wwyd?? Use credit to go to family wedding?? - Page 2

[zebra15]

Instead of spending $800 on the weekend.... why not send them a $100 gift and a note?.... Just because you are invited doesnt mean you have to go.... Im sure the happy couple would much prefer a generous gift and you would prefer to be $700 ahead

[zinemama]

I would send a very nice letter explaining that since dh's pay cut things are just too tight for your family and you will not be able to afford it. I would not put a wedding trip on a credit card. Your family should understand.

[MissMommyNiceNice]

I would find a way to do it cheaper if you really want to go. You don't have to stay at their hotel. We went down to a friends' wedding in Atlanta and didn't stay at the same hotel. Our hotel was waaaay nicer but waaay cheaper b/c I was working for Sheraton at the time, so I got a super sweet room for $40.

If you haven't seen everyone in 7 years, I think now is the time to make your choice - do you still want to be in touch with them? Or have you moved on?

The credit card issue seems secondary to me.

That being said, my husband just had to turn down a close friend when asked to be best man b/c the wedding was going to be in California, and it would drain most of what we've saved plus some. No thanks! I'd rather keep saving for that dream all-inclusive Beaches Resort w/ the kids at Christmas in 2 years. Ahh...

[ParisApril]

I would never spend that much money to go to someone's wedding, much less go into debt for it.

I go to great lengths to not attend weddings as I think they are a massive waste of money. I was married in a park with a few of my loved ones and then we had a small dinner with siblings, parents and grandparents. We used the money we would have spent on a wedding as a down payment for our first home. It was a great investment.

[Thalia]

Originally Posted by zinemama

I would send a very nice letter explaining that since dh's pay cut things are just too tight for your family and you will not be able to afford it. I would not put a wedding trip on a credit card. Your family should understand.

That's what I would do, too. And send a nice gift and a card closer to the event, so that they know you are thinking of them.

[mar123]

I agree with trying to fnd a cheaper way to go.

As far as the comment, if you haven't seen them in seven years, make your decision if you want to move on: This is family- sometimes I go years without seeing family but I don't cut them out of my life. It doesn't mean we don't care for and love each other, we are just separated by distance. Our family does use weddings as mini-reunions. I planned mine both date and time wise specifically so family from out of state would have an easier time making it.

To the OP, good luck with your decision. When I got married, my dad did pay for the rooms for my family from out of state. we had figured it into the cost of the wedding b/c it was important to us for them to be there. I hope you can find a way to be there, if that is what you want.