humidifier or boiling salt water, also boiling peppermint oil in some water does wonders. You could bulb out some of the mucus if you can tolerate the screaming. slight fever and runny nose by themselves isn't too bad, just make sure she is getting plenty of fluid. If she starts getting very lethargic and a very high temp then there's reason to worry.

[~Katie~]

Originally Posted by OceansEve

sick babe - humidifier or boiling salt water, also boiling peppermint oil in some water does wonders. You could bulb out some of the mucus if you can tolerate the screaming. slight fever and runny nose by themselves isn't too bad, just make sure she is getting plenty of fluid. If she starts getting very lethargic and a very high temp then there's reason to worry.

and lots of nursing!

[~Katie~]

Post baby sex life - After DS was born I think we were once a month. It was pretty bad. A big part of it was exhaustion, at the end of the day I just wanted to go off by myself to veg out and go to bed. I think I got into the mentality where sex became annoying and I felt resentful when DH asked about it. I really lost sight of the fact that it is a way to reconnect and be loving and how big of a boost it was to both of our self esteems. He acted like a jerk because he felt bad about himself when I wasn't interested in him like I used to be, it sounds bad but guys are weird like that. And it was a big boost to me, particularly after having a baby, because it was like "Hey, my husband still thinks I'm sexy!" It took me a year after he was born to come to that realization, but it helped our relationship a lot.

[wombato]

OceansEve - Ooh, I've been losing it too. I've got a lot of anger, and I'm pretty sure my mom made me CIO as a baby. I eat extremely well, but no amount of nutrition ever overcomes this small bit of depression that hits every now and then. I EC my son, and we do so well with the poop most of the time...but this week, twice there were poopy diapers, and I just lost it. I found myself "arguing" at him, trying to reason with him. One time it started in the diaper but I got most of it in the BBLP...and then baby started freaking out, yelling and kicking his legs, stood up. He was about to step in the poop. Another time, I wanted him to stand while I cleaned him up from pooping in his diaper, and he sat down, smearing the poop onto the back of his legs and everywhere else. I find myself ranting and asking him to "give me a break" and "why are you doing this to me," which is completely insane. Then I snap out of it and ask him to forgive me. (obviously I only have one kid)

We got hit with a cold. Went to a playgroup and there was a snot-nosed 3 year old who looooves babies following mine around. No playgroups this week because of it I think the crappy feeling and sleep deprivation made me more volatile.

j_p_i - speaking of dog water dish, I was having a particularly bad day the other day (with the cold), and my son comes crawling along and finds the dog's water dish (I usually pick it up). He splashed all the water out, soaking his diaper, his clothes. I said, "I quit." But I didn't really quit my job - even though I felt like it briefly! I just wanted to lie down and sleep!

By the way, my 9 month old is so sociable. No hint of stranger anxiety. I mean, he has certain people he doesn't like holding him, screams instantly. But I take him places...and he takes off crawling, introducing himself to other people!

After my babe got in 6 teeth last month, there was a pause in teething (or so it seemed). And yet he was still having more wakings than ever. No 4+ hour stretch, waking every 1-2 hours for a while. I took dairy out of his diet (not mine - did that months ago with no effect) for 2 weeks (he's still breast fed too). I also kept a detailed log about his food, sleep, mood, etc. All I found is that tomato and lemon do indeed give him rashes, but getting the dairy out had no effect on sleep or anything else.

Then I come to mothering.com and read about the Wonder Years and the 8-9 month sleep regression. Bingo! Lots going on for my little buddy.

Today starts up more teething as the last couple of incisors come in.

[Kelly1101]

Hellish teething. She got her bottom two teeth in at about 6 months with not a lot of fuss. But past week or so, she's getting FOUR teeth in at once, the top two front teeth, and the incisors on either side of the front two. Two of them have cut, one is cutting, and one is still lurking just under the gum. We have not been doing well, it puts her in the worst mood and I feel so helpless. Teething biscuits work to a degree, but she is refusing anything cold/frozen, which she used to like. I've been doing Tylenol at night for the past two nights, and for one night four days ago, just so that she can get a decent sleep. She absolutely will not nap unless it's in the car or she's laying on me, with me being still, so I've been playing a lot of computer games and not getting a lot of cleaning or "me time" (she's sleeping on me right now as a matter of fact). Can't wait for that fourth tooth to cut so that we get a little break.

[lotus.blossom]

ITA about the sex life thing. Its so hard to switch over from mama to sexy mode especially when you just desperately want a few minutes before the inevitable first nightwaking thing happens.

BUT, I have noticed that my desire has increased now that I am back to my monthly cycle. Although on the flip side I can be a wicked B now that I have PMS again. I sure didn't miss that!!

I am having these weird sensations. If I didn't just get my period I would swear that I am pregnant. It feels like little baby kicks. At first I thought it might be gas bubbles but I have figured it out. I think my nerves are starting to come alive since my second c/s. Thats great because its no fun to be numb in the lower ab area. But its a funny sensation. Quite annpoying.

Oh and since we are talking about sick babies I thought I might share somehting my doc told me. I guess its really bad to use menthol products on children. It can cause seizures. Did anyone know that? I found out becasue I asked him if the vicks-on-the-feet thing really worked for coughs.

[lil_miss_understood]

Originally Posted by lotus.blossom

Oh and since we are talking about sick babies I thought I might share somehting my doc told me. I guess its really bad to use menthol products on children. It can cause seizures. Did anyone know that? I found out becasue I asked him if the vicks-on-the-feet thing really worked for coughs.

[Kelly1101]

Originally Posted by lotus.blossom

ITA about the sex life thing. Its so hard to switch over from mama to sexy mode especially when you just desperately want a few minutes before the inevitable first nightwaking thing happens.

Our sex life is so weird right now. We co-sleep, and most of the time my husband sleeps on the sofa so that I don't have to keep climbing over him and waking him up to go to the bathroom 5 times a night (at least). So night-time is pretty much out, which is okay because we've always been "sleep at night" people anyway. But Em has decided no more naps after about 4 pm, which is when my husband gets home from work. And when she goes to sleep at about 9-10pm, I usually conk out with her.

The problem?

If libido is on a scale from 1-10, pre-babies I was at about a 7. Breastfeeding took me down to about a 2 or 3. Pregnancy takes me back up to about 5,893.

I have ALLLLLLL this libido and NEVER the time. Argh.

[~Katie~]

Originally Posted by lotus.blossom

I am having these weird sensations. If I didn't just get my period I would swear that I am pregnant. It feels like little baby kicks. At first I thought it might be gas bubbles but I have figured it out. I think my nerves are starting to come alive since my second c/s. Thats great because its no fun to be numb in the lower ab area. But its a funny sensation. Quite annpoying.
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Post baby this is really common. They're know as phantom kicks, I've had them after both pregnancies. I think it has to do with uterine muscle tone, but it could be psychological as well. I don't think a whole lot is known about it.